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Do you need to be Social?
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Don't want it. Don't need it

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i wasn't social for the bulk of high school and parts of college, and i was fine.
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I don't need it.

It's OK to not be social and not want to be social.

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20 / M / Tórshavn
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Posted 6/11/14 , edited 6/11/14
No you don't need to be social, though you will be judged by society as a freak if you did so. But you can't really just stop socializing, because you need work, you need to buy stuff, you couldn't do that if you didn't socialize with someone else.
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Like many have said, if you feel like you're missing something by not being social, then yeah, you probably need to be social. If you're comfortable by yourself, then you're probably fine as you are. Some people are more extroverted than others.

I've been fairly lucky in terms of social exposure. I'm strongly introverted, and like most strongly introverted people, what puts me off of socializing is that most people don't share my interests, or that they get me involved in drama. I've had the good fortune to run into a fairly sizable number of people who are into the same stuff as I am (read: fellow nerds), and while they do sometimes have stuff they need to deal with, I'm okay with helping them out if I can, because I genuinely like them and have known them for a long time. Basically, I've got a sort of nakama. Don't get me wrong, I'm still the group hermit, and my friends usually know better than to ask me to do stuff with them more than every couple days or so, because I'm usually not up for socializing for an extended period, but I'm very happy that I have the friends I do, and there's no doubt that they enrich my life.

Like-minded, low-maintenance people do exist. I was lucky enough to have an extroverted brother who would make lots of friends and introduce me to them, and found a lot of friends myself that way, so I can't speak from experience when it comes to finding people like that. However, I'd advise anyone who wants to find more friends but can't conquer their social discomfort to try and befriend a more extroverted person who shares your interests. They'll probably already know a couple other people who you'd also like.

Don't underestimate the effect you have on your environment, either. In my experience, as someone who would often read or work on personal projects in public places like school or the park, it's far from uncommon for people to get curious about what you're doing and approach you about it. It's tough, but possible, to resist the urge to just deflect curious people away. If you explain the interest you're pursuing to these people, they might just happen to share it, and you could potentially make a friend like that. Looking back to my school days, I realize now that most of the people who would 'bother' me while I was doing something like that basically just wanted to befriend me, and I wish I hadn't rebuffed them as persistently as I did.

Keep in mind that most people have social lives, and that consequently, there are a lot more fellow introverts out there than you'd probably expect, who just happened to fall into a comfortable place, like I did. I'm not saying you should go out and look for friends if you're happy as you are, but if you do feel lonely, I encourage you to put in your best effort, because it's worth it.
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if you don't want to be, then you don't need to be. Introverted people can also be very successful.
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17 / F / CT
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Yes you need it. Without people may turn crazy without social interaction. I tried being alone for a year, literally I talked to absolutely no one. What happened was I was depressed everyday and I was so lonely. I forgot what happiness felt like.
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Wasn't there a thread like this before? I swear I answered something like this not too too long ago...
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You don't need to be a social butterfly, but having social skills such as being proficient enough in communication is vital in the working world.
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25 / F / New Jersey, USA
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Different opinions and nothing is set in stone either.
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24 / M / U.S.
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For myself I do need to be.
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18 / M / MASS!
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yes
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23 / M / Beyond The Wall
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Having a job is enough social interaction
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TheChowster wrote: So, it's a lot easier to just not be social or have as little contact with people as I can, now that doesn't mean I cut myself off from everyone else, but I just don't purposely go out there and try to make friends. I guess I could be more social if I found more people like myself, but that seems really unlikely.

I seem to be doing just fine being alone most of the time, it's just that I'm a lot more awkward when I do meet people, but now this just depends on how you define alone.

Your post stinks a bit of suppressed sadness. You might not mind it most of the time, but I'm sure you get these bouts of anxiety about not being more active and having more people you can relate to IRL. You should re-read your post with the understanding that if you feel a bit separate, chances are you won't meet many people you can bond with. What this means is that if you don't make the effort to meet anybody, your chances of finding people you enjoy being with become effectively null, so it's better to play the game and try to have fun while you're at it, in the hope of meeting people who'll become your real friends later on.
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There are so many terrible choices that I would have made in my life if I had not been social. I may not have been able to sit and type this right now if I didn't have the help of my friends and family. There is also so much fun in the world that can be experienced so much more with more people. Just the little things like talking to someone about the new game of thrones episode or having a kick about in the park. It just makes life so much better when you are social. Even if you find it hard to communicate with other people it helps to find someone like you. It honestly makes me feel very sad imagining a life without my friends in it.
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