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Posted 5/24/14 , edited 1/13/15
so i recently turned 18. and i cant help but feel a sense of like.. the need to be more 'mature' due to the age. looking around my room i see walls covered in anime and band goodies, my bed and desk are just the same. and it got me thinking about how people tell you to 'grow up' or that you'll 'grow out of it' due to your interests or personality.

i have a very child-like, careless and just generally immature way of life right now. i still glue to my mum the way i would at 5 years old. and i definitely don't have any plans to be wandering off into my own house and getting married and having babies and being a settled 'normal' adult.

don't get me wrong, you might look at this like WTF YA DOIN UR ONLI 18!!!1 im aware of that but my point is that i do feel there is a pressure there, maybe due to how quickly kids/teens seem to be growing up now, to just kinda 'grow up'. all i really wanna do is mong out in my bed all day, play ps3 and ds and watch anime.

so what's your opinion on the idea of age defining your maturity? does anyone else feel a pressure to change or grow up? or are you happy and accepting in your childish nature?
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Posted 5/24/14 , edited 8/30/15
i just accept my childish nature. i've long graduated college yet i still climb trees and watch cartoons and trepess on other people's property cough i mean ride around on the golf cart with the neighborhood kids. ... it's all good.... just don't get caught- cough i mean just have fun doing whatever
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Posted 5/24/14 , edited 1/26/15
Age doesn't equal maturity. You might feel some pressure from society to "grow up", but you're not there yet really. At 18 years old most people are an adult legally, but not mentally. What makes you a mature adult? Well, life experience. The things you live through and learn shape your thoughts and your actions over time. You spend your entire life growing up, really.

I'm 29 years old, heading onto 30 this year, and if I knew what I know now at 18 I would have made some very different choices in life. Maturity is subjective, though. Plenty of older people do immature things all the time.

What I can tell you is, don't worry about trying to change yourself or to be more "mature". Just be who you are and live the way you want to live. There might come a time when you look back at your life and regret a decision, or decisions, that you've made. But, you can't predict the future and so worrying about something trivial like whether you're mature or not is really a waste of your time.

One thing I can tell you is that having an attachment to your family and a child-like personality isn't really a bad thing. It's just who you are now. Who you are in the future might, and probably will, change.
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Posted 5/24/14
Some people are maturer then others, it all depends on you and how you grow up and develop yourself overtime.It's okay to be silly and just be you, but when it comes to important things or a big step of your life treat that importantly and make the right choice.
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Due to my occupation I'm suppose to have a sense of maturity and professionalism. Once my day is over I just go back to being my weirdo anime-watching, videogame-playing self that I've always been.
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I'm 17 and I still act childish. It's honestly not a big deal. As long as you know when to be serious it's fine.
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Posted 5/24/14 , edited 9/26/14
As a 16 year old who has seen a lot of anime, I recommend being yourself. Doing whats natural tends to give the best endings, putting an act on to be 'mature' only makes yourself uncomfortable, and those around you sense that distress, hence putting them in a uncomfortable position.
This may seem irrelevant to the subject on hand, but this is much like the idea that woman should be anorexic to be beautiful/that a man should have muscles and feel confident. Just because you changed how you are on the outside, doesn't mean you are a different person on the inside. Be who you are, and do what you want, if you change yourself to something you are not, you're going to...
-attract people you don't like or want to be associated with
-feel uncomfortable with yourself
-make others, such as a true friends and family, feel uncomfortable

A very inspirational quote I saw on this website was

"The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you, but yourself."
- sadbegfan(where I found it) -Rita Mae Brown(actual author)

and this is very true. Conforming to be someone youre not may put you in a social circle, however even when youre in that circle youre just going to be the black sheep on the inside. Being in that group is only going to further how alone you feel. I think that this relates to the subject because trying to be mature for the sake of an outside source is the very definition of conformity.
Even so that quote fits, I think this is a more fitting quote to the subject

"I am the master of my own uterus"
-Idontknowtheusername

And I feel that this is more fitting because it has a sense of immaturity to it, while also representing a sense of true maturity, not the maturity you see in a desk office, the type you see in real people. The fact is that true maturity is being able to accept yourself for who you are, and not what other people expect you to be.
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Posted 5/24/14 , edited 8/20/14
I never felt that age equals maturity. My mum is in her 40s and as doofy as me, pulling weird faces and doing strange voices for a laugh all the time. Ever heard of the saying 'grow old, don't grow up'? I think it holds pretty true. Now as an adult you will have more responsibilities, how many depends on your situation. I've always classed myself as a goofball, and with my 18th birthday coming up in July I can comfortably say I still don't feel like changing.

