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The Importance of Socializing
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Yeah sometimes socializing can be really fake and it repulses me. Especially when it comes down to the whole "he said, she said", and I usually get some really dark thoughts about how o deal with them, but they're just thoughts.


With that being said, I've made some really good friends, and had some really good times with them. I love hanging out with them, and sometimes we fight. It hurts, and it angers me, but that's just a part of life. Some of the friends I had when I was young no longer talk to me, because of various reasons, and it feels like as if i'll never be friends with them again. But most of the time they value the good times we had together as much as I do, and sometimes we start talking again.

I act differently in a group setting than I would with a friend or w.e. When I'm in a group, I usually try to present myself as best as possible, (some people would call that being fake). But a person has to be aware of their surrounds, you might walk around your house naked, but you would never do something like that in public. People put up a front when there are a lot of people around, but I don't think it's anything to feel repulsed by. But there are the people who gossip, (i hate them) so I try to steer clear of them.


I think it just depends on the people you talk to, if you picked out a single person in the room and started talking to them, I bet they would act more genuine. There is drama in every group, but not all of it is bad, and as long as you don't try to be "popular" you'll find that people are generally less fake.

Also the formal socializing parties are horrible, if you're just looking for a genuine friendship. People go to those things to make connections, not to make friends, so stay away from those.

As for loneliness... to be honest, I don't know how to deal with loneliness, whenever I get lonely I usually talk to a friend or meet up with someone. I don't mind being along, but I cant go for long periods of time without some human interaction. That's just who I am though.

All in all, I think socializing is important, it can hurt, but I think it's totally worth the pain.
Posted 5/7/14
You have to talk to people if you wish to have sex. Then take responsibility for your shameful impulsiveness. xD
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I hang out with a group of friends but recently i've started to feel drifted like i don't try as hard to fit in anymore or talk as much. During school all i think about for the whole day is going home and watching animes. I don't really fit in with my friends anymore but i'm scared if i leave ill become that kid at school who has no friends and everyone will think she is creepy because she hangs out by herself.
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As someone alluded to earlier, the parasitic extroverts suck the energy from others, while introverts draw their energy from within. Extroverts tend to talk first, think later. After spending time with unrestrained extroverts, I can be found hiding under the sofa, in an attempt to recharge and mitigate the trauma.
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considering it has over 26m views, many of you have probably watched this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7dLU6fk9QY
This is one of the few youtube videos worth watching.
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xeneria wrote:

considering it has over 26m views, many of you have probably watched this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7dLU6fk9QY
This is one of the few youtube videos worth watching.


Why are you watching anime and playing video games all day?

You can go outside and have a great time just by talking to complete strangers and you will also get a gf just because you went outside.

>This is what normal people believe
Posted 5/7/14

x-Cellar_Door-x wrote:

This Lady always takes the words that I didn't even know were there right out of My mouth.


I'm not reading your mind, I swear! Lol..


onibrotonel wrote:

The way you describe yourself is somewhat what an introvert is. I'm not bashing you on any sort.
Introverts can socialize. They have to recharge their batteries after socializing, compared to extroverts where they get their energies from other people. Introverts go for more quality people than quantity.
If introverts decide not to join on one of the outings/experiences, it doesn't mean they hate it. Keep asking them to join in. Don't give up on them.



I've started avoiding the use of the term "introvert" mostly because it seems to have a rather negative image in people's minds. Some people seem to think that introvert is synonymous to anti-social which is really not the case.
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I don't find it important. I usually get annoyed when I have to deal with people. I have friends I'll hang out with, but I wouldn't go socialize beyond that unless I had to
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This post. Yes, so much yes. I always thought I was wrong for choosing to be alone, and thinking of other humans as repulsive and unnecessary, at least in the context of socializing. I have tried to change and be more "outgoing", but I just can't.
Posted 5/7/14

xeneria wrote:

considering it has over 26m views, many of you have probably watched this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7dLU6fk9QY
This is one of the few youtube videos worth watching.


That was amazing.though some people won't take this video seriously
all I can say thank god that I'm who i'm today
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I personally can't get through life without talking and making friends with other people.
And I'm not trying to be a smart-ass; getting connections and meeting new people are kind of important in my line of work.
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I'm a pretty social guy myself, but I do need my time alone. But that time doesn't tend to last any longer than a few hours before I want to go hang out with someone. I mean, I used to be somewhat a hikikomori and a tsundere (without any physically redeeming qualities), because i was both antisocial and just downright mean, but I was blessed enough to meet some of the most loving and patient people who got me out of that phase. That's why whenever i go to hang out, I don't just go to have fun, but I go to strengthen and deepen my relationships with the people I hang out with.
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Over the years, I've found value in being more extroverted. I used to be super introverted. Sure, I would like to hang out. At the same time, I was afraid of meeting new people, saying the wrong things that were not socially acceptable, and not being able to trust people since many of them can come off as fake. However, without making the effort of meeting new people and being myself, I would not be able to meet my close friends now. Doing activities like hanging out with friends and meeting different people has helped me mature to become more comfortable with who I am. Not only has these activities has helped me to grow as a person, but also continue to keep those connections. It also helped to network with others in the same field of study. Without the help of my classmates and the kindness of others, it would be harder for me to search for a job. They have given me invaluable resources that give me an upper hand for my future career. Though some people may come off as fake, I find it valuable to try to get to know a person to see how they really are. Sometimes first impressions aren't everything.

It is also helpful to continue socializing for me...due to the career path I have chosen. It would make my job harder if I wasn't sociable~ I've slowly learned to enjoy it. However, I enjoy my time alone. It's just who I am. I appreciate the quiet in which I can just think about whatever I want with just my own thoughts to keep me company
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What is this socializing you speak of?
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Posted 5/7/14 , edited 5/7/14
I'm naturally an introvert thus to me being social or 'socializing' isn't on my priority list. I have a select few people that I'm close with and who I like to talk to for extended periods of time. Other than those people I've never, prob never will, see others as being worth the time to try to talk to them instead they're more of a drain. Unfortunately society/advertisers tend to try to put a negative label on introverts while shining a light on extroverts, but to each their own.
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