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i hear ya on the fear. thats hard. and knowing its a problem is a HUGE step forward. now you can plan.
truth be told, im in the same boat, kinda. (depression + no social life + 115F tempatures)
try standing in the sun for a few minutes. it really helped me when i had insomnia real bad.

you might try and see if you have depression. it can sneak up on you with out you ever noticing anythings wrong.

'im tired today'
'im just in a funk'
'im just lazy'
'its just the way i am'
'life suck anyways'
'i just dont care'
(BTW, all things ive said in the past!)

what ever you do, hang in there, and take it day by day.

hope my .02 helps
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Move forward or stagnant. Your choice.
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nemoskull wrote:

i hear ya on the fear. thats hard. and knowing its a problem is a HUGE step forward. now you can plan.
truth be told, im in the same boat, kinda. (depression + no social life + 115F tempatures)
try standing in the sun for a few minutes. it really helped me when i had insomnia real bad.

you might try and see if you have depression. it can sneak up on you with out you ever noticing anythings wrong.

'im tired today'
'im just in a funk'
'im just lazy'
'its just the way i am'
'life suck anyways'
'i just dont care'
(BTW, all things ive said in the past!)

what ever you do, hang in there, and take it day by day.

hope my .02 helps


thank you and it does and day by day is all i can do i will keep updated on my progress with this.
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Posted 4/13/14
The outernet is scary, yes. But you're 29, get over it.
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A forum of excuses.
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I'm going through something similar after graduating from high school. I was supposed to go to college, sh@# happens. I leave home to work out of state. Come back a couple of months later to go to college, more sh@# happens. Can't find a job in my hometown, spent the last few months as a lazy bum. I don't even keep in contact with my high school friends. I go outside when I need to. Recently I got tired of sitting around and decided to do something productive. I started working out, I started self teaching myself Japanese, and I've been researching how the stock market works. Everyone goes through one or two funks in their lives so you are not alone.
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Good luck~
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What has helped me over the years is to counter all my negative thoughts with positive ones. I then attempt to live out a positive life and keep telling myself, "I can do it!"

It's been helping. At first, it was a rocky start. I always thought of everything in a negative, pessimistic way. "I'm a failure. I am not capable of doing what I have been working for all these years." However, I started to counter the negative thoughts by continually looking at what I was doing in a positive perspective and kept encouraging myself (also, hanging around positive and confident people helps a lot! it kind of rubs off on you). Now I'm happy and confident in my abilities

We all have our ups and downs in life, but we are also all capable of getting through the lows. You can do this!
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yeah, positive thinking is a must, or at least not thinking negitive.
as for those who say its an excuse, you have never been there if you say that.

lol, love the term, the OUTERNET!
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wish you the best of luck my dear sir
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It takes alot of courage to open up like that, so cheers to that. About the other stuff, I don't know, you can not think and just do, or think and be stuck. I havent quite figured it out myself. I'll let you know when I do.
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EVERYONE has dealt with some form of the problem you are struggling with at some point in their lives. Life is scary, life can be unfair, life can knock you down, but life can be the most beautiful thing as well. Your perspective is what shapes your life - regardless of your extenuating cirumstances. Either you can view life through a pessimistic lens...or take all the love and support that your children and wife surround you with, and shape a positive view of life from that. There's no shame in what you are going through. However, there is shame in you not allowing yourself to live a happy life and sharing your happiness with others. Take things one step at a time and keep pushing forward. Good luck.
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Bushidou777 wrote:

It is scary to be honest i have alot of responsibilities that i have to take care of and i don't becouse of fear and laziness.
I was hoping after months i would be forced to get out and work but nothing she is to nice and a pushover,If i dont do this I will never do it until it is to late.This has effected my whole life,wife, kids and friends,I have no friends becouse i would stop hanging out to sit and play games all day.I am doing this becouse i really have no one to talk to and being judged and made fun off is fine this is the only way i can vent now.


You are not alone, there are a lot of people who have anxiety disorders and panic attacks. There are also support groups you can find and talk through your fears with. Do what you fear and brave the sensation, because it is mostly the sensations you are fearing, and not the actual thing. Try and say to yourself, this is distressing, but not dangerous. Command your muscles to bear the discomfort each step you take, and it will lessen each time you leave the house over time. Trust me, there are people out there who will not judge you and they will understand.
Also there are breathing techniques you can learn to help you calm down. Wish you the best.
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You will eventually realize that the fears you have only exist in your head. You can live in a cozy little bubble but you will never be happy. I know it's not easy to do this but face your fears and keep moving on.
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Good Luck with reigning your life back in!
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