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Demotivation - How Do You Deal With It?
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I find myself increasingly demotivated to do anything.

I have books that I have bought months ago that I haven't even picked up.

I want to watch anime but can't be bothered to find a new series and the ones that I have started, I just can't continue, even though I know that I will enjoy them.

I don't have any games that I want to play.



What do you do when you feel like this?

Posted 4/16/14
What do I do when I don't feel like doing anything?...Nothing at all. Or I sleep. Sleep is a good one.
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Hmmm. Well, I dropped out of college and joined the military lol.... Although I will be going back. I guess I kind of just needed a break from school, my family, and Sacramento. I was tired of doing the same thing every day, seeing the same sights every day... Shit, I've stayed within a 1 and a half hour driving radius for the past 10 years of my life.

You should just take a vacation somewhere far from where you live, have fun, meet new people, and think hard about how precious your life is, and what you want to be doing in the future.

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Once you start getting things done, and get past the initial mental barrier, getting stuff done is a positive feedback cycle. So what you need to do is do whatever you can, tell yourself whatever lies you need to hear, to convince yourself to get off your ass and DO THE THING!

Not that the only things that can convince someone to DO THE THING are lies, far from it, I'm just trying to emphasize the importance of initially getting yourself to DO THE THING.

On which note: DO THE THING! NOW!

Oh, also I use HabitRPG, which like gamifies getting stuff done and making good habits.
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AvidReader110 wrote:

I find myself increasingly demotivated to do anything.

I have books that I have bought months ago that I haven't even picked up.

I want to watch anime but can't be bothered to find a new series and the ones that I have started, I just can't continue, even though I know that I will enjoy them.

I don't have any games that I want to play.



What do you do when you feel like this?



Try not and get Yourself TOO awful down about it, My Friend. Trust Me, We've ALL been there. I kinda come in and out from it several times a Day; damned Panic Disorder & Agoraphobia. It's terrible. But I always try and tell Myself...I believe that the good times that I HAVE had in My Life, and if I stick around a little bit longer without possibly doing something I could later regret, I believe indeed that more good times and favor shall be brought down for Me to enjoy...once again adding more metaphorical weight on the POSITIVE side of life, rather than the Negative.

Try Your best and do some exercises; Make Yourself get out of the House, and at the very least take a short walk around Your Block or the like? Just something that will help to get that Dopamine and Serotonin flowing back throughout Your system. You can make it Partner, I certainly believe in You. And even though I don't know You, You seem like quite the level headed Guy. You're just in a funk. A pool of stagnation, I like to call it.

Make sure and try Your best Man!

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Try not and get Yourself TOO awful down about it, My Friend. Trust Me, We've ALL been there. I kinda come in and out from it several times a Day; damned Panic Disorder & Agoraphobia. It's terrible. But I always try and tell Myself...I believe that the good times that I HAVE had in My Life, and if I stick around a little bit longer without possibly doing something I could later regret, I believe indeed that more good times and favor shall be brought down for Me to enjoy...once again adding more metaphorical weight on the POSITIVE side of life, rather than the Negative.

Try Your best and do some exercises; Make Yourself get out of the House, and at the very least take a short walk around Your Block or the like? Just something that will help to get that Dopamine and Serotonin flowing back throughout Your system. You can make it Partner, I certainly believe in You. And even though I don't know You, You seem like quite the level headed Guy. You're just in a funk. A pool of stagnation, I like to call it.

Make sure and try Your best Man!


It's not that I don't enjoy doing anything more the fact that I cannot find any stimulation in anything I do.

For me, I will enjoy the hell out of anything that can get me thinking or give me some form of entertainment. But if I find it boring or tedious I just can't seem to enjoy it. That was part of the reason why I dropped out of school last year (although I'm back in right now and in a different school).

I always attribute my problems with stimulation to my gifted intelligence. I just think on a different level than most other people.




Rowan93 wrote:

Once you start getting things done, and get past the initial mental barrier, getting stuff done is a positive feedback cycle. So what you need to do is do whatever you can, tell yourself whatever lies you need to hear, to convince yourself to get off your ass and DO THE THING!

Not that the only things that can convince someone to DO THE THING are lies, far from it, I'm just trying to emphasize the importance of initially getting yourself to DO THE THING.

On which note: DO THE THING! NOW!

Oh, also I use HabitRPG, which like gamifies getting stuff done and making good habits.


See, there is a small problem with habit building tools.

I just can't get into the habit of using them.

