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How do you get over ex's?
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Posted 3/30/14

Gyava wrote:

HOW? YOU ASK PEOPLE ON CRUNCHYROLL OF COURSE


It's amazing because the sarcastic advice is usually as good or better than the real advice.
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To be brutally honest, at the end of a real relationship, you don't.
You just get by, not over.
Until you forget. We always do, eventually.
One day you'll wake up, but this time, they won't be the first thing in your mind.
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shinobugami wrote:

To be brutally honest, at the end of a real relationship, you don't.
You just get by, not over.
Until you forget. We always do, eventually.
One day you'll wake up, but this time, they won't be the first thing in your mind.


so sad
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Sadness is really all there is relating to an ended relationship.
Sure, you look back and smile, but you're tearing apart in the inside, since you know those experiences are gone, now nothing but memories.

On a less pessimistic note, hey, at least you have something to remember and feel sad about. That's what makes us human.
Posted 3/31/14
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I probably commented on this already. Oh well. Have a few glasses of rum. Not shots, not doubles, but glasses of rum on the rocks... Or just rum if you don't want water polluting your Bacardi. Retrieve your balls from your ex's purse and move on.
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Posted 3/31/14
you don't.


It's an itch you can't reach.
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Posted 3/31/14
By waiting for someone else to come along I guess.
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Time was the answer for me, and it helps to find another partner. That way you won't be tempted to go back.
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As much as I try, I have trouble forming any sort of significant emotional connection with most people I date, so there's never really any need. But in the case that a breakup or whatever does really hurt me, I just sulk around until I start feeling better.
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Depends on the how serious the relationship was I suppose, and how the relationship ended.
You can't really get over them...but to move on in life. There are no fast or easy solutions. Later on, your past relationships just become a distant memory. You look back and learn from them.

But to ease the hurt and pain, it is a good idea to connect with friends, spend your time doing things you like...just occupy your mind with something else. But everyone has their own way with dealing with it.
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All depends on the person and the scenario in which they split with someone. Time is a healer, but there are certain things you can do on top to help your recovery. I don't like to say that they'll speed up your recovery, as it's not a case of speed when trying to get yourself back to where you are, it's more of a transition.

So...

Get in touch with your hobbies again.

Sounds like a silly thing to say, but sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget a lot about themselves, and often sacrifice things that make them happy, just to make the SO happy. This is a wrong move, and if you have to constantly sacrifice things for the sake of the SO, the relationship is a relationshit already. Is there a game she hated you playing? Fuck it, play the game. Not allowed to drink on sundays? Fuck it, have a beer. Do what makes YOU happy, as this is ultimately the greatest gift of being single, and the greatest gift of humanity itself.

Remember the bad times, not just the good.

We often have a habit of reminiscing about the good times, wondering what the hell happened for the realtionship to reach the stage it's at, but truth is that there were definitely bad times. I'm all for remembering the good times, regardless of what people believe, as I believe they are special moments in your life and why should you forget them? But take it with a pinch of salt, because there are probably a lot more bad memories than good. You broke up for a reason, and don't let yourself be blinded by memories.

Forgive yourself.

Please. You may be, you may not be the person to blame, but let things go. What has happened has happened. Even if you were a dick, forgive yourself. There is no point hating yourself because of what you have done/said, or if you could have said something better that may or may not have changed the outcome. At the end of the day, we can't change the past, so learn from mistakes, forgive yourself, and use your past experience to help you with anything that may come to you in the future.

Let go, move on, and enjoy the ride.

Going back to the forgive yourself part, please remember that you're only young. You will most likely experience many more heartbreaks etc, but that's part of life. I've had my heart broken many times, but I've never let it get me down. Part of me will always love my ex, but I have let go. Remember the old saying about if she was yours, she'd come back? Yeah, get that idea into your head, but don't live by it, hoping she will. Time passes us by, and we should live in the present. The present is that you're now single. Being single isn't as bad as the faggots on Tumblr like to disagree on. It's a sense of freedom. Time is yours, all your money is yours, no worrying about whether the t-shirt you're about to buy will be liked by the SO. Moving on isn't easy, but it takes time. Carry on living life, enjoying what you do, and not worrying where certain roads will take you. It's about the journey, not the location, so progress and get more exp points by trying new things.

Final Thoughts.

You're young, and you've got a lot of time ahead of you. It sounds cliche, but there's tons of women out there. Don't go looking, as when the time is right, love will find you. So in the meantime, knuckle down and focus on yourself - Be it hobbies, work, studying, whatever. I have every bit of faith that you will overcome this bad time in your life, but hey, that's life. We all have those times, so keep your chin up mate.
Posted 4/2/14
I put an x by the name.
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Posted 4/2/14
By smashing my head into a wall while telling myself it's over, just get over it!
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