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Phersu 
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Posted 4/2/14
Do you think this is an appropriate punishment for misbehaving children? Or is there a better way?

Personally, I think spanking is reserved for the women I love.
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Posted 4/2/14 , edited 4/2/14
If you use violence on/against your child then they'll grow up only to use more violence when they get older.


Phersu wrote:
Personally, I think spanking is reserved for the women I love.


Also, I agree whit you on that!
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Depends, it doesn't work all the time. Saying that you turned out fine being thrown against the wall as a child neglects the rest of the people that suffered brain injuries.
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Oh god! This is such a touchy subject.
Posted 4/2/14
I don't really think so (I guess partially because my aunts got my mom to stop giving me spankings and just result to punishments that don't involve physical contact). I mean, it's your decision how to raise your children, but I wouldn't say it's necessary.

My aunts used to make me write one or two paragraph long essays whenever I acted out back in elementary school. I'd also have my video games and other things taken away from me.
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no... don't believe in any physical punishment...

I think the "no dessert" punishment is a reasonable one... and good for the kid's health too.



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It is a very controversial question. Personally I was smacked around either the backside or my face depending on how my mother felt, but also when I was very young (around the age of five) I would be locked into a dark room for "reflection time" which has since given me a severe disliking towards darkness. My story is a good example of this sort of punishment being too strong and negative. If I had a child I would talk things through with them rather than going straight to the punishment. Usually when a child does something that is considered naughty enough to require such severe punishment it's for a reason. Parents that hit their children don't seem to actually talk and work things out, they just jump to the end which doesn't help anyone.

However, on the other side of the argument I also know that not all children will sit down and talk to their parents. Some try to dominate their parents rather than the other way around and then you have a child/youth that becomes uncontrollable. A smack seems like a quick and easy solution to bring order into the house, acting as a drastic last measure.

I don't believe there is a right or wrong to this question in such simple terms.
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'Eat your broccoli or no more video games for you, mister' is the best method for controlling modern idiot kids.
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The thoughts that followed when I read the title of this thread just shows how much of a pervert I am...........
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I heard young kids who gets spanked a lot grow up to have lower IQs.
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It honestly depends on how your child behaves. If you have literally tried everything you can in order to stop your child from misbehaving, then resorting to spanking is probably your best bet. You can only go so far w/o physical punishment after all...
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Posted 4/2/14
Deliberately sparking a flame war, Phersu? Naughty, naughty.
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Only when the children are very young. If you spank a 7-year-old, for example, what lesson are you really teaching them?
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A good slap on the wrist is sometimes what a child needs. I was raised with that sort of discipline, and it definitely teaches you what's right and what's wrong. The only reason it's frowned upon is because society believes that it leads to the child being traumatized, and that it's a load of tosh.
Posted 4/2/14 , edited 4/2/14
I don't think it's appropriate to hit a child or does much good for 99% of situations. My father back handed me across the face when I was young and that didn't correct my behavior, that just made me hate him for a while. I think what hitting a kid does is just teaches them that violence trumps patience. When my dad hit me I didn't learn to speak more respectful to him, I just learned for the first time in my life what it feels like to want to hit someone back.

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