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Post Reply Opinions are tricky and so is respect!
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Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
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Forgive me if doesn't make sense.

I've known that everyone on the face of the planet has the right to speak freely no matter how mean or nice it sounds. I get that there is no right or wrong when it comes stating your opinion but it tricky. I'll never completely understand people nor myself at all. I understand that I can say how I feel and shouldn't hold it in yet there are some things people don't want to hear. There are sensitive people out and about in this world along with insensitive people as well. Is it really not easy to respect someone entitled to say how they feel? Should you lie to yourself in order to please the other person? If someone says "there was nothing wrong with bullying people", isn't just their opinion and nothing more?

Respect isn't easy to do either. If you want respect then you have to earn it from the other person. I guess if you want your opinion to get respected then you should respect the other's as well. Nobody is willing to do so but at least there are some small few. I'm willing to respect any opinion no matter how mean or nice it may sound even if I don't do the same. It is not easy.

What I'm trying to get at is that opinions are like a sharp jagged double sword. Freedom of speech is unlimited and there is a reason why the word "freedom" is there. Some opinions are more popular than others but it does not matter since it only an opinion. Stating your opinion is being true to yourself yet if someone does not agree then is it your fault or theirs? Maybe I'm thinking to much on this( I tend to think a lot ) yet I can't help but be curious. Humans are such complex creatures and I still have no idea how we work.

Aside from that, tell me what you think about people stating their opinions and respect overall. Do you think I'm over thinking this TOO much for no reason? Should you say how you feel whether regardless if someone disagrees? Is it nice to consider someone's feeling when sharing your honest opinion?

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1. Can an opinion really make someone an asshole?

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Sadly, I wasn't able to probably fully explain this. It sounded so much better in my mind to be frank.

Just let me hear your thoughts, your ideas, your opinions. I wouldn't ask not bashing since people can say how they feel. I'll respect it.

Enjoy!





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I envy those who can freely express their opinion. No you're not over thinking this because it's a hard thing to think about. I feel that you should state your opinion in different scenarios. Since there's always going to be a different situation for everyone the only thing I feel you should take into consideration when stating your opinion is how it affects yourself and no one else. For instance, if you're in a situation where you state your opinion and someone gets hurt, try to ignore it and deal with how it affects you.

Sometimes it is nice to consider someones feelings when you state your opinion, but if you always have to do this, no one will hear your opinion.

In my opinion the best option is to just think about yourself when stating it. Don't state something if it's going to affect you in a negative way. If there's no affect or a positive one feel free to state it. Think about all the things that could and will happen after you if you say your opinion, then decide for yourself whether you should say it or not.

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Yes stating an opinion can make you seem like an asshole to others, but it doesn't mean you actually are one. If you say something that's an opinion, but you think it's true, but everyone else around disagrees you will seem like an asshole, but that doesn't actually make you one. There's always going to be people who disagree, but there's always going to be people who agree. You may seem like an asshole to some, but not to everyone.
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Another TL;DR thread.
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I do too. I'm what most people call a "people pleaser" and it is true. That is something I would love to change in myself. I want to express my opinion but I don't want any verbal confrontation. I like to watch other express their opinions and wonder if they know "it's only human". Your comment is very interesting to me.


Allync wrote:

Another TL;DR thread.


What does TL;DR mean?

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Allync wrote:

Another TL;DR thread.


What does TL;DR mean?


Means they dont wanna read all of that and need a summary, lol.
Posted 5/24/14
I think you've explained that quite clearly. It's not confusing at all.

I appreciate people who express their honest opinion, no matter how harsh it may be.
I prefer people who have real opinions.
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I see.
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Stating your opinion is being true to yourself yet if someone does not agree then is it your fault or theirs?


It depends. Like if you improve your opinion a few minutes later it could be your fault.


Should you say how you feel whether regardless if someone disagrees?


Yes as long as it doesn't create conflict.
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That is the part I get mixed feelings on.


GayAsianBoy wrote:

I think you've explained that quite clearly. It's not confusing at all.

I appreciate people who express their honest opinion, no matter how harsh it may be.
I prefer people who have real opinions.


Thank you. I did sound better in my head though.

Enough of that. I am slowly trying to understand people are free to say whatever they must. I must also understand that it's not really their fault, I'm just too sensitive. I'm always willing to be friendly, just want to be true to myself.

Does this make sense?

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That is the part I get mixed feelings on.


But if you turn your opinion in to a joke you could always win. Like if the person disagree with your opinion they will laugh at you telling you you are wrong without unnecessary conversation.
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I believe that there's a fine line between giving an opinion and being an asshole. Someone giving their opinions should expect possible backlash and be able to carefully weigh the risks involved. There's always a chain reaction. I also like to point out that honesty and opinions aren't mutually exclusive, and that a so-called opinion may very well be a lie. Plus, there are folks who purposely "stir the shitpot" and hurt people by giving their "perspective." Trolls exist both on and off of the Internet, and are certainly assholes.

I find that those who ask for honesty and then flip out over hearing it, or try to control what others say, are also being assholes.
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I like a good joke.
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qualeshia3 wrote:
Thank you. I did sound better in my head though.

Enough of that. I am slowly trying to understand people are free to say whatever they must. I must also understand that it's not really their fault, I'm just too sensitive. I'm always willing to be friendly, just want to be true to myself.

Does this make sense?


Different people react differently to themes/topics/words. But there will be someone who manages to offend even if you think you've become desensitized.
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aeb0717 wrote:

I believe that there's a fine line between giving an opinion and being an asshole. Someone giving their opinions should expect possible backlash and be able to carefully weigh the risks involved. There's always a chain reaction. I also like to point out that honesty and opinions aren't mutually exclusive, and that a so-called opinion may very well be a lie. Plus, there are folks who purposely "stir the shitpot" and hurt people by giving their "perspective." Trolls exist both on and off of the Internet, and are certainly assholes.

I find that those who ask for honesty and then flip out over hearing it, or try to control what others say, are also being assholes.


They can't handle honesty or just opinionated?


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qualeshia3 wrote:
Thank you. I did sound better in my head though.

Enough of that. I am slowly trying to understand people are free to say whatever they must. I must also understand that it's not really their fault, I'm just too sensitive. I'm always willing to be friendly, just want to be true to myself.

Does this make sense?


Different people react differently to themes/topics/words. But there will be someone who manages to offend even if you think you've become desensitized.


True. I guess I want to be ready for someone to offend me and able to handle it. I doubt if I can be ready for that though.

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