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Are you afraid to fall in love, date, or just make friends?
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25 / F / New Jersey, USA
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Posted 4/27/14 , edited 4/27/14
Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.


Explain your option in great detail. Be completely honest with yourself. Do not give a one word answer. Simply explain your opinion please.


Enjoy!


Bonus Questions:

1. How do you really feel about reality and hardships it brings?

2. Are you single because you're scared to date, dislike people, or just got out of a relationship?

All I want is some sort of honesty.
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Posted 4/27/14
For me falling in love is a little scary just because of the change that comes with it. For me falling back into reality is the worst part and the part I fear most is the same for every journey. The descent back to reality.

Bonus Answers

1. I feel that reality is something to bring us the harsh truths of what is real and what is not. Reality is just something that's beyond control, I feel that the hardships it brings is just to bring me to what is reasonable and unreasonable.

2. I'm single because I just haven't met "The One" Call me cliche but I think that you have to connect with someone to. And quite frankly I haven't seen or met anyone with simiiliar tastes. This goes to show how special I really am.

Or it's just because my awesomeness just can't be contained in another person.

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i've just decided im not girlfriend material. i've had boyfriends and a couple long term relationships but im always happiest on my own. i cant say ive never been in love, idk if i ever will be, but im happy being single. i feel like in a relationship theres constant pressure.
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So glad I don't have to date anymore! When you're old like me, you can just be with your significant other, and just be. If you want. No pressure. Relationships have got to friendships first. Reality is reality, and it's a cozy reality to be yourself in, not a fall from the heights of being caught up in new love. However, friendships are hard. Maybe it's me. I have friends, but none closeby. And meeting new people at my age??? High school doesn't really end, as adults can still be gossipy, judgemental, etc. Heck with that! I have my family, my hobbies, and I have faith that when the time is right, I'll make a new acquaintance. Until then...I'm o.k.
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Posted 4/28/14 , edited 4/28/14
I think I'm scared of all three in your main question, sadly ^^;. I think the fear mostly comes from not wanting people to know me too well. I don't like my weaknesses exposed, yo >.>.

I also think I have a fear of dating, more than falling in love. Falling in love seems awesome, but getting there is the problem @_@. I just feel suspicious when guys say they like me, or if they ask me out on dates. I understand that they could be genuine, but sometimes I'm think "why....?" Since most of the guys who talk to me are from anime conventions, I have to worry about if they're just asking me because I'm cosplaying as their favorite character, or if they think they have a chance with me because I'm a nerd, or if they're just asking every girl in the convention because they're bored...

Of the three, I'm less scared about making friends. Friends are nice. I'm more scared about just meeting new people in general, but once we get to friend stage, it's awesome and fun!

Bonus questions:

1.) Honestly, I think reality sucks, but yet it doesn't. Reality sucks only if I indulge myself with anything that is not reality, for too long. If i read a book, and love the world, and read more books, and watch anime with awesome worlds, then movies with awesome worlds and excitement, I start to get depressed about how reality just isn't what I want it to be... but then again a person can literally do anything they want in reality... just with more obstacles. Sorry, I'm bad at explaining ^^;.

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I think I partly don't date because I am a bit scared of people (more scared of men for some reason... so as a straight woman, I'm kinda stuck...), and because I don't trust easily. Other than that, I feel like, being an adult, a lot of adult relationships involve sex, which I'm not really into.
I just want friends~ Friends are nice!

(If anyone has read Divergent here, I think I'm kind of like Tris, where one of my fears is intimacy ^^;)
Posted 4/28/14
Of course, I'm scared. I'm very scared that I can't keep someone interested in me. I'm not confident when it comes to that.

I've been treated like I'm the boring person nobody wants to go out with all my life... so I get insecure about that. "What if he thinks I'm boring?" "How can I keep him interested?" These questions pop in my head all the time while I'm dating someone.


I'm single, because nobody wants to go into a relationship with me... (either because I'm not attractive enough or they don't think I'm interesting enough).



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But-but you look so handsome and cute in your avatar. You're ALWAYS changing your avatar picture for no reason you look really good. And I'm not just saying that either too.
Posted 4/28/14

qualeshia3 wrote:



thanks a lot sometimes I don't like looking at my own face
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Posted 4/28/14
I get nervous around the people I get a crush on because I'm seen as "a geeky but very kind person who used to be a stupid idiot" well I personally find it stupid that personality doesn't count for anything anymore, so far in my life I have been the kindest person I know but that doesn't matter as long as your hot. And anyone with similar interests too me just want to be friends.

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1: one of the reasons I continue to watch anime is because it drains out the evil of this worlds reality, it seems to be a way of escapism for me along with many others.

2: I believe I'm single (and have been single all my life) because of my generations idea of a perfect partner, seriously the only thing on their checklist is "is it sexy?"
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Posted 4/29/14


YOU'RE WELCOME!!!
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honestly, i would hate dating, i tried it once but we were'nt actually
dating just hanging out like a couple and it was weird >\\\\<
most men to me aren't very trustworthy, i mean friend yes, boyfriend no. o-o
i guess i am kinda scared to date, fall in love, but not for friends.
dating in anime looks so easy sometimes... or they can make it look like
the worse time in their life xD and i learn from anime about dating...
is that wrong.?
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Posted 4/29/14

pauguin wrote:

honestly, i would hate dating, i tried it once but we were'nt actually
dating just hanging out like a couple and it was weird >\\\\<
most men to me aren't very trustworthy, i mean friend yes, boyfriend no. o-o
i guess i am kinda scared to date, fall in love, but not for friends.
dating in anime looks so easy sometimes... or they can make it look like
the worse time in their life xD and i learn from anime about dating...
is that wrong.?


The thing about the romance and dating in anime is.......not real.
Posted 4/29/14
I'm fine with making friends, I'm a little nervous to fall in love and date though...
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Posted 4/30/14

Scarlet-the-Great wrote:

I'm fine with making friends, I'm a little nervous to fall in love and date though...


Would you date Tom Hiddles if he we're to ask you out be honest?
Posted 4/30/14

qualeshia3 wrote:


Scarlet-the-Great wrote:

I'm fine with making friends, I'm a little nervous to fall in love and date though...


Would you date Tom Hiddles if he we're to ask you out be honest?


Ahahaha! Of course I would, but I'd probably scare him off or creep him out, honestly. Lol!
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