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Posted 6/19/14
Meh, it h.s. none of it matters. For real.
Posted 6/19/14
=] I trust in your experiences. Thank you so much.
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I'd walk right up to her and punch her square in the face.

Then say something along the lines of- DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?

Yeah. That should work.
Posted 6/19/14

MadameNoir wrote:


Slaughterhose69 wrote:

Don't a bitch about it. Been on that tip and its not a fun place to be. If you haven't tried to explain your side to her in a calm manner, not calling her stupid shit like a high school girl would, try that. If she is still being a creep, tell on her, sure you'll be a snitch, but at least you'll be a live snitch.


Oh woops! I kind of bitched about her to my friends because she was really starting to make me want to slice her up and dice her. Hey dude, you're really good at guessing the mind of a high school girl.


fights are never fun man, and ive watched mean girls enough to know whats up.
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Posted 6/19/14 , edited 6/19/14

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Nightblade370 wrote:


MadameNoir wrote:

Well....

So I rejected a girl and her undying love for me. (I like boys. I'm straight.)
She didn't take it very nicely and started hating on me and spreading rumours.

However, although she hates me, during class she glares and starts checking me out....

It's fucking creepy.

How would you make her stop?

It's super uncomfortable.

Whenever I walk past, she's psychotically glaring at me and trying to make me notice her and when I ignore her, her eyes look my body up and down.

I feel violated.

And also, since it was in class, I couldn't really point the rude finger and shove it up her face (I wouldn't want to touch her face. It's not very good looking. Neither is it very hygienic).

Thank you. I appreciate how you spent your time reading this.


If it helps, it is not discrimination towards gay people, and if I can carry any credibility here, I come from a lesbian headed household, and so I'd know if its discrimination or not.

The best thing you can do is report to the school that you are being sexually harassed, which is a legitimate issue that the school will take seriously, no matter one's background, creed, etc and because this is sexual harassment (any form of violation, even including violation of personal space, by definition, is considered sexual harassment professionally; any teacher would tell you that). It might not seem like it at times, but teachers are trained to know what to do in situations like this and they will take appropriate measures. I would recommend telling the teacher who teaches the class you have in common with your sexual harasser so that the problem can be dealt with directly, or if you don't feel comfortable talking to them, talk to an administrator or a teacher you trust.

It is also important that you tell your parents or guardian about this as well because they would also know how to handle the situation and parents are pretty powerful in the school's eyes (your parents' taxes are paying their salaries after all; they will comply to parental requests) and also for emotional comfort because parents are meant to be there for you during times like these. Appropriate measures will be taken by adults who know and are trained to know what to do and the problem will be taken care of swiftly and directly.

And one more thing: it will be alright. It won't be made a big deal; it will not even be treated as a big deal and the school will ensure that you are safe and that the problem will disappear. Schools take sexual harassment very seriously and violation of any for of warning (assuming there are warnings) are handled with swift, decisive punishment. Your feelings are legitimate and you'll make it through this.

I hope I have helped in any way.


:oo That was a good bunch of feedback!! Thanks so much!!! <333


Of course! Anytime ^_^
Posted 6/19/14

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MadameNoir wrote:


Slaughterhose69 wrote:

Don't a bitch about it. Been on that tip and its not a fun place to be. If you haven't tried to explain your side to her in a calm manner, not calling her stupid shit like a high school girl would, try that. If she is still being a creep, tell on her, sure you'll be a snitch, but at least you'll be a live snitch.


Oh woops! I kind of bitched about her to my friends because she was really starting to make me want to slice her up and dice her. Hey dude, you're really good at guessing the mind of a high school girl.


fights are never fun man, and ive watched mean girls enough to know whats up.


Were you in a co-ed high school? I thought there were rarely fights in those schools. It's usually in the single sex schools like mine - all girls.
Posted 6/19/14
Didn't mean to be sarcastic, just my honest opinion. If you do feel it's bad enough then aeb had the best answer
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Use a future diary to avoid here.
Posted 6/19/14

MadameNoir wrote:


Slaughterhose69 wrote:


MadameNoir wrote:


Slaughterhose69 wrote:

Don't a bitch about it. Been on that tip and its not a fun place to be. If you haven't tried to explain your side to her in a calm manner, not calling her stupid shit like a high school girl would, try that. If she is still being a creep, tell on her, sure you'll be a snitch, but at least you'll be a live snitch.


Oh woops! I kind of bitched about her to my friends because she was really starting to make me want to slice her up and dice her. Hey dude, you're really good at guessing the mind of a high school girl.


fights are never fun man, and ive watched mean girls enough to know whats up.


Were you in a co-ed high school? I thought there were rarely fights in those schools. It's usually in the single sex schools like mine - all girls.


Where two or more are gathered there are fights my dear. Although I could imagine that same sex schools exacerbate that fact. Keep your head down and get through it, or take it by the balls and own that shit. At your age it's really all about being "all or nothing".
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Posted 6/19/14 , edited 6/19/14

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Woah... U.U Things can get even worse than now? I'm going to go to the counsellor ASAP. Thanks for taking time to read this and for giving me advice!!!


