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Post Reply age = maturity?
Posted 5/25/14
Around 26 or so people start to grow out of kid stuff.. i started watching anime at like 26 tho so im weird.
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Even biologically you are not a full adult at 18. It isn't until your early 20s when you're supposed to "fully" develop emotionally. Just cause you are legally an adult doesn't mean jack; you're adult when you brain is finished developing with things such as empathy not fully developed until well after 18.

So don't worry about it. It comes in time.
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Posted 5/25/14 , edited 5/25/14
In my mind age doesn't dictate maturity. Why just because you were born earlier then others you should have to give up what you enjoy? I do see it as important to be able to be self sufficient, you shouldn't have to rely on others.

Respect yourself, treat others fairly, and live your life the way you want. That in my mind is the definition of maturity.



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Posted 5/25/14
I could offer a long response, but rather I'll just say - not at all.
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Posted 5/25/14
"immature" is what boring people call fun people. remember this and be yourself. the change will be genuine when it happens, you won't need to rush it.

i started feeling "mature" when i got a job at a strict company and i had a lot of responsibility. sometimes i think im immature, but it's just my personality. i think you'll see it that way too.
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Posted 5/25/14
Age doesn't equal maturity. I properly got the maturity of a 40 year old because I've always been very mature for my age even back when I was a kid. Yet, at the same time I see people my age that have the maturity of a 10 year old.
Most of the time, people mature as they get old and gain more life experience, but that's not always true.
In my option, maturity is knowing when its time to act grown up and be responsible, but yet still being yourself.
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I'm not even old enough to drive, so being immature is the norm around me. I'd like to say otherwise, but then I'd be lying. And lying is a sign of maturity. Wait...
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Posted 5/25/14
Like others have said,

Age =/= Maturity

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I'm mature about the important things in life I guess. lol
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Posted 5/25/14
Age doesn't necessarily equal maturity, as others have said. Age does, however, change what people expect from you.

At 18, people expect you to start figuring out how to be an independent adult. They don't expect you to have all the answers, and they know you're going to mess up occasionally.

By 25 people expect that you've gotten yourself sorted out and are mostly independent, depending on your schooling status.

By the time you're 30, people figure you should be able to be completely independent, and entirely able to deal with life on your own.

Does that mean you just suddenly wake up on your birthday and say "Well, I'm 25 today. Time to cut all ties with my parents and buy a house"? Hell no. But it also doesn't hurt to take a step back and examine where you are in your life, where you want to be going with your life, and looking at what you're doing to achieve that goal.

Hobbies and pass times do not dictate if you're mature or not. If anything, accepting the fact that you enjoy something like anime, and not being embarrassed about it is more mature than thinking it's "childish" and that you "need to grow out of it." Embracing you who are and what you want is more mature than trying to change yourself to what other people believe you should be. You just have to take that, and find a way to fit it into the life you want to live.

There's also not a line of immature to mature. You're maturing all your life. There's also so many aspects to a person that while you may be mature in somethings, you could be immature in others. For example, you could have an excellent, mature work ethic; showing up early, working hard, making sure the things that need to be done are done before you spend time on fun. At the same time, you could be very immature when it comes to relationships; unable to clearly label what you want from a partner and how to get it. You could be emotionally mature, in that you like who you are and what you're doing with life, and socially immature; you have a hard time forming connections with people and are unable to function in social situations. Your entire life you will be more or less mature in all these aspects and more. You'll never just one day be "mature."
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Posted 5/25/14
I think it depends on what you choose to be childish and immature about. If you're childish in silly or fun ways, like playing video games or watching anime, I think that's fine. But if you're immature about other things, like preparing for your future, or taking care of your responsibilities, then it's hurtful. I think age is a factor, not so much because of other people's expectations, but because if you don't mature about certain things when the time is right, you can miss out on a lot of opportunities that can hurt you further down the road in life, or hurt yourself and others. For example, going to college when you're 18 is a lot easier than when you get older, and not learning to take care of yourself around your age can make it harder to be independent later on. And it's not just for yourself --- if you're close to your mom, there might come a time when you have to take care of her when you're both much older, and if you're not in a position where you can help her the same way she helped you throughout your life, you might regret if you were childish about your responsibilities earlier in life. That said, it isn't to say you should try to live by society's guidelines for what constitutes maturity, but more that if you have a sense for what you want your life to be like in the long-term, having the maturity to handle and prepare yourself is a good thing. If you can find a balance between a light-hearted personality and a mature approach to your personal responsibilities, I think that's good.
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Posted 5/25/14

MakotoKamui wrote:

I haven't really felt any pressure to change or grow up since I was a teenager. I mean, I have a job and a house now, but I don't think those are signs of maturity so much as means to an end - that end being enjoying life, watching anime, reading books.. all the stuff I was doing as a teenager. I just have more space to put all my anime and wallscrolls and such

Most people I know find a groove they're comfortable in and tend to stay that way for long periods of time. For some people, that involves serious meetings, fancy clothes, etc. Others prefer a party scene or bar hopping. Mine's always been anime or games with a small group of friends, so I'd say I'm no more or less mature than I was as a kid. More confident about staying this way now than I was then, though..

So long as you're comfortable with yourself, there's no need to grow up or act more mature or anything else.


This for sure



anyone "growing up" and throwing away their anime stuff, donate it to me
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Posted 5/25/14
I really doubt this. My Brother is 40 Years old, and He still lives with My Parents. He's not done ONE thing in His adult life to try and advance Himself...I know this question varies with the Person You are speaking of, but I know many older People who act their Shoe size rather than their Age...
Posted 5/25/14

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i just accept my childish nature. i've long graduated college yet i still climb trees and watch cartoons and trepess on other people's property cough i mean ride around on the golf cart with the neighborhood kids. ... it's all good.... just don't get caught- cough i mean just have fun doing whatever


they have a word for this...pedophile
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Posted 5/25/14
I personally don't like concept of maturity since it implies you are done growing emotionally.

Though the idea that "age is just a number" is also untrue. Age is generally representative of experience. Usually a 40 year old will have more experience then a 25 year old, but not always.

And the idea that your personal activities have anything to do with maturity is an even worse concept. Certain activities, such as downhill skiing or mountain biking, have a high element of physical risk. Continuing those activities when you are post 35 is not very smart since losing time at work/career becomes more costly and the injuries take much longer to heal.

The only thing that has changed with my enjoyment of anime, science fiction and fantasy are which stories or series I like :)





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