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First time leaving the house in months after leaving job at Gamestop
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At the end of the day I just think about one of the many motivational phrases uttered by Sean Payton (who likely learned from Bill Parcells)... in this particular case I just go with "Control what you can control and don't worry about the rest, just do your job."

I'm tough and I have been through this major injury funk before and my confidence is pointing up. I know at heart that I am still a beast and I just gotta take one step at a time to get my life back. (though any NFL plans are likely gone now- if I can regain my explosiveness after this is done healing I may give it another shot at the regional combines) I have my backup plans... I can do plumbing and moonlight on game programming.

Now I just need to find out where will I go to meet new people... I need some friends... a companion. My old friends are lazy lol if they aren't working they just wanna sit down and drink beer... boring...
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Just don't get held hostage while buying a new keyboard
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jordancharacter wrote:

Just don't get held hostage while buying a new keyboard


Maybe I should make a program to deal with situations like that... hmm... acquiring a license for some motion sensing and facial and object recognition software, voice recognition software, setting up a database to bank and organize the collected data, voice overs, only about 20 years worth of scripting logic branches and loops... should only take 20yrs and maybe $1B... I wonder what the script latency would be like? While I am at it maybe I should write it in http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brainfuck
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Posted 4/14/14

GreatLordBalzak wrote:


jordancharacter wrote:

Just don't get held hostage while buying a new keyboard


Maybe I should make a program to deal with situations like that... hmm... acquiring a license for some motion sensing and facial and object recognition software, voice recognition software, setting up a database to bank and organize the collected data, voice overs, only about 20 years worth of scripting logic branches and loops... should only take 20yrs and maybe $1B... I wonder what the script latency would be like? While I am at it maybe I should write it in http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brainfuck


Just write it in C++, you can make it just as incomprehensible but people will treat it as a serious project.

Also, this thread has me wondering, "if someone held a hikikomori convention, would anyone come?"
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Posted 4/14/14
At least you know & accepted that you have a problem that is a first step. I honestly cant relate so my advice might not be of no help but maybe some encouraging words might help. Its not to late to change... break out of that closed shell & see whats waiting for you out there. Not all of it will be good & when all hope seems lost please do not give up so easily. Keep on fighting, keep your head up high & through all the hardships you will go through i am positive the Good times will come rolling on their own. Best of luck buddy
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You have realized there is a problem. You have accepted that it must be dealt with somehow. You have realized that you need to get help for it. These are all good and necessary steps. Have you tried sitting down with your wife and asking her to help you move past this? If you feel like you need some outside motivation and support to get started, it might be good to ask for it. The important thing now is to set goals and try to move toward them. They can be very small ones, that's a-okay. The goal is to try for forward momentum. There will be backslides, and days where you seem frozen in time, but so long as you set goals and keep trying to move toward them you can pull ahead of this. Just don't be afraid to ask for the help you need. Many people who might help you may not feel comfortable doing so without some sign you want help.

There is a paraphrasing of an old Chinese proverb that I am rather fond of, "Be not afraid of going slowly, but only of standing still."

As to "hikikomori conventions", wouldn't that take place in something like Second Life or a forum?
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Thank you i have been doing alot better i wont lie and say it is super easy but it is possible with the right support.
one day at a time for real.
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I have a similar problem at the moment. I am currently unemployed, and have no reason to leave the house. It's not that i don't want to leave the house, it's just that i have no reason to leave, and when i do have a reason to leave, i can't find the energy to go. Sometimes i just feel like I'm lazy, but i don't think it is. It gets me down alot of the time, as i usually can't find the motivation to get up and go outside.
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Don't worry My Friend...Agoraphobia is NO laughing matter. I too suffer from this, and as hard as it is to "break the habit", By Gosh I am trying My best. Just take small steps...EVERY step in the right, tough direction, is a POSITIVE step! And after You do it, You'll get this incredible natural High, that beats any synthetic in the World.

Best of luck to You...And Anyone with Agoraphobia who would ever like to speak, by all means, feel free to Message Me!
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Posted 5/27/14
Obviously someone is enabling or you wouldn't have a place to live. That person needs to kick you in the butt.
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bluerunner wrote:

Obviously someone is enabling or you wouldn't have a place to live. That person needs to kick you in the butt.


The OP doesn't need someone like you posting something like that. They have already posted saying that they are already improving. A post like that really isn't helping
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Go get em'!
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Posted 5/27/14
just don't have a mekakucity actors moment
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26 / M / San Diego, CA
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Posted 5/27/14
This is a joke thread right? Please tell me it is.
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Posted 5/27/14

j226109 wrote:

This is a joke thread right? Please tell me it is.


Nope!

Many people are raised into a system in which they are forced to stay in close proximity of many people at the same time and interaction is inevitable and natural. When someone is suddenly removed from the system for a prolonged time they might not have the experience to know how to deal with that. This is especially the case in areas with lower population density. In the case of the OP this was a prolonged period without work and in my own I only ever work in a 3 man crew with the same two people every day (both of them over 60) so there is a bit of a disconnect there from society.

Sometimes all it takes is to talk your problems out. Knowing that you are not alone however insignificant that might be can bolster your confidence.

All we can really do is try to move forward with confidence. Myself, I am of a "never stop improving" mindset and I will continue to work hard and do what I do...
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