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Where NOT to leave a female companion alone
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Thats what you get for liking 3dpd
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nanikore2 wrote:


Yikes. Didn't know about that wedding ring thing.
I've actually been thinking about her carrying a spray while local. When flying off to an island somewhere we'd have to look for it in a local store. It's kinda messed up but people could even sue when sprayed- People sue for anything and everything even when they're doing something criminal. Well, better sprayed than kidnapped or worse.



Remember, just because some one can sue, doesn't mean they will win. Hell, I could sue crunchyroll for wasting a large part of my youth sitting in front of a computer screen, but it doesn't mean I'd win.

I would say go for the spray, if at least for peace of mind, and just hope your wife will never have to use it. As long as the use is in self defense then there isn't much legal recourse someone could take.

And try not to think of places you 'can't leave her alone at,' seeing as anything can happen anywhere. That just how these creeps operate. They will hang around supermarkets, bus stations, schools, libraries or any other areas that have a steady amount of foot traffic, but nothing so large as a crowd.


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I've no idea what the leash law on the island was, but it's just annoying that some pet owners couldn't fathom the possibility that not everyone on earth adores their pet the same way they do. Last year when another dog scared my wife at another beach, the owner totally blamed her for her reaction and told her to "get over it". As IF phobias work like that!



What a jerk! A phobia is an irrational fear of something. you can't just get over it
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It sucks that your wife met up with a jerk. But it sucks more that you think your wife isn't an adult who can decide for herself where she should be. It also sucks that you feel that she is an object which can be stolen or vandalised if left unattended.
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Raimu4 wrote:

Thats what you get for liking 3dpd


What is 3dpd?
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My wife got hit on the other day while she was out shopping with her mom. She looks incredibly pregnant (we're having twins, she's 28 weeks along today). People are jerks and said jerks are, frankly, everywhere. So, they're almost entirely unavoidable. Even when it's very clear you don't want anything - people may hit on you.

That said, if your wife has a serious fear of dogs, ensuring you are with her wherever there may be dogs is a good thing. Or someone else is with her. That's a comfort due to the fear thing, tho, not a help her avoid jerks. As I said, they're everywhere.
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With Lolth.
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Sadly, you feel the need to blame yourself when really this was a situation that could have only been avoided through one of two ways - You choosing to do something else instead or her going with you. In the end, it all comes down to one thing - the guy was a creep and clearly didn't understand your wife's fear of dogs. He assumed that she thought it was going to attack her and was only trying to prove that it's friendly - A stupid, but natural, assumption. The guy was indeed harassing her, however, its not exactly like its your fault. This sort of thing can happen anytime, anywhere. You could be having dinner together in a restaurant and when you go off to the bathroom, some creep approaches her and starts asking her for her name and hitting on her and stuff. You can't be attached at the hip every waking moment. All you can do is protect her from these things when you are around, and have her use some form of spray or something to use as a threat.
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with my dad.


Same, for godsakes I have 5 half-siblings on my dads side.
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I would have killed the dog. That is how bad my fucking phobia is.
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Thfelese wrote:


Raimu4 wrote:

Thats what you get for liking 3dpd


What is 3dpd?


Means 3D pig disgusting.

Usually used by people who only like 2D.
"So, what do you think of my girlfriend?"
"She's 3DPD, man."

Source : Urban Dictionary
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Probably around me, or any of my friends.
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KurisuSensei wrote: It also sucks that you feel that she is an object which can be stolen or vandalised if left unattended.


That's a pretty unfair statement. Just because you want to protect someone doesn't mean you think of them as an object. I don't think the desire to protect someone that is ill equipped to protect themselves is something that should be discouraged.
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It's really sad that we live in a world where we're very prone to harassment all the time... I appreciate your concern for your female companion. I'm not very knowledgeable about some of this, but don't leave her at any of those places alone AT NIGHT. In the day time, we are definitely safer. It's more broad, more people are watching... Of course harassment and sexual assault can happen during the day, but perhaps it's less prone to happen.
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It's not your fault, OP. It's never anyone's fault but the douchebag who starts the harassment.

I understand that you're quite shaken by this, and it's sweet of you to want to protect your wife. However, you might want to ask her opinion about all of this first, lest you appear to her as an overprotective and controlling husband.

Personally, I highly dislike being escorted everywhere. It makes me feel like a child, unable to care for myself without a "man" around. I know you mean well, but the thought that women need constant protection can be seen as rather backwards and insulting. Anyone can be attacked, at any time, whether they be a man or a woman or anything in between. This is the truth. Regardless of your sex, you should never go anywhere suspicious alone, and you should always be prepared to defend yourself within reasonable means.

Rather than try to be her bodyguard, if you're truly concerned about the safety of your wife, maybe talk to her about carrying mace or taking a self-defense class. You can both do it together. That way, you'll both feel safer when, inevitably, you each have to go somewhere alone. And she won't feel like she has to be "kept" by you.

I wish you both the best and hope nothing like this happens to you again.
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nemoskull wrote:

with my dad.


I lol'd so bad.
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