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Last Thoughts Before Leaving High School
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Posted 3/22/14

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Have you guys ever lost any friends you were close to the most or found their true colors?

If so, state your opinions on here. I have been feeling alone but I'm not depressed if that is what you guys are thinking. I am just trying to tell who are my real friends are right now.


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You are going to lose friends. This is a fact. There is nothing you can do in all of your powers that will change or effect this. EVEN if you and every single one of your buddies, acquaintances, and one night stands end up going to the same University. You. Will. Lose. Friends.

Life happens. Even on the like less than 1% chance that everyone you know goes to the same school, everyone goes for different reasons. Some are literally just going to college to party. Nothing else. Others know precisely what they are doing for their Major(s) and will put every ounce of their time into getting it done. Some don't quite know yet and will be splitting their time between keeping grades up and trying to figure out their next step.

I can keep that list going for probably another page or two. Also not to mention not everyone is going to University, some will go to a 2 year program, some will go straight into working, some will start families, some won't know what to do so they will just creep in mom and pops basement for a few more years.

Pretty much through high school you could say you and all your friends are on one singular path, graduation opens up that path to about a million different individual paths, each person getting their own, some of their paths will be close to yours, but never quite meeting up again, just close enough that you can talk to one another, but always the possibility of it veering off away from you.
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I had mixed feelings.

I knew I would miss my high school, and the carefree life of a young student, but I was also looking forward to going somewhere new and experiencing new things.

I was a late bloomer. I never really broke out of my shell until the later part of high school (mostly senior year), and by that time, so many things had passed me by. I felt like I had missed too many opportunities to do anything in my high school environment. It felt awkward to try and change myself in a place where I was already established as a shy, quiet person who doesn't get involved. By senior year of high school, everyone knows your general personality. They've probably been around you for the majority of your life. There are certain things expected of you, and certain categories you are put in. It all starts to feel very stagnant after a while.

That's why I was elated to finally get out. I felt that I was a vastly different person from when I first entered high school, but I never got a chance to show how I changed because of the stagnant environment I was in. I had plans to move to the city for college, live in an apartment on my own, away from anyone I knew. I was extremely excited. I thought I'd finally get a chance to establish myself as someone new, and I did. I've gotten much more involved on my university campus. I've met new people, made new connections, and experienced new things. I never would have done any of it if I were still stuck in that high school environment.

However, I still somehow miss high school. I miss my friends and my teachers. I miss being a department aide and helping out around the office. I miss chatting carelessly with friends during the school lunch hour. Since high school is so structured, you see most of the same people every day. I had opportunities to talk with my friends every day. There was never a chance for us to lose contact with each other. But now, I haven't talked to most of them since graduation. College is more loosely structured, so any new friends that I make, I have to keep in contact with them outside of classes. That's still a bit hard for me, but I'm getting better at it.

Yes, you will lose friends. It's upsetting, but it's a necessary part of life. You're going to outgrow most of those high school relationships and realize that you may have just hung around with people that were convenient, but that you never actually liked. That's fine. You'll make new friends, and find people you can actually connect with. I think that makes it all worth it.
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Posted 3/22/14

AHBrandon wrote:

When I left high school I made it clear I hated 99% of the people and didn't care about them. It was priceless.


I was the same way although I didn't show it but I think everyone knew it.
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"Bout god damn time."
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my primary concern was that i had to find something to do with my life.. I couldn't just coast through the day then go to football practice anymore..now im 2 years into engineering school.

in hindsight i shouldn't be an engineer, my only motivation is that i'm good at it and it pays well enough to fund my main hobby (classic cars). too bad i still don't know what to do with my life.
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I lost loads of friends after school, you might realise that you only hang out because you have a few things in common or it's just convenient, but you don't have any real connection or understanding with them so you will naturally drift apart. The people who you have a good relationship with should stay in contact though and there are plenty more friends to be made at uni or work or whatever so don't worry

If you do go to uni, I wouldn't recommend getting a girlfriend. Save that until you are settled in a career and focus on your studies!
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My graduation speech: "Forget you all, I'm out of here !"
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i was excited to graduate. i absolutely detested school, to be honest. but now i find myself missing it. it hasn't been that long, but i now wish i took the time to appreciate it more, because this adult thing sucks so far. college is okay, at least.

