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24 / M / San Diego, CA
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Posted 4/18/14
Being single has allowed me to buy myself more things for myself then when i wasn't, and lets me do whatever I want. Although I do miss having someone there to talk to or see on a consistent basis. Right now I'd rather have some one to talk and be with than the extra money haha.
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1) I don't feel an overbearing need to pursue a relationship when I am single.
2) I enter a relationship with someone when she and I enjoy a mutual attraction.

I suppose that there are different benefits to both but it is just that simple for me. I don't feel the need to overanalyze relationship status.
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sgillott wrote:

Guys,
I know it sucks that your not in a relationship, I didn't get my first date until I was in my twenties. The main thing to do is stop looking and just get out and enjoy yourself. Believe it or not that is how it worked for me.


^ He's got it right. You can't really enjoy a relationship anyway until you have total independence. I didn't date until I was 18 and graduated from high school on purpose. That was a smart move that I have never regretted. A smarter person will will wait until around 24. He's also right about not looking and just get out. That worked for me too. One more thing, stay away from looking for a relationship at a bar or nightclub...not exactly the best quality person for a LASTING relationship there....
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22 / M / Canada
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Posted 4/19/14
What sucks is that I'm not the one that's interested in nightclub and parties (Though going to parties as a designated driver gives you free entertainment but gets boring after a while). This basically Knocks out about half the Girls close to my age (roughly 19-23). Actually for comedic reasons a friend of the family and I have came up with rules as to why being married sucks.

I say to myself that I will continue to buy figures, read comics,read manga, watch anime and cartoons. I will continue to go to anime and comic conventions and if I find somebody, I find somebody. But they might have second thoughts once they find out what my hobbies and interests are.

As an added bonus to being single I can do anything I wanted without thinking about it first, Of course I need the money first though.
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Posted 4/19/14
Being single has it's ups and down. (At least for me)

Ups- More freedom to flirt

Down- You start to get lonely
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21 / M / Cocoon
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Posted 4/19/14
I don't see why anybody would voluntarily want to take on all the drama, stress and all the other unnecessary things that a relationship is about. There's no logic in it at all.
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Well for me, one or the other have their flaws. I'm single now and have been for awhile, its great to have the free time and all my money (minus bills) goes to me for whatever I want. Being in a relationship takes a lot of work, if you want it to work. It takes a commitment of time, which for some can be a huge sacrifice. In my case, finding a girlfriend isn't of great importance. Right now my life goes pretty well working my night shift full-time job coming home watching some anime or playing a game, sleeping and starting it over again. Weekends I hang out friends usually. It isn't like I don't want a girlfriend, moreover its just its not important to me right now, I don't have enough time to properly treat a girlfriend to dates and the like, and working night shift makes things even harder.

So for me, at least for now, I'm better off staying single. I'm even getting a promotion at work since thats where I concentrate most of my energy! But there will be a point in time when I will make the effort for a lady.
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I just hate the fact that when you're in a relationship, that one person is ALWAYS on you're mind. It freaks me out. I don't want to be just thinking and thinking about one thing ALL day, which is what a relationship usually does to me, and from what I've seen, other people as well. I don't want to have to worry about where someone is going every day blahblahblah, or have to be responsible for someone else's feelings. I think I'd have to be real good friends with someone before we started dating.
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23 / M / KS, USA
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Posted 4/19/14
This is for me:

Being single has allowed me to pretty much change the focus of my money from gifts and taking her on dates to being able to provide more into my hobbies (like Manga or Video Games).

That is about it.

Sure there are times that I... would rather be doing something else like (insert R to X rated stories/words here), which is hard to do when single... unless you buy (TOYS WE ARE TALKING ABOUT TOYS!).


I have no desire right now to find another relationship, I barely can afford my own stuff right now anyway. BUT if for some reason some desperate little lady wanted to do some horizontal tango without a recurring commitment past that, I probably wouldn't deny that.
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20 / M / Houston, TX
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Posted 4/19/14

Reminces wrote:





Oh I'm down. As long as she doesn't make me watch BL with her
Sogno- 
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dirty_soap_dish wrote:

Been married so long that I don't remember what it's like to be single. For those who are single and loving it...good for you and rock on. For those who are single and hating it...develop a good case of malignant narcissism.There's no love like self-love.


thanks man

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People complain that being single is lonely, but being in a relationship is so stressful. Maybe it's just me..?
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Posted 4/19/14
Both being single and in a relationship have their advantages. I am currently single which is just fine. I am working on advancing my career and getting accreditations from America's Health Insurance Plans. I am also able to save a lot of money being single as well.

Being in a relationship however is what I prefer. Having another person to share experiences and hobbies with is amazing. Although I wouldn't rush into anything. At one time I was engaged after one year of dating however over the next two years things changed between us and we decided not to get married. While this was the best outcome and it was mutual it still caused me to experience a sense of great loss. Just enjoy being with someone and when you both feel like you're in the right place in your life you can take that next step.

That's just the opinion I have formed out of my experiences however everyone is different. Just don't give up on it if you really want to find someone just keep at it and put yourself out there. No one has ever made friends or started a relationship while staying away from other people.
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I'm currently single, but as far as it goes, being in a relationship is probably the better of the two depending on how you are as a person.


It's fine to say that being single is enjoyable since you have more freedom to flirt and do whatever you want without the fear of being tied down or offending your significant other, but being in a relationship is something special since it's the mutual attraction between two people who genuinely care for eachother. Sure, you'll have your moments of having that other person on your mind constantly, and they'll feel the same about you (if it's that, y'know, "real") but that's fine, and the beauty of it. You can't just go and complain that it's stressful and drama, when it all depends on you two and the relationship you create together yourself. There may be ups and downs, but it's all about you and your significant other's responses to it that decides how the relationship can be. A relationship doesn't HAVE to be stressful and full of drama. It's not like you get together and that's something that's instantly tagged onto it. If it happens, there's a source of it, and you guys can work together to get past it. It's a beautiful thing to share feelings with someone. To spend time with them, and know you're enjoying your time with them and vice versa. Pessimism ain't cute, and you only got one life to live. Make the most of it whichever way you see fit, I think. You can go about the route of isolation and just becoming a strong individual, but I feel like you'll naturally come to a point where you seek companionship and will find that one person who just strikes you and makes you want to go for it. Until then, if you're enjoying being single, then enjoy it. If not, then go out into the world and seize the chances you're given to change it. Work on being more social, being around people with similar mindsets to your own, and have realistic standards for someone. That's about it.
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Posted 4/19/14
I will always prefer to be single the rest of my life. I think too much is involved when you have a relationship and I see far more cons than actual pros. Also, just to get in a relationship with a female is a headache in itself. You have to worry about dates, keeping in touch constantly, and a whole bunch of other annoyances... Overall, I think it just takes too much work and time.
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