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Post Reply Do you have a completely false identity on the internet?
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I did when I was young.
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Not really, but I'm definitely more interesting online.
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crypticcrunch wrote:


CalifCat wrote:

Are you truthful, and if not, why do you feel the need to not be your true self? And what persona have you created for yourself to either be accepted or to fool someone. And when you were found out, did you just vanish, or apologize and come clean?


I posted, and then reread this, and I'm still not totally sure what you mean.

If you were faking something, then you, for your own good, should come clean if you can, but don't give away the store. No one on the internet, especially someone you were fooling, needs to know who you "really" are. Who you "really" are is information that leads to your credit card numbers or home address or really scary stuff. That includes your real name.

It's enough to say the person they thought you were isn't real, and say you are sorry if you hurt them. Don't be surprised if they don't trust you fully on that, either.

It clearly bothers you, which is good. It should. It means you are fully human. People who don't feel that aren't even worth pitying.

But the bottom line is, the more I read this, I"m thinking, don't you mean right now? What are you not telling us asking these hypotheticals? It's so vague, I have no idea how to answer beyond that. Or rather, I could write a book with all the potential answers, and it wouldn't be enough to answer everything that comes to mind in 10 minutes of writing this.

I'd suggest you ask elsewhere than the forums, to someone you can tell the whole story to. Until you can tell the whole story, I'd just suggest you don't go where you were fooling people for now. It'd be best if you pick the most responsible and trustworthy person you know IRL. Or people.

Just my opinion, which is pretty vague because I honestly have almost no information here.


Yes, I was presenting a hypothetical situation, for instance people telling you things about themselves, and it turning out to be all lies, or withholding certain pertinent details that could affect the relationship you already have developed with them...or are developing. I knew a guy at one time some years ago, who created an entire fake personal life, and then one day, he disappeared for about a week, and I received an email from his mother saying he had died. ( well one of the things he had told me was that he had no mother, she had died!)
So, I was like WOW, you're alive?!! etc etc....I mean the lies he told were elaborate and after finding out the truth,it frankly shocked me.
This is just an example, and now it isn't so vague...as far as why I asked the question and created the forum thread.
BTW, thanks for all your replies

It wasn't really a catfish situation because he was "Just" my friend, and there was no romantic interest. I guess he just felt the need to create some fantastic life for himself, when in reality, it was so far from the truth.
I have even wondered now, if he is even dead.
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"Fake" persona? How am I suppose to come up with a fake persona when I don't know what my "true" one is.

If you are asking whether I hide anything online, then only my address and real name.

Reason for hiding my address- Doubt there's a point in even stating it, though I doubt anything would happen if I gave it out, I'm a fairly cautious person.

Reason for hiding my real name- rather than hiding it, I just prefer my self-given name more so I give that one out. I don't even call myself by my real name anymore.
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I hide my personality in RL.
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no. I hate it when people assume i'm straight or a female on the internet.

hence this username.



(I usually use avatars of hot men, and when I use another username, people think I'm THE hot guy in the avatar... which is annoying)
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I feel like i act like my real self. I'm honest, though i do keep certain personal information hidden from people. not even to the closest of friends i make on here know any of that.
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No. I hate lying. I'm 99.9% truthful. If I don't feel comfortable with giving out certain information, I won't give it. Chances are if I ever got a stalker, they wouldn't have an enjoyable time stalking me. And If they ever cross lines that shouldn't be crossed.. I have a good lawyer.
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What I say about myself is true. How I act here is how I act in reality.
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I've never used a false persona, but I do tend to use a different name.
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Well I just use my real life picture on pretty much everything. Is it safe? Yeah why not. Nobody is learning anything about me based on my picture other than what I look like in RL. I use my real picture simply because it is easier to remember a person by if you know what they really look like, rather than an avatar they change every other week to a gender that is the complete opposite of theirs. Not to mention the fact that it is an animated character. Granted a lot of people do not care to have the internet see their real face, but I don't care. The only "false identity" I use is my name. Obviously I am not Asian so my name is not Tomoya, and as for the number, it is my birthday.

As for my personality, why wouldn't I act the same on here as I do in real life? If you are hiding behind a fake picture and a fake name then your personality is all you have left for identity! If you change that too, you are no better than a Google spam bot.
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I have several other usernames i use on the internet as alternate me's. Some stuff I need to keep private.
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CalifCat wrote:

Yes, I was presenting a hypothetical situation, for instance people telling you things about themselves, and it turning out to be all lies, or withholding certain pertinent details that could affect the relationship you already have developed with them...or are developing. I knew a guy at one time some years ago, who created an entire fake personal life, and then one day, he disappeared for about a week, and I received an email from his mother saying he had died. ( well one of the things he had told me was that he had no mother, she had died!)
So, I was like WOW, you're alive?!! etc etc....I mean the lies he told were elaborate and after finding out the truth,it frankly shocked me.
This is just an example, and now it isn't so vague...as far as why I asked the question and created the forum thread.
BTW, thanks for all your replies

It wasn't really a catfish situation because he was "Just" my friend, and there was no romantic interest. I guess he just felt the need to create some fantastic life for himself, when in reality, it was so far from the truth.
I have even wondered now, if he is even dead.


Ah, I assumed you were talking about yourself here. I don't know why... I suppose it was late when I wrote my reply! My apologies for that.

Of course, you are most welcome to my replies. It's a nice distraction, this forum. I enjoy it. If I fuss, it's because I'm a hopeless mother hen at times.

Yes, why would you bother? A good question. I can't offer much insight. There are probably as many reasons for trolling as their are reasons for other sorts of hypocritical behavior.

Pretenses like that are common among those who feel dis-empowered or angry. Perhaps this is a good place to ask, I'm sure a large minority of IDs here are the product of single persons online, looking to make some sort of absurd "point" to their social groups or themselves. But I wouldn't rely on their honest answers. Still, I'm sure many people here are real, and honest as people can be.

Only by having access to the server logs and time to look could you figure out which ones were which, but then you'd need to see who they were in real life to build an understanding. My guess is, however, in the end you'd find it a rather alienating experience, where you could not sympathize much.

As a clinical matter, I suppose it doesn't matter much as long as they don't actually stray into the criminal. But if you are going to start casually messing with stranger's heads, you probably would be better off starting by cleaning up your own. Not that a determined troll is interested in the opinions of others, generally, except by extension to their own self image.

At which point I will take my own advice, since I'm a busybody of the first order. I generally restrain myself but somehow I impulsively responded. I'm sure if I had read it in the morning, I would have understood your question wasn't what I thought. An object lesson for me, I wish I could break old habits more easily that that. I can only try. Wait a day at least before butting in. No fool like an old one, it's true as I've learned.

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I'm not sure really, how I appear online and how I appear offline are very different, and so long as I use an alias and retain identifying details to myself (which I am probably a bit too loose with , neither life will tend to meet.

Putting this into perspective, online, I know members of other online communities that have figured out who I am on say... this forum (this is a remade account btw, I took advantage of my card expiry to create a new account under a different name, last one was too risky), mearly by my way of talking, and a few bits of similar info in my profile (which wasn't much), spite using a different alias/name and avatar.

But otherwise, on boards with people I know from real life, even letting slip details (and even using info from sources close to both of us only a limited number of people would know of), not one person has managed to put me to my account(s).

... I'm still not sure if I like it this way though, but after multiple stalkers (shudders at memories of the groin shots that made it to my mailbox), 2 real world relationship requests, and one offer of marriage, I'm kinda glad that the two lives of me are and still remain unlinked.
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The most I give out is my Real First name and maybe my skype.
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