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Compliments Mistaken As Flirting
Posted 3/25/14
Do you guys have ever felt that when you compliment someone else, do they think it's flirting? It's weird because when a certain person gives another a compliment, that person accidentally takes it as flirting. This usually happens in my town and it is weird as hell. I know it is a bad thing because I have done it a couple of times and some girls thought I was just trying to get their number or taking it the wrong way.

When you are being courteous to one another, they think you're trying to get at them or whatever, and assume all the stupid things about it. I do think that some girls in my town assume it is a bad thing and nobody knows why. I'm not sure if this happens to where you guys live or whatever.

Have you guys ever felt this way at all, or is it just me?
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Posted 3/25/14
Not really. I compliment every woman I see if I get the chance. I comment on how stunning they are, or how lovely their hair is, or how cute things they wear are. It's not flirting or flattery. It is the genuine feelings of a monster who loves all women!
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Posted 3/25/14
Us women are practically bred to not trust anything that comes out of men's mouth, or always think of it as a mean to get something else (i.e. get in our pants). It's effed up but it is what it is. Compliments are nice though, I think the way its "delivered" makes a big difference... I don't know if that makes sense.
Posted 3/25/14

justin9489 wrote:

Us women are practically bred to not trust anything that comes out of men's mouth, or always think of it as a mean to get something else (i.e. get in our pants). It's effed up but it is what it is. Compliments are nice though, I think the way its "delivered" makes a big difference... I don't know if that makes sense.


You're just protecting yourself, so I do not blame you. Besides, some guys who say this do it in a "sweet-talk way" and most girls take it as bullshit.
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Posted 3/25/14
no no compliment me as much as you want slaves i mean friends, if i don't like the compliment you can simply commit seppuku

life is easier that way
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Posted 3/25/14
I've completely given up on complimenting girls. Every time I do they thank me with a "weirdo" or "ew, creeper"

Sometimes they wouldn't say either. They'd just stare at me with an ugly face that made me want to take my compliment back
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Posted 3/25/14
You're so fantastic. I must be dreaming.
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Posted 3/25/14
As a side note, doing this is actually effective for me. I got extra sushi from a sushi chef when I complimented her.
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Posted 3/25/14
Yeah, sometimes I'll give people compliments. Friends, family, new acquaintances, lol even some of my bro's.

I don't often give those compliments, though maybe it's more real that way. All that matters is that you're being sincere about it.

That being said, I do understand that feeling of "Whoa, I think, they think, I'm hitting on them". Yet at a certain point you'll stop caring about that stuff. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

You're not doing anything wrong, & it's not her (or his) fault that they misunderstood. The best you could do is move on & not let it effect ya so bad. If they let it be, & move along with you- Cool! Problem averted. Yet if they keep away because they're creeped out, EVEN BETTER- because you really don't need those kind of people in your life.

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Posted 3/25/14 , edited 3/25/14
This happens to me all the time. Stupid women take offense to me holding a door open for them, or gripe about me picking up a coin they had dropped. I do not bother doing crap like that for stuck up broads anymore. They do not deserve the kindness and think far too highly of themselves. There is a significant difference between being polite and perverted, and it seems that most girls these days are too damn stupid to differentiate between the two.
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Posted 3/25/14

lilliputian_otaku wrote:

This happens to me all the time. Stupid women take offense to me holding a door open for them, or gripe about me picking up a coin they had dropped. I do not bother doing crap like that for stuck up broads anymore. They do not deserve the kindness and think far too highly of themselves. There is a significant difference between being polite and perverted, and it seems that most girls these days are too damn stupid to differentiate between the two.


Please stop comparing specific cases you've experienced to most women, it's just plain silly.
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Posted 3/25/14
Depends on the situation. If someone came up to me in public and told me they liked my hair or something along those lines, I would say thank you and go about my day. I would find it kind that someone would go out of their way to say something. If it's in a club, bar or lounge setting I would be more inclined to think that the individual is trying to strike up a conversation. Between friends, with reasonable boundaries, compliments are just compliments too. However, in all honesty, if my boyfriend were to compliment another girl, particularly right in front of me, my blood would probably be boiling although I would feign a smile and pretend I'm not bothered by it. I admit it's not great to be so sensitive, but that's simply how I am.
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Posted 3/26/14
Flirting is wrong?!
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Posted 3/26/14
I live in a big city so im constantly harrassed by guys who try to hit on me
and yes i deal with people mistaking my kindness as flirting
heck even looking at someone accidently is taken as flirting sometimes here or makes them think that its okay to approach you
thats why most of the times i come off as rude or mean now a days and when i take the train i make zero eye contact with guys -_-
being attractive has its downsides unfortunately.
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Posted 3/26/14

icandybunny wrote:

I live in a big city so im constantly harrassed by guys who try to hit on me
and yes i deal with people mistaking my kindness as flirting
heck even looking at someone accidently is taken as flirting sometimes here or makes them think that its okay to approach you
thats why most of the times i come off as rude or mean now a days and when i take the train i make zero eye contact with guys -_-
being attractive has its downsides unfortunately.


I think the reason why a lot of girls (girls that I know anyway) find it easier to fish for compliments online, is because there's no strings attached to the compliment. You don't have to have that awkward 'I'm not really interested' talk, but still get the ego boost from a compliment.
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