As for self-motivation, I can do it when I want to, but only when I find something new or interesting. What I'm actually seeking is the stimulation from actually doing something. An example of this would be puzzling out a difficult situation in a game (Which is why I love games like Dark Souls so much). The act of trying to figure out how I should go about doing things is what is driving me in that situation. Otherwise I just go through the motions and end up with the same result, albeit with less enthusiasm.
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i agree with the person saying do the thing.

i have many days where i just totally lose enjoyment in everything i'd normally love. all i do is lay in bed like..... what now... and usually end up asleep.

but i find that just ignoring your brain telling you not to do it or telling you that you cant be bothered or dont want to, always helps.

dont think, just do. force yourself to find a new series, force yourself to pick up a book for 20 minutes, force yourself to get into something. if you really wanna shake off the problem and demotivation, the only way you can do that is literally by doing it..... theres no magic motivation spells so JUST DO THE THING. SEE HOW IT GOES.
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It's not that I don't enjoy doing anything more the fact that I cannot find any stimulation in anything I do.


Okay, just a question. And just stating this fact up front, Medication is not a CURE-ALL, especially those known as Stimulants. But perhaps a small dose of something like Adderall or Ritalin, or even something which is MUCH weaker, but can still work wonders for those who don't normally take Medications. It's called Phentermine. Where Adderall, Dexedrine and Ritalin are Schedule 2 Medications...the MOST restricted and considered most addictive Pharmacological substances that despite the risk of addiction, still have a Medical value to them. They're in the same class as Oxycontin, and all that jazz.

Phentermine, while still a controlled substance is only Schedule 4. Which would be much easier to get a Prescription for. But like I said, possibly a little Medication taken properly during Your Day...perhaps not even EVERYDAY...Just those in which You feel You are definitely going to need a bit of help. And don't be ashamed, either of possibly needing some type of Medication to function a bit better. Just do whats best for You, My Friend. :)

Here's You a link to what, IF IT'S NOT ADD, something it COULD possibly be! **DOWN BELOW** After all, I guess You would say that I AM still in School for Medicine...I've met with many great Professors so if You decide to possibly take My advice and go see a Psychiatrist in Your area, I'll definitely add You and keep up with Your progress. If not, that's a choice too. HOWEVER You choose to make Your turnaround, I'll be rooting for You, even though I'm but an Anonymous face in the Crowd who wishes the best for Everyone...well, ALMOST Everyone He meets.

**If You mention this, along with a History of ADD, You'd be in like Flynn.** http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Excessive_daytime_sleepiness

All the best!
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Posted 4/16/14
I go to sleep, when I wake up I'm normally more motivated.
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Posted 4/16/14

x-Cellar_Door-x wrote:



I think you may have misinterpreted what I meant by stimulation.

As far as I know, I don't think I'll be needing any more meds other than my Asthma inhalers.

But to explain more about my need for stimulation: It's more about the amount of interest I have in what I'm doing. But if I come across something, Like for instance, a puzzle or a difficult problem or just something new to learn about, I'm all over it.

As for the link You recommended, I don't think it's EDI because I don't find myself regularly tired and the only times that I sleep during the day are because of the nights that I stay up to in the early hours of the morning.

But thanks for the Advice.
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Find the underlying cause of your indifference and destroy it. I don't live in your shoes, so I can't exactly find it. This type of apathy doesn't normally come out of nowhere.
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When I don't feel like doing anything I drink tea.
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I usually try to switch things up when I'm demotivated. If I was working on a program, I pick up a lump of clay and try sculpting something. If I was making armor patterns, I try mowing the lawn. Anything that is vastly different from the stuff I'd been stuck in a rut is the best medicine for me.

The other thing I try is breaking down the task into parts. Lawn looks too big to mow? Cut some lines into it to section off smaller parts, so I can feel accomplished when they are individually done.. and eventually the whole thing is complete. Writing a story and not sure how you'll finish? Start picking points where elements happen - break it into start / middle / end, then break start/middle into smaller bits, and so on, until all you have to write is a paragraph.. and then be willing to feel happy that you finished that paragraph. Maybe another paragraph after that will feel good, too, or a paragraph elsewhere in the story seems interesting to tackle.
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AvidReader110 wrote:

I find myself increasingly demotivated to do anything.

I have books that I have bought months ago that I haven't even picked up.

I want to watch anime but can't be bothered to find a new series and the ones that I have started, I just can't continue, even though I know that I will enjoy them.

I don't have any games that I want to play.



What do you do when you feel like this?



Sad to say I don't have an answer, just wanted to say that I feel your pain so badly. Happens to me all the time. T__T
Will say, if it's possible for you, stop thinking about much. It is usually on days when my brain is half-dead that I end up doing the most of what I want to.

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I feel ya and that's why I also love games like DkS.

If you can't get yourself to do something just don't do it. I usually just go jogging or have fun with my friends and then start doing that whatever feels unstimulating.
I just usually force myself into doing something until I start getting enjoyment, it's kinda feels weird when I must force myself to enjoy a movie,game or a book. Listening "intense" music helps too.
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