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I'd say age doesn't define maturity, but there are things experienced as we age that influences the development of maturity. Perhaps that's why we get advice and personal opinions from the elderly or those who have gone through much because they have experiences. Personally, I don't feel much pressure in growing up but I do want to continue to grow as an individual, and maybe my innate childishness will help contribute to that.

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So frank.
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Age in no way shape or form equals maturity, I get people coming into the store i work at that are older than I am who come in and ride the bikes and skateboards and throw things around in the store, I then get to yell at them and or kick them out (which makes me happy) so I don't think age equals maturity at all
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At 18, my dad put my car in my name. He told me it was because if I got in a wreck, only I could be sued. When I graduated high school, I started paying my own car insurance. With the mild exception of some help along the way, I mostly paid my bills going through undergrad college (I am thankful for having scholarships and student loans for that). The way I see it, maturity is not something you seek out. That's a very immature way at looking at it. What you should be more concerned about is becoming more and more independent. I'm 23, and I still don't consider myself totally independent (I'm still in graduate school), and probably won't be for another year or so. However, it's something you should consistently seek out (I'm not telling you to go cold turkey), and start preparing yourself for. Because at the end of the day, becoming more independent is about growing up and taking responsibility for yourself. That may sound like maturity, but I consider maturity kinda its own separate thing.
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At 18, you'd have been considered middle aged in many historical societies. Maturity is nothing more then the application of experience to your day-to-day decisions. So by that standard, it's not so much a question of "how old are you" as it is "how much have you experienced". The big problem these days is that we cocoon people (of all ages) from experience under the guise of things like "safety" and "social stabity". So as a result, you are probably far less "mature" then an equivalent 18yo from several centuries ago.
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so i recently turned 18. and i cant help but feel a sense of like.. the need to be more 'mature' due to the age. looking around my room i see walls covered in anime and band goodies, my bed and desk are just the same. and it got me thinking about how people tell you to 'grow up' or that you'll 'grow out of it' due to your interests or personality.


I have countless friends over the years that have hit 20-something, stated "I gotta grow up, get rid of this stuff, be adult, get serious, ect, ect"
They do this for a few months to a year, then realize they hate their life.

You do not have to give up the stuff you love. If you do, you eventually will regret it.
Being an adult just means you can afford better toys.

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I recently turned 18 too!!
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stridersix wrote:

so i recently turned 18. and i cant help but feel a sense of like.. the need to be more 'mature' due to the age. looking around my room i see walls covered in anime and band goodies, my bed and desk are just the same. and it got me thinking about how people tell you to 'grow up' or that you'll 'grow out of it' due to your interests or personality.

i have a very child-like, careless and just generally immature way of life right now. i still glue to my mum the way i would at 5 years old. and i definitely don't have any plans to be wandering off into my own house and getting married and having babies and being a settled 'normal' adult.

don't get me wrong, you might look at this like WTF YA DOIN UR ONLI 18!!!1 im aware of that but my point is that i do feel there is a pressure there, maybe due to how quickly kids/teens seem to be growing up now, to just kinda 'grow up'. all i really wanna do is mong out in my bed all day, play ps3 and ds and watch anime.

so what's your opinion on the idea of age defining your maturity? does anyone else feel a pressure to change or grow up? or are you happy and accepting in your childish nature?


I turned 21 this past week, so I am not too old by any means, but one thing that I've learned is the best way to live life is to be both mature and childish. But, the key is to know when to be mature and when to shed the chains of adulthood.

People who are solely mature have no sense of humor and believe that doing things like watching anime or playing video games are taboo after a certain age. Likewise, people who are purely childish will spend their lives in pursuit of their own happiness without trying to make others happy or to give meaning to their life.

It's nice to be mature and decide what you want to do in life, who you want to form relationships with, etc. But, it's also important to be like a kid and be spontaneous, pursue your personal interests, laugh at inappropriate jokes, etc. I felt pressure like you have, but I took that pressure in stride and did not let it silence the kid in me.
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There will always be this sense of pressure when it comes with age and how you should act or maturity. People are different it's just the way we are, but people often associate things like age with the common ideology of others. I think that there is this sense of pressure when it comes to the way you act, but that's not always the case.

What matters is you grow up at your own pace, there are some things that you just can't help but do.

There are some things that others can't help you with, this is one of those things. Everything happens in their own time and things are different for everyone. We are who we are, there's no changing that, just do what you do. Sooner or later the pressure will subside because you will grow and think differently later on.
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i just accept my childish nature. i've long graduated college yet i still climb trees and watch cartoons and trepess on other people's property cough i mean ride around on the golf cart with the neighborhood kids. ... it's all good.... just don't get caught- cough i mean just have fun doing whatever


they have a word for this...pedophile


what's wrong with playing with kids or are you being facetious lol


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I thought popping out babies was the best part....


son you carry around a 6-11 lb baby for 9-10 months and push it out of a narrow sliver of muscle and then call it the best part
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im 19, and vastly more mature than most of my 25 year old friends. Also, having anime posters and such in your room does not make you immature. Immaturity comes from the way you behave and act in public (being rude to your elders, acting like a douche bag, not having proper mannerisms and so on). I have a massive collection of video games and anime dvd's all over my room (i would have posters if there was a place i could buy them in my country). Just because your 18, doesn't mean you need to change who you are in order to conform to the general idea of what "mature" is. You can be mature and still have a child like personality. I never changed who i was and never will. There is no such thing as maturity, you are who you are.
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shimmer_ wrote:

they have a word for this...pedophile


what's wrong with playing with kids or are you being facetious lol


which do you think it is
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as they say "its not how old you are, its how young you feel"
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After working in customer service for 4 years, I can tell you for sure that age =/= maturity
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I would have to say Age = Maturity or Experience. So, hopefully those with more experiences in life can learn from it and make better choices. Doesn't mean that some younger people don't have to experience those things sooner than others... some people live sheltered lives and don't have to grow up until much later in life... some aren't so lucky. To compare any kids today with those from the old days is a joke though.
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