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How to cope with breaking up in a relationship and making friends
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A break up, eh? Superglue usually fixes that, doesn't it?
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Posted 6/22/14

BLACKOUTMK2 wrote:

A break up, eh? Superglue usually fixes that, doesn't it?


That or a lot of duct tape.
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So many people say time will heal. I said that to myself last year after my break up. Hey, it's over a year now and it still hurts. I wouldn't say it's worse or the same. It IS better but it STILL hurts and I STILL don't think I'm okay BUT what I CAN say is, distractions, hobbies help.
Distractions such as anime, video games or any sort of sports to keep you occupied and not think about what happened. Of course it's hard to not think about it but when you're distracted, it helps.

For me personally, I took up boxing and whenever I think back on things I regret I try to take my mind off by doing some shadow boxing. Anime worked wonders, helped me smile when no one ever could. And dota man, dota with friends. Dota or league, such games can take you away from reality. I never think about anything but the game during the game. Of course it's all shit after the games over but still.

So anyway, I still believe time heals but relying completely on it isn't the way to go. You need to take steps, force yourself to not to think. Do not ruin your health because of this. Eat regularly, healthy food etc. Sleep on time, won't be possible but maybe tire yourself during the day by exercise maybe. Stay positive.
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Posted 6/23/14

pants28 wrote:


BLACKOUTMK2 wrote:

A break up, eh? Superglue usually fixes that, doesn't it?


That or a lot of duct tape.


You mean this stuff?

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Posted 6/23/14
Time may heal all wounds but wounds leave scars.
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I disagree with a lot of the people here who say "Oh, your'e too young for this." Just because they're older doesn't mean you can't feel loved, or you can't hate yourself. You guys need to get a reality check. I know how you feel, with break ups and all. They suck. I've only had one girlfriend before and we were strong for a long time. But then all of a sudden she didn't have feelings for me. They were for my best friend -_- Needless to say, I was pretty upset. We broke up about 8 months ago, and tho it did take a while for me to get over her, I did. The best way is to just have a good friend who will listen to your vent sessions. I find it great to vent. So ya, that is my advice. If you ever wanna vent or just talk, let me know
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I can tell you that it's been about 3 months since my break up with my girlfriend, and I still don't have any self-confidence to speak of. Especially not sexually. She managed to shatter whatever confidence I had in that area. I honestly do believe that this break up could have gone a WHOLE lot better on both of our parts so that might be some reason for it.
After the break up, I started working out whenever I felt shitty and it helped vent my frustrations. Also, talking to people on CR helps too. I've had some of the best conversations with people on this website than any other site. Don't underestimate the amount of time you need to wait before seeing him again. I started talking to her recently and all she really wanted to talk about was her new boyfriend, which I could handle until I saw pictures of them together. That was too much for me.
Basically, distract yourself when you need to, but don't be afraid to think about things. You still need to reach your own conclusions about the relationship.
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Posted 6/23/14

Natier wrote:

Wow, you're so young.

Why did you like a guy to begin with? Are you stupid or something?


Aren't you a sweetheart ?
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Posted 6/23/14

Natier wrote:


pandrasb wrote:





Good Luck!


What a loser mentality. Not helpful at all.


Are you kidding the GIF is adorable
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gardion44 wrote:

I disagree with a lot of the people here who say "Oh, your'e too young for this." Just because they're older doesn't mean you can't feel loved, or you can't hate yourself. You guys need to get a reality check. I know how you feel, with break ups and all. They suck. I've only had one girlfriend before and we were strong for a long time. But then all of a sudden she didn't have feelings for me. They were for my best friend -_- Needless to say, I was pretty upset. We broke up about 8 months ago, and tho it did take a while for me to get over her, I did. The best way is to just have a good friend who will listen to your vent sessions. I find it great to vent. So ya, that is my advice. If you ever wanna vent or just talk, let me know


Ofcourse you disagree with us you are 16.
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Posted 6/23/14
Go on crunchyroll and watch anime!

Actually legit advice, I guess to be more specific, do things that you enjoy or anything that helps you relax. That could be drawing, playing games, watching shows, doing martial arts, etc. Realize your life is still fine without your bf in your life, and eventually life goes on. Breaking up is sad, but It can be a good experience for you later in life in learning how to cope with it.

Anime though. not the sad or angsty ones though, unless you'd feel those would make you feel better.
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Posted 6/23/14
I think you should just go out and enjoy life now. You are still young. go and have fun.
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Chances are since you had a boyfriend your not bad looking, just give yourself time and you'll move past it. Don't rush into a new love, let it find you.
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Punk29 wrote:

Today my long term boyfriend has decided that it is best that we break up.
I'm honestly crushed and I was hoping I could make some friends here and also find out how everyone has coped in the past with a break-up.
My self confidence has completely plumetted - I have depression and it has just really wrecked that. I don't feel pretty at all nor do I feel like I can move on or will be wanted by someone else in the future.
I feel really ugly and just sad xD
Advice will be appreciated and yes I am always happy to make new friends here :3
Thank you <3<3


My personal advice is to just wake up tomorrow and realize that you two had good times together but you must move on and know that there IS someone out there and you WILL find them. Experiment and make new friends because they come from the most unlikely of places. Trust me.
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