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How to cope with breaking up in a relationship and making friends
Posted 6/22/14

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Natier- No, Just stating the obvious. Why can't a teenager fall in love? Do you have a scientific answer to that? Yes, your brain is not fully developed at that time, but you still harness the feeling of love. I think your negativity can go elsewhere. =)


You're misunderstanding what I said. I complimented her age, I didn't mean to link it to relationships. I don't believe true love either, so why would I apply age to that?
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take some time to do stuff for you, do nice things for yourself, maybe buy something nice if you have the cash. hang out with friends, talk about how you feel, etc.

and if this guy is someone you see often (which im assuming from your posts) take a little time away from him to focus on yourself.

:) good luck! you will feel better i promise.
Posted 6/22/14
watch kill bill and you're sorted
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Natier- My apologies, I was givin' the impression you were calling her stupid for being young and in love. I do agree with you though, there is no such thing as true love. Nothing in this life is smooth sailing, let alone "love" lol
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Vent your grief/anger into something you find productive like slaughtering children or playing with kittens. Honestly, do you really want to dwell on someone who has taken something from you when you can die any day, any hour, at any given time? Talking things out helps, but remember the clock is ticking. Tch, forum posts.
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Long term relationship when you are 17? So you were dating since you were 10?

Also why are you asking advice about friends an relationships on a anime forum?
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Posted 6/22/14
I deal with my problems by drinking, but that isn't for everybody. Personally, I would recommend spending some time by yourself. It's easy to get sucked back into a relationship and not usually a good one at that. If you have any hobbies you do, focus hard on that. Getting wrapped up in one of those helps get your mind off of things and lets you focus on something you enjoy. Soon things won't seem as bad and you'll feel better.
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Good Luck!
Posted 6/22/14

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Good Luck!


What a loser mentality. Not helpful at all.
Posted 6/22/14 , edited 6/22/14


Surround yourself socially with others whether it may be IRL with some friends or through internet.
Posted 6/22/14 , edited 6/22/14

Punk29 wrote:

Today my long term boyfriend has decided that it is best that we break up.
I'm honestly crushed and I was hoping I could make some friends here and also find out how everyone has coped in the past with a break-up.
My self confidence has completely plumetted - I have depression and it has just really wrecked that. I don't feel pretty at all nor do I feel like I can move on or will be wanted by someone else in the future.
I feel really ugly and just sad xD
Advice will be appreciated and yes I am always happy to make new friends here :3
Thank you <3<3


Don't do it the way I did it.

I wrote a song for him about what an asshole he was, sang it, and then the next day, he got his friends round my house to throw stuff at me and the house

I was just 16.

19 now. Sure learnt a lesson.

Anyway, take time to explore your own personal interests.
Avoid activities that bring out a strong link of him.
Chuck all the things he has given you.
Time to move on mentality.
Hang out with more friends, preferably best friends who won't gossip behind your back and tell other snotty brats what's been up in your lane.
And also...

Watch anime? Make some friends here.

Rant.

Draw pictures.

Take selfies.

Exercise and better yourself.

Forgive him (I know it's hard.)

But by hating him, that's just a waste of time now. Cause like.... He probably doesn't care.

And if you guys are still friends. Don't be too willing to talk to him. Just ignore him till you feel slightly better. If he wants to talk, just say "I'm sorry. I need some time off because of.. you know?" And he'll let you be,

By taking time off you can get over him as well. So... benefits (Y)

If you're nothing without your 'better half' then you're not really yourself.

In a relationship it should be YOU, as a person. And you and him as one item. Please don't lose your identity.
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Posted 6/22/14 , edited 6/22/14
best thing to do. Go out and have fun. Do stuff to keep your mind off of stuff. If you stay at home and allow yourself to wallow in a pit of self loathing.. it will only get worse, take it from me. i have been there MANY times. It sucks.. but doing stuff you love to do, and then loving yourself, is the best treatment
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Posted 6/22/14 , edited 6/22/14

Natier wrote:


pandrasb wrote:





Good Luck!


What a loser mentality. Not helpful at all.


And who are you? The OP?

Anyway I won't fill this thread with refutes, just PM me if you want to reply
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I was dating a girl for 2 years when I found out she had accepted my best friends feelings for her, that completely destroyed me and it caused me to go through depression for about a year, I had stopped caring about anyone else and everything until I decided I needed to move on with my life and talked with her about it and then started trying to get back on track, seeing my friends, finding a job. Getting over the past is the best thing you can do, forgive and forget. I'm still a little broken but enjoying life way more now.

But I'd say there were good things that came out of it too, I became a lot more mature and stopped being a little retarded spastic and now have a broader view on life.
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Posted 6/22/14 , edited 6/22/14

Punk29 wrote:

Today my long term boyfriend has decided that it is best that we break up.
I'm honestly crushed and I was hoping I could make some friends here and also find out how everyone has coped in the past with a break-up.
My self confidence has completely plumetted - I have depression and it has just really wrecked that. I don't feel pretty at all nor do I feel like I can move on or will be wanted by someone else in the future.
I feel really ugly and just sad xD
Advice will be appreciated and yes I am always happy to make new friends here :3
Thank you <3<3

I have never faced a break-up before, so you can take this with a grain of salt (I hope I used that expression correctly), but FUCK HIM. My girlfriend's telling me to type, "eat sweets and listen to fun songs like ハレ晴レユカイ、” but I seriously hope you don't do that too much lol...

In any case, the fact that you can share your problems with a bunch of strangers makes you a beautiful person. Plus, you wouldn't have had a long-term boyfriend in the first place if you weren't pretty, and no doubt that you'll be wanted by someone else in the future.

If you're still feeling down, then just remember...
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