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Do you need to be Social?
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I don't think you need to be too social, unless you're the type that thrives off of social interaction. Some people get their energy from being with others while some people find it draining to be around others. I'm the latter so I need to deal with people in small doses. However, now that I have more time on my hands, I do want to find more people who share my interests, so I would like to be more social. But I would only want to make a few good close friends, not a thousand acquaintances. Unfortunately, I get the feeling most people my age don't seem to think that way. It's even harder since I don't like to drink or go out to clubs.

I do think a bit of social interaction on a daily basis is good though. Even if you're not that social, I think you do need to know how to socialize, and also you need people you can reach out to when you need help.


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Yes, I need to be social. I will literally go crazy if I don't socialize. There's some negative stuff going on inside my head when I'm left alone in my room for so long and I have to go outside and talk to someone - just anyone - to get them out of my head. ; A ;

To be perfectly honest, I only have one friend right now. Having a lot of friends is just too stressful for me. There's a lot of drama, I shun myself from them since I couldn't handle it anymore. It sounds selfish, yeah, they called me selfish and I thought I was selfish. I had depression because of all of it. But when I found out I'm an introvert, everything makes sense now why I couldn't give my friends my equal attention.

So again I have one friend right now but I have acquaintances. I don't have to expect anything from them and they don't have to expect anything from me either. We can go out and have fun, sometimes I don't have to go if I don't want to and everyone's okay with that. We don't share some emotionally deep stuff with each other, thank goodness. I can go socialize with them without the drama. o u o
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I am a bit of a socialite so I have to interact with people myself. But i'm not one of those people that have hundreds of contacts that I can contact at a moments notice either.

One thing that has always thrown me off in these forums are the people saying they have 0 social/human interaction, yet are only like... 15-18 years old (according to their profiles) which makes me wonder... do you not have parents or family? Do you not go to school? For those in the 17+ range do you not have a job? I find it hard to believe that someone of that age can be completely cut off from their immediate family or not going to school at all. Despite what you think that is social interaction. I went through school, tried my hardest not to stand out, but despite that trying I still have to talk to my family, still had to talk to teachers at school, occasional classmate talked to me about something, coworkers would ask me things...

It was literally IMPOSSIBLE to have 0 interaction. I think people are just comparing themselves to the type of people, mostly seen on TV I think, where their contact list is full on their phones, and they are surrounded by people 24/7 practically. Yeah when compared to that talking with <10 people a week could be considered not much to almost no interaction, but you are still having interaction with people.
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I'd say we do but not every day.
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If you're not social and feel you're missing something, be more social.

If you don't, don't.

That was hard
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you should do what ever YOU want to do. Not what others in society want you to do.
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I DO
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18 / F / Canada
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sadly yes, i wish it were optional but everything revolves making connections irl and stuff
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20 / M / Eng Land
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Depends on the person. Some people love being around others, and while I appreciate the peace and quiet, since I live with my family 24/7 I can't really say how I'd feel if I were constantly on my own. Honestly, part of the point of being social is that you enjoy it. If you're not enjoying it then that's probably doing you more bad than good. As far as friends go I have about 2 now that I've left school (not including a few fellow internet chums). One is a best friend, and the other is a friend of his. We sometimes chat on Skype, and we're going out drinking for my 18th birthday next month, but especially since I don't have a job at the moment I don't really have a lot of social activity outside of being with my family or going for a walk every 1 or 2 days. I usually prefer being left to my own devices in private, and I was always more of the quiet listener than the talker at school, and I don't really feel like I missed out on anything by being like that. Ultimately, depending on your beliefs, you only live once, so you might as well enjoy that one life how you want, rather than how society wants you to (within reason).
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It depends on what you call a 'social life'.

All of you on this forum are being social in a way. You're coming to a forum to talk about different things that interest you with other people that share a common interests. That in of it self is being social. If you truly had no desire to be social with other people you wouldn't do things like forum posts, chatting, facebook, etc. You'd sit alone and speak to no one outside of true necessity (like the cashier at the grocery store).

Being social does not require you to have a thousand friends that you go out and do things with all the time. A majority of people's social groups consist of their family, a significant other (if they have one), and one or two close friends. There's nothing wrong with that at all. Human beings are social creatures by nature. Very, very few of us are self sufficient-- everyone needs to have some form of human contact or another to simply survive. For some people that amount varies. A lot of people can get by with a core group as mentioned above. Other crave knowing tons of people and having a wide circle. Neither is wrong.
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Lowlights wrote:

If you're not social and feel you're missing something, be more social.

If you don't, don't.

That was hard


this.
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being social opens a lot of doors for you I say having a social life is a healthy part of life and we should all have one
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36 / M / germany
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being social can be nice but it also can be difficult people exist like introverts, extroverts and the like and if you dont have same interests or something else in common theres no base for being social together i have one good friend left my family is important to me and our neighbours are nice to talk to. I had in the past way more friends but when you get older at some point you lose contact to people they move away get married have children they have to take care of its not easy nowadays i also blame the internet most people get to convenient to only talk over the internet no one wants to go out somewhere and if they go out they only want to drink alcohol go to partys. Im not like that cause i dont wanna party the whole time also i dont like crowds of people and if theres music involved you cant understand a single word how can you really be social there.
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22 / M / Honnouji academy
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Posted 6/11/14
I'm all about that socializing with my couch, my remote controller and my computer.
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22 / M / Florida
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Posted 6/11/14
Everyone is different it all depends on what you want to do with your life. Never force yourself to do something you don't feel comfortable doing especially if other people pressure you on doing it, I think being social is a good thing to have in life, because it keeps you mentally healthy and lets you express you ideas and thoughts with people around you, which does lead to both bad and good times but mostly good times.. anyways everyone keep doing what you want to do, and when you feel like changing then go for it and don't give up until you try it..
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