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Friendship should have trust, to a certain degree. If you know everything there is to know about someone, where's the fun, suspense, and mystery. Sometimes friendships can be shrouded in mystery, you may not know someone very well, but still call them a friend. Just depends on how you look at it. For me I think trust is something you only have for close friends that you know very well. For friends that you see every now and then, trust is something less needed.
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TheChowster wrote:

Friendship should have trust, to a certain degree. If you know everything there is to know about someone, where's the fun, suspense, and mystery. Sometimes friendships can be shrouded in mystery, you may not know someone very well, but still call them a friend. Just depends on how you look at it. For me I think trust is something you only have for close friends that you know very well. For friends that you see every now and then, trust is something less needed.


Wow, nicely put.
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I have never fully trusted anyone outside of my parents. By that, I mean that I have never had someone I could spill my guts out to, someone I could always count on to hear me rant about shit, and who I know would be there for me when I needed them, even in the most dire situations. In that sense, I have always been alone.

However, I still have people who I call friends. They are people who I like to hang out with, who have similar interests as me, and who make me smile and laugh. I don't count on them for much more than that. That's all they need to give me to be my friend.

I wouldn't trust them with my secrets, or large sums of money. But I'll trust them enough to invite them to my house, to share a drink, and to believe them when they say they won't cheat at cards. I think that's enough.
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OP, I think you're talking about an acquaintance lol.
For a friend, you need at least a bit of trust. Like, you guys share a mutual trust of sharing pencils. You know that if you lent your pencil to your friend, they will give it back.
Posted 5/4/14

Sogno- wrote:

a friend without some degree of trust is more of an acquaintance


How I feel. The thread could have ended with the first reply, haha..



When I was young - I would take my stuff with me when I left a study room and when people questioned me I always said the same thing. "It isn't that I don't trust you. I don't trust anyone." Whether I knew people in college for well over a year or not, my things would always go missing until I had that policy. Study group -users- aren't friends or anything, so I shouldn't trust them and wish I knew that.

As for needing trust in friendships - yes. When that trust is broken (maybe not the first time - I usually wait for a pattern) I make it clear we're not friends - something most people are too scared to do. Trust is an important thing to have and I'm not one of those pathetic types that just stop texting/calling/whatever until someone becomes a stranger. I make sure the people that are consistent trust breakers know they suck as a departing friend thing to do - maybe they'll get their act together and take it seriously for the next one.

Just my bit about it. I can't really see people seriously thinking trust isn't needed. It would just make me wonder what kind of shady friends (acquaintances) they have.
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YES!

NO TRUST? NO LOVE!
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Hmmm ... there is like this friend of ours that almost no one trusts when it comes to stuffs. He is tooo infamous for his laziness, lack of responsibly, and he is a regular troll but we are still friend with him because well stuck with him from middle school to highschool
Posted 5/5/14 , edited 5/5/14
Not necessarily.

Granted, I have very few friends. I don't necessarily trust them with much. But I have been known to trust strangers more than I would normally trust my family or friends. It's pretty odd.

Also, I have far too many secrets.. None of which can be trusted to any single living soul.

Then again, I've always thought I saw friends a lot differently than most people I know. That's pretty much part of the reason why I've always had so few.

Oh well... Just sharing my two cents, I guess.

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Trust=Friendship.



Hopefully you don't have people that you call your friend that you don't even trust O_o
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The more you get to know someone the less you'll trust them. So, to answer your question... No you do not need trust.



No... But seriously, trust is what makes a good friendship!

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Yes with out it there no friendship
Posted 5/5/14
Only if you are going to depend on them in some way
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Another question to consider could be: If a friend breaks your trust, would you still be friends with them?
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Simple answer... yes, it is very much needed.
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The more you trust that person, the closer you are to them. I have a lot of so called "friends" or acquaintances that I don't really share too much of my time with. Simply, because I wouldn't trust them with my life if things went wrong.
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