as for your friends, i can tell you, i don't talk to ANYONE out of high school. i had the intentions of doing so, but now we're just acquaintances on facebook. i tried to talk to them, but they either ignored me, or never held a conversation properly. but i am friends with some of my employees, so it didn't completely suck trying to get a life after high school. i've made some friends from college, too!
i'm sure your friend situation will straighten itself out, too.
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Like others have probably pointed out. Enjoy your time left because once its over, its gone for good. I miss high school.
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Somehow I feel this fits perfectly
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I had so much trouble with my grades that when graduation finally came, I felt relieved, and a little undeserving.
I went to uni at home the year following, so I wasn't too worried about leaving my friends. In fact, I was reunited with my best friend who graduate a year before me. I was pretty confident I could stay in contact with all of my friends too, because only one had left state to go to school. (state scholarships were insane man. Too cheap to leave)

I didn't start to miss high school until halfway through my first year of college. Keeping in contact was hard, and I clung to my old classmates I found in college like glue. The half of my group that went to community college fell out of contact with everyone else, and then had a falling out within themselves that I'm still afraid to ask for the details about. Everyone told a different story, so I don't know who to trust anymore. I think a month after graduation, we must have stopped being friends...I was surprised that a fight happened at all, especially between these two girls who were best friends when we were in school, and I still don't know why it happened. Were the rest of us unknowingly pacifying the situation?

What I really started to miss, surprisingly, were acquaintances. I'd miss seeing them in the hallways, and I regretted not getting closer to everyone. College life wasn't the rosy dream I imagined, so I thought back to all the opportunities I missed when it was easier, even though I knew at the time, I was way too shy, and entirely too burdened with stress to really be the outgoing person I wanted to be.

The year after, I transferred out of state to go to my dream college, and that's what I think I really needed. I left everything behind. A new environment, with people who had the same standing and passion as me, and all the resources I could never have imagined at my fingertips pretty much swept away any homesickness I would have had. *-* I don't think I'd see more people who love animation other than at another art school, or a convention. I love it here.
I tried keeping in contact with my friends, but I think we're either losing interest in each other, or our lives are keeping us too busy. I think about my best friend all the time, but she's already found another best friend, and frankly, I'm starting to find friends in my classmates too. I miss talking to her, but our conversations don't seem natural anymore, and...it was such a gradual change that I think I'm okay with letting go now, even though she was such an important presence to me before.

Also, a side note - if you have trouble socializing in college, let me tell you - everyone shares the same sentiment. My first major class, my professor who was a real mold breaker pretty much structured the class to make it so that if the whole class didn't meet up every Saturday and Sunday to do work together, we were destined to fail. So we got together as a class every week without the professor, and even though it was really quiet at first, people started opening up eventually and we all became friends. Later on, almost everyone confessed that this has never happened before and they actually had a really hard time getting to know people in their other classes.
So you're not the only one who's feeling antisocial. Just strike up a conversation with anyone and everyone when you can. They'll appreciate it. Don't wait for someone to come keep you company, be the person who keeps others company, even if you aren't a social butterfly.

TLDR - Let yourself worry. Let yourself miss everything, and wallow in your loneliness. With time and an open mind, university will wash away all that. You'll find such a wide assortment of people there, and have more freedom than you ever had before to mess around with them. But since you still have a third of your year left, DO EVERYTHING. Leave high school with no regrets. Shave your eyebrows off for graduation for a flashy exit.

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Posted 3/22/14
I was homeschooled, so it was a little different. Had lunch with family and friends though, had a great time as far as losing friends though.... that's what social sites are for
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I was just glad I wouldn't have to return. I skipped prom and my graduation ceremony because I didn't see the point. Myself and a few friends just hung out at one their places instead.
Posted 3/22/14

Lowlights wrote:



Somehow I feel this fits perfectly


Of course it does, I put it there
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I was glad to finish HS. I have kept in touch for real with maybe 5 people from HS that I still see on a regular basis.
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