You're welcome. My older sister used to get caught up in drama that were around this level and higher throughout most of her teenage years, so I have substantial eye-witness experience with how ugly school drama can actually be. Your case sounds far from typical, since she's going full creep on you, as well as the nature of the accusations she's made against you. Those are the sort of rumors that can result in you being made to be psychologically evaluated and attend therapy by the school officials. In other words, she crossed the line out of normal HS drama and into a serious situation with possible real life consequences.
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Posted 6/19/14
I don't really have much to say that hasn't already been said, but yeah, it's important to let an adult you trust know about this. Explain the situation clearly even if (as somebody else mentioned) the girl talks to the school administration or counselor first. They are responsible for listening to both sides of a disagreement (I would think), so they should listen.
Oh, some personal advice that's not totally generic (although maybe a bit self-obvious): If you're feeling uncomfortable because of the way she's staring at you, you might want to try wearing more conservative clothing. I have no idea what you normally wear (obviously), but try to avoid provocative clothing. Even if it doesn't make a difference in her behavior, it might help you feel more secure. Not sure if that helps, but it's something I would do.
And don't worry about being labeled homophobic because a.) if the girl is acting the way you describe her (acting repeatedly in a way that makes you uncomfortable), that definitely falls under the category of harassment of some kind (at least in my school district) and it doesn't matter what gender either of you are and b.) if you're worried about being labeled a homophobe, you probably won't be. (Well, generally speaking.)

She has the right to ask you out, and you have the right to refuse. You are not obligated to go out with anyone, female or male. Simple as that.
Good luck sorting things out!
Posted 6/19/14

aeb0717 wrote:


MadameNoir wrote:



Woah... U.U Things can get even worse than now? I'm going to go to the counsellor ASAP. Thanks for taking time to read this and for giving me advice!!!


You're welcome. My older sister used to get caught up in drama that were around this level and higher throughout most of her teenage years, so I have substantial eye-witness experience with how ugly school drama can actually be. Your case sounds far from typical, since she's going full creep on you, as well as the nature of the accusations she's made against you. Those are the sort of rumors that can result in you being made to be psychologically evaluated and attend therapy by the school officials. In other words, she crossed the line out of normal HS drama and into a serious situation with possible real life consequences.


I really hope that your sister is faring better these days. Because I also have had several dramas throughout the years, they keep escalating! Thank you. Thank you. And.. Thank you again. I wish you the best today and I hope you have a lovely day! Or night.. Or afternoon! xD
Posted 6/19/14

aeb0717 wrote:

Put aside your fears of seeming homophobic and talk to the school counselor. ASAP. Part of the counselor's job is to help handle these type of delicate situations. For the counselor to write off your case as you being discriminatory is unprofessional and can put his/her job on the line. Assume that the counselor will follow protocol and look into it. Your malevolent "friend" may be the type to run to the counselor herself and fabricate a story, so it's a good move to quickly neutralize the possibility. Also, tell your parents, friends, and whoever else may listen. You would be in a bad position if this escalates further and you have no one to vouch for you. She clearly wants to isolate you from everyone. DON'T LET HER. It's especially important to get your parents and other adults on your side, because she's least able to manipulate them. Your parents are your greatest asset in this kind of situation, because they're your home-base adults with particular insight on you. Not only can they defend your character the best, but they're also a valuable buffer between you and everyone else.


I definitely agree with this. If it has a chance of escalating it is always a good idea to at least have some sort of record out there that people have been made aware of the situation as early as possible so that it doesn't have a chance of being turned around on you.

A kid who was bullying me in middle school actually tried to do this and had his parents convinced I was the bully and had them fighting hard with the school to get something done to me. Luckily the school had been told by me and my parents when it first started happening and so they were a little bit more on my side with it. They were still useless in dealing with him but that's another story.
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Posted 6/19/14 , edited 6/19/14

MadameNoir wrote:

Well....

So I rejected a girl and her undying love for me. (I like boys. I'm straight.)
She didn't take it very nicely and started hating on me and spreading rumours.

However, although she hates me, during class she glares and starts checking me out....

It's fucking creepy.

How would you make her stop?

It's super uncomfortable.

Whenever I walk past, she's psychotically glaring at me and trying to make me notice her and when I ignore her, her eyes look my body up and down.

I feel violated.

And also, since it was in class, I couldn't really point the rude finger and shove it up her face (I wouldn't want to touch her face. It's not very good looking. Neither is it very hygienic).

Thank you. I appreciate how you spent your time reading this.


Hi, looks like you got some good advice--glad so many people could help.

However, individual personal help threads are against CR's site rules so I'm closing this now. In the future please use the shared General Help/Advice Thread (stickied near the top of the General Discussion forum) to request personal help or advice.
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