Sure I'll act mature when I need to, there's a time and a place for everything, but I'm comfortable with how I am. Is that to say I won't change in the future? Of course not. Everyone thinks who they are now is who they'll remain and for some that may be true, but a lot of people can look back 10 years and they'll think about how much they've changed. Do I still love games and anime? You bet, and I have done for many many years now. Maturity should come naturally, or out of personally wanting to be more mature, don't let yourself get pressured into it.

Just because you're older doesn't mean you can't still play your DS and PS3 and watch anime. Contrary to popular belief, adults have fun, too. You may be older, but you yourself really don't have to change. There won't be that many situations which call for your personality to be any different from what it normally is. Who you are is who you are, don't let people pressure you into altering that just because of some silly number. Even from an age perspective 18 is bloody young. For some reason, modern society has this weird idea that really young ages are, in fact, old when they're not. How many 20 something year olds on CR claim they're old? Collegehumour did a video on it recently and it's funny because of how true it is.
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ace_defective wrote:

Due to my occupation I'm suppose to have a sense of maturity and professionalism. Once my day is over I just go back to being my weirdo anime-watching, videogame-playing self that I've always been.


May I ask your profession?
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18 is actually very young. Most 18 year olds in western society are pretty immature. Don't worry about becoming very mature very fast. It'll take time and life experience to become pretty mature. It'll take years to become a real mature adult. When I was 27, I was more immature than I am at 30. I'm 30 now and it was only in the last year that I've felt I've become quite mature. And as I grow older, I believe I'll mature even more.

I'm 30 and I still like anime and video games. You can like such things for as long as they interest you, really. Maybe in 10 years from now, you'll like them less, maybe you'll like them a lot less, or maybe they will still make you pretty happy and you'll still really like them. But don't push it away thinking you have to do that. Just be yourself and understand that people change over time. I'm just myself and still like anime at 30. I still like video games, but honestly, I find it difficult to get into so many games, as so many games don't hold my interest these days.

Some advice: In becoming more mature, don't let things like video games and anime stand in the way of your responsibilities. Don't let it eat too much into your time for studying and school work if you attend a college, university, or some post-high school training/education. Don't let it get in the way of your jobs (such as, staying up too late entertaining yourself when you have work in the early morning). Don't let it get in the way of very important things and responsibilities. When you can find time for these things, enjoy them, just don't steal time from important things to make time for them.
Posted 5/24/14
I don't think your age defines your sense of maturity. But there are times you can establish a sense of formality and informality, you know?

Me, I don't think the childish side of me will ever leave. It never left my mother and my grandmother- our personalities are pretty similar. But I do feel my intelligence and analyzed situations make me mature. Not to be up on my high horse or anything, but it does. xD
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Posted 5/24/14
I'm too lazy to type a lot of words, so i'll give my little thoughts. You'll know when you need to be mature, but you don't always need to be. To quote Professor Oak:


Other than that, be who you are outside of the serious times. You'll enjoy your life more that way.
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Posted 5/24/14 , edited 8/30/15
When I turned 18, I also had a sense of "okay, I'm an adult now, I have to start being 'mature'."

But then I realized I have no idea what "mature" even means.

Really, the word has kind of lost its meaning to me. What is maturity? Getting a job, finding a spouse, having kids? Being stable? Paying your own bills? I don't think so.

Maturity is a state of mind. It just means you know how to act like a nice person and not be an irresponsible jerkoff. Has nothing to do with what you like, or whether you still live with your parents or not, or even your age. I've met 7-year-olds who have more manners than some 40-year-olds.

I have shelves full of anime figurines, I spend most of my time watching "cartoons" and playing Pokémon, I make faces at people like a child. Yet I've been told that I am very mature. Because I can talk sense, and I'm not an asshole (typically).

Don't worry about it, just enjoy yourself.
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Posted 5/24/14 , edited 8/30/15
I haven't really felt any pressure to change or grow up since I was a teenager. I mean, I have a job and a house now, but I don't think those are signs of maturity so much as means to an end - that end being enjoying life, watching anime, reading books.. all the stuff I was doing as a teenager. I just have more space to put all my anime and wallscrolls and such

Most people I know find a groove they're comfortable in and tend to stay that way for long periods of time. For some people, that involves serious meetings, fancy clothes, etc. Others prefer a party scene or bar hopping. Mine's always been anime or games with a small group of friends, so I'd say I'm no more or less mature than I was as a kid. More confident about staying this way now than I was then, though..

So long as you're comfortable with yourself, there's no need to grow up or act more mature or anything else.
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Love your hobbies, love yourself, and be sure to show love and care to others. That's maturity, not owning a house or popping out babies.
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