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Embarrassed?
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Posted 6/24/14
When you make a mistake, do you openly recognize and apologize?
Or do you brush it off apathetically.
Does the embarrassment reach high enough levels
where you blank out and go wild?
Or do you, to a lesser extent, act all tsun-tsun,
as if you meant to do it without admitting your error.

Basically, how do you cope with embarrassment,
AND
how do you react to the embarrassment of others.
Are you a hypocrite,
or just plain S?
Does it vary depending on the magnitude of embarrassment
or who it is?
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dafuq that avatar...
Posted 6/24/14
I openly recognize my error and just admit to it. I don't see a point in trying to play it off or anything. If it is embarrassing enough I just laugh about it too. I don't really freak out or anything since what's done is done.

When something embarrassing happens to others...it really depends on what happened and who it is. I'll laugh most times but sometimes I feel really bad for the person. One example being that while at Cedar Point my cousin who was, as he has since passed, a big guy sat down on one of their super cheap plastic chairs. It broke and he fell but everyone was staring at him or laughing and I felt terrible for him. If it was anyone smaller in size I probably would have laughed too but I just know that most people assumed he was too heavy for it when in fact the chair was just bad.
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Posted 6/24/14 , edited 6/24/14

alvhinne wrote:

dafuq that avatar...


wouldn't have noticed it, but it is pretty amusing XD


TripleBakaKimidori wrote:
Does it vary depending on the magnitude of embarrassment
or who it is?


yup, depends. If I've done something wrong I'll apologize for it, but if I was just simply embarrassed for whatever reason I'll likely just wave it off, possibly tell a friend about it later on and we can have a good laugh.
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Whoa whoa, calm down buster brown, that's a lot of questions.

Honestly? When I make a mistake and realise it, I usually apologise or acknowledge that I did. Often being humble gets you out of a lot of stuff without much of a hassle. I can't say I've ever blanked out from embarrassment before, but people often point out if my face turns red. I'll only say I meant to cock up as a joke. As for coping with embarrassment I just quickly rectify what I've caused and continue carrying on as usual, though of course it depends on the severity of said problem/scene I caused. As for reacting to the embarrassment of others, again, depends. Sometimes something's so hilarious I can't help but laugh, but other times I'll look the other way, or help out if they dropped something. And as for it varying between magnitude and who it is, then yes, yes it usually does.
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Man... It really depends on the situation. My most frequent issue with embarrassment was due to being overwhelmed at work. There is this one guy whom I work with who has an awkward sense of humor... he likes to tease or pester; something like that. He always seems to try to joke with me when I'm so stressed out I can't think and then I wind up saying something rude to him. I always apologize, I don't consider myself rude and when I behave badly, or say something out of place I know it and I correct it. On this particular occasion he called me out afterwards saying something to the effect of "I don't know why you hate me so much." That stung so bad. It was all I could think about. I was angry and embarrassed and so heartbroken that he thought I felt that way. It is my responsibility at work to handle money and therefore I would be talking with him before he could leave work. I cried. I told him that I didn't feel the way he thought I did at all. He knew that I was being sincere, and my reaction embarrassed me too. He doesn't tease me anymore, and we get along very well. When other people are in embarrassing situations I usually back off and let them adjust at first, then commiserate with them later. I do not feed into the ridicule of others, one day it could be me, and I hope someone will be there to support me when that happens.
Posted 6/24/14 , edited 6/24/14
i tend to apologize inside and forget to let the person know.. i hate announcing the obvious or saying what's obvious. as long as i know, i don't care to make it known to others.

if i recognize someone made a mistake and even if they don't apologise, i don't think i rub it in their face, what's the point? unless i know them and they can tell i'm teasing xD
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Posted 6/24/14
i spend most of my life embarrased and just keep a straight face tryin not to cry.
true story.
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My reaction to my own slip-ups is typically along the lines of this anime mainstay: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SillyMeGesture

I don't actually do the gesture, since that'd be way more embarrassing than whatever it is I actually did, but the same kind of sentiment is behind it: I admit my mistake and mock myself for it while also presenting it as not a big deal. Then I immediately rectify it. My main goal is to deflect any negativity directed at me, and this is the most effective way I've found to do so. In point of fact, I usually welcome people laughing about my mistakes, since it lightens the atmosphere and prevents people from getting caught up in the practical ramifications of whatever I've done for long enough for me to fix those details. I like being around amused people, and hate being around angry people, and I've found that generally speaking, people actually laughing at someone is relatively rare. Most of these sorts of mistakes are pretty amusing, and I'm not going to get offended by people having fun if it's not hurting anyone.

As a result, I'm also quicker than most to laugh when other people mess up, because I tend to assume that they're like me and can just enjoy the inherent comedy. I've gotten my share of odd looks for being the only one to snicker at things like that, and it sometimes surprises me that people get upset by that response: the last thing I'd want is my mistake taken seriously. Seeing as I make avoiding conflict a fairly high priority, though, I'm quick and sincere about apologizing if I do offend anyone, and if the mistake is actually a big deal, I drop the jocular attitude from the get-go and get to doing what I can to fix the problem.

Basically, if there's a laugh to be gotten out of it, I get it, because I don't see why I shouldn't. If it's no laughing matter (whether I know that right away, or if somebody else decides it's not), then I'm quick to treat it seriously, unless it was me that made a small mistake and somebody else is overreacting, in which case I will straight-up just get out of there until they cool off.
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i use to get embarrassed when i got boners in public for example at the all, at school, at the park but now i embrace it and its one of the best decisions i have ever made
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mall*
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Posted 6/25/14
If I am wrong I just admit
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I used to be embarrassed for people who post ugly photos of themselves on fb
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im usually like oh god oh god oh god oh god

for about three to six years until i forget about it

but i never....... truly forget
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I embarrass myself all the time. The difference is that I think, learn and laugh in time. Of course, thinking may include a bit of self-loathing and regret but who hasn't done that! :'D

If its with other people then I quickly say sorry to them.
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