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Jonexe 
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Posted 6/17/14
Some of you have a strange view of relationships and marriage.

Just because you're married, just because you have kids even, doesn't mean you just stop doing all the things you love to do and being the person you enjoy being. You just take a slice of the time you'd spend on those things and give it to your children and significant other. People who "settle down" and stop being who they want to be are the stereotypical unhappy people. I was married, I have a child, and I work a lot of long hours; during all of that I stilled played video games, I still watched anime, and I still did everything I loved to do. Some days I only got to do those for an hour or two; but I still did them.

More to the topic, you never "settle down" with someone you don't really care for. All you're going to do is breed contempt. You find someone that you can fully invest into. That person is going to be the kind of person that shares your interests to some extent. Instead of "settling down" you continue to do the things you love, with someone you love doing them right along with you.
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Posted 6/18/14 , edited 6/18/14
If they're rich and hot, why not?

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Posted 6/18/14
Meh I wouldn't settle down with someone whom I have almost no feelings for.. I just wouldn't be able.
Posted 6/18/14
Settling for anything is death through stagnation.
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28 / M / Winnipeg
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Posted 6/18/14
My very best friend in the world proposed to his now wife a couple weeks ago. :3
I envy him.
He finally found the woman he wanted to love for the rest of his life... Nisekoi, kiss my cheeks!
My second best friend will propose (if my pressure got to him) the next time they travel, either to Japan or Germany (based on their culture).
I'm the only one left. And I bet I'll... like some vague body... at some point.
Wait...
I'm the Reek of the Greyjoys, aren't I?
;_;
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Posted 6/18/14
Do you think people here know shit about girls and relationships?
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Posted 6/18/14
HELL NO lol
You're hurting yourself by living with someone you don't care much for, and if the other party cares for you a lot, this type of one-sided affection is totally and completely unfair.

Then again, logic doesn't stop most people.
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26 / F / Boston
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Posted 6/18/14
I don't really think I could "settle down" with someone I didn't picture myself spending the rest of my life with. Although, I never really considered myself settled? While I'm married, I guess I always thought settled meant that you had kids and whatnot. I enjoy being married, but having kids isn't something I'm into. I'm a career woman and I'm no one's housewife. So, I think settled is what you make it. I'm about to move half way across the country with my husband. We travel almost every weekend. My life is constantly changing. Settled? No. I'm having fun with my best friend.
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24 / F / Johnstown, PA, USA
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Posted 6/18/14 , edited 6/18/14
Yes, it's acceptable. Marriage for romantic reasons wasn't especially popular until the 20th century, and it's not as though the modern romantic standard has done much to to improve marriage life. Granted, I don't want to marry a virtual stranger, but it's not my place deem that sort of thing as "unacceptable."
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Posted 6/18/14 , edited 6/18/14

Raimu4 wrote:

Do you think people here know shit about girls and relationships?


right?? the girls here don't know anything about girls
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Posted 6/18/14
life anit perfect. some times you take what you can get and try and make the best of it.
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Posted 6/18/14
If you don't have feelings for someone, why even be with them?
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Posted 6/19/14

Sogno- wrote:


Raimu4 wrote:

Do you think people here know shit about girls and relationships?


right?? the girls here don't know anything about girls


There are no girls on the internet.
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31 / M / Hemet, California
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Posted 6/19/14
No. If you do not have any feeling for said person and never will than all you're doing is setting both of you up for nothing but a life of misery.
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36 / M / Denver
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Posted 6/19/14
Although the posts in this thread are optimistic and encouraging, I'm betting a lot of you will "settle" anyway for fear of dying alone.

I also think most people confuse that twitter-painted obsessive phase in the beginning of a relationship as being permanent and enduring.
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