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opinions on internet dating?
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Posted 8/1/14
inefficient in my standards and would rather just score chicks in the real world
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Posted 8/2/14
I do online dating, and it's always gone over well for me, just as long as it's not long-distance, and I'm sure that she's not catfishing me.
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24 / M / Northern California
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Never done online dating but I wouldn't be against going on a date with someone I met online if the two of us live relatively close to each other. But if you gave me a choice between meeting someone online or meeting someone offline I'd choose the latter every time.
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I'm not sure if I'd do it myself, but I don't see the problem with it. My mothers friend started dating someone on the internet and now they're married and thinking about having children.
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37 / M / Fresno, CA
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Posted 8/2/14
Well the difference being that online you can be more brave than in real person, you can ask more questions, have more control of the situation. You meet when you want to, when you are sure you actually want to meet the person. Sure they can lie about themselves online but don't they do that already, it's up to you to ask the right questions to dwell deeper. One of the biggest down side to online dating is that people are only interested in your pictures, most do not read profiles and many are looking for booty calls or one night stands. Due to the influx of a holes online many are just saying all guys are the same making it harder for the ones that want to really find someone. Rejections are higher as well due to a higher number of people you try to message, people not responding with anything, though you are not obliged to respond many forget to be courteous to others. They never know who they are passing by just because your picture does not show ass, abs, acting like an ass or something like that, supposedly good looking, then they get played and start all over. Once you do find someone that you want to meet after getting to know them, then that's when the real life interaction occurs, so I think online dating acts like a buffer to many, an extra layer of getting to know one another. Great thing is that most are free to sign up, some offer free contacting, others you have to pay to see pictures or even message someone. Some sites contain the same people for years, not a lot to choose from, very few new members and the compatibility test are at times a joke. They do not work, so it is up to you to write a profile that will get your compatible partners attention, this is the crappiest part of online dating, selling yourself. You can spend hours on it but will they read it or just judge by your pictures? Age makes a difference as well, I see more people in their 30's on online dating, people who are serious about a relationship, for the younger users, what do you look for, marriage?
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26 / M / Winland
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Posted 8/2/14
I would not use dating site services, but I think it would be different if I stumble upon some girl online that happens to live relatively close.
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Posted 8/2/14
Meh, no thanks.
Posted 8/2/14

rotisserie wrote:

not my cup of tea but meh... to each their own



looked forward to this comment man. got that x factor about it.
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46 / M / Bay Area, CA, USA
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"Online dating" seems to mean a lot of different things to different people. I guess I'll just share my experience and be done with it. I met my wife through e-Harmony, and we've been married nearly three years with two kids. She's God's second greatest gift to me after Himself, and I've done nothing to deserve any of it-- but I'm glad to receive it, and it's made all the difference. Among my own acquaintances, I know of two or three other couples, all still happily married, who initially met through an online service. So, we're examples that it does work-- or to be more precise, that it can work.

That said, online dating doesn't guarantee you success-- it may not even have any greater rate of success than any other method-- and it doesn't create or sustain your relationship for you. It's not meant to substitute for meeting in person, getting to know each other, and developing a relationship in the "usual" manner. It's merely yet another method, enabled by modern technology, to initially put two people together who are, through the questionnaires and profiling ("X degrees of compatibility" or whatever), perhaps somewhat more likely to be compatible with each other than just two strangers meeting at random, and after that, it's really all up to you see if it works, and to work to make it work or not. As another poster mentioned, it's just another method to increase the pool of potential matches beyond those whom you might meet face-to-face in the normal course of your daily life. It's also perhaps not for everyone ("not my cup of tea...")-- if you don't like it, you don't like it, and that's fine. There are other ways, of course, out there. I only take issue with those who say it "never" works or is a "crutch." That's just not the facts (or at least not in every case).

And while online dating does have potential benefits (e.g. increased pool of potential matches, and maybe somewhat increasing the initial probability of compatibility), it does have its own hazards and downsides as well. This has already been discussed in other CR forums topics-- stories can be pretty amusing or horrifying or both, depending.... Nonetheless, I think it's like so much else in life-- garbage in garbage out (i.e. you still need to work at whatever relationships that might form), and you still need to keep your wits about you (plenty of creeps and frauds out there, or those just playing around), and you need a tough skin (rejection hurts and the scars perhaps never go away completely, but better to not be defeated by it-- and maybe even learn from it-- as it's all but inevitable)-- and I think of it more of a potential opportunity for those who choose to avail themselves of it, rather than a liability. Just my opinion.
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Posted 8/2/14
Online, I can be who I am and not feel guilty about it. I'm very shy and guarded, normally. I like the false confidence I get when chatting with someone who will never know about my hangups or flaws without me trusting them with that info. I also like not having to explain why "social anxiety" makes me act the way I do around people. That being said, I haven't tried online dating. The "meeting" part would turn my cyber-confidence to mush and I would appear before my possible soul mate as a socially inept buffoon. Fml
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Totally agree with you. Well described the online dating scenario. I can't really add more. Although there's always someone genuine enough to care about your profile, in which you put so much effort.
As for me, i'm not the online dating kind of guy, i prefer real interactions. And if you are from really far, like me, hardly you can get a date with someone from America, for example!
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17 / M / Galaxy
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Posted 8/2/14
I will tell you this.For some people it works out for them, for some it doesn't.I have tried it before it was terrible lol.You don't even know those people (or even if you do) they could be faking their identity for all who knows.In the end whatever choice you make is yours.
Posted 8/2/14
SAO is the good explanation for how to date girls online.
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Posted 8/2/14
I have never tried it, but I'm by no means against it. Just know that the person isn't fake. Wouldn't wanna end up on Catfish xD
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37 / M / Fresno, CA
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Posted 8/2/14
Just use the 10% rule, be 10% smarter than the object you are working with, in this case, dating profiles. You have the internet at your disposal, use it, check, investigate.
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