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Posted 6/28/14 , edited 6/28/14
I'll back down at the end of the day I'm trying to save my own bacon...hmmm bacon.
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Posted 6/28/14
It depends if the other person seems like they are handling it. Most of the time I stand up for them and give a speech on why the person should stop being mean to the other. >o>
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Problem is.. If you try and help someone who is being assulted, in the eyes of the law, you're putting yourself in the situation... So if the attacker does manage to do some serious damage to you, then its you're fault

on the other hand, if you help the victim by using excessive force on the attacker, then you get charged for assult lol

There is literally zero benefit from helping some, unless you like to end up in hospital or with a criminal record lol
Posted 6/28/14
I've intervened plenty of times in verbal fights among my students, but that's part of my job. Personally, I try to stay out of such things as much as possible. Mostly because getting caught in the middle would do more harm to me than good to the person I'm trying to help.
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I usually try to stay out of fights, but it depends on who it is and what's going on. For example, if someone tries to start something with one of my friends/family, then I'll probably jump in regardless. With people I don't know, I often don't know the situation, so I'm more likely to stay out of it.

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Posted 6/28/14
To be honest, I would probably stand up for someone if I knew them, if not, I'd just ignore 'em.
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Posted 6/28/14

Novacat wrote:

Problem is.. If you try and help someone who is being assulted, in the eyes of the law, you're putting yourself in the situation... So if the attacker does manage to do some serious damage to you, then its you're fault

on the other hand, if you help the victim by using excessive force on the attacker, then you get charged for assult lol

There is literally zero benefit from helping some, unless you like to end up in hospital or with a criminal record lol


that's so true I learned that the hard way lol but still I couldn't help but get involved in cases like that , it might have just been my ego clouding my judgement
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Posted 6/28/14

Novacat wrote:

Problem is.. If you try and help someone who is being assulted, in the eyes of the law, you're putting yourself in the situation... So if the attacker does manage to do some serious damage to you, then its you're fault

on the other hand, if you help the victim by using excessive force on the attacker, then you get charged for assult lol

There is literally zero benefit from helping some, unless you like to end up in hospital or with a criminal record lol


You say zero benefit.. but that person would benefit from you saving them? in your case you could get hurt or even worse, call the cops.. If it was me id help, I couldn't stand and watch someone being hurt in any way.

Short story, I had friends, I watched them be mean to someone with muscular dystrophy, I couldn't take it anymore and me and my wife gave them an earful.
They couldn't handle it and I've lost all those friends. If standing up for someone and doing something right means i lose terrible friends, then i'm fine with that.

Do whats right no matter what the consequences are. Always think about the consequences but in my case i didn't lose much.
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Posted 6/28/14 , edited 6/28/14
Not going to lie. It depends on the person. I mean don't get me wrong i'll do "Something" if the person is small or weaker and didn't start the thing then i'll say something, or try and separate, or even fight for them BUT if i think they deserve it i'll make them internet famous :'3
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Posted 6/28/14 , edited 6/28/14
I would stand up for them (honestly, it really depends on the situation).
If someone were being bullied, I would definitely help the victim since I know very well how it feels to get bullied.
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Posted 6/28/14 , edited 6/28/14

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You say zero benefit.. but that person would benefit from you saving them? in your case you could get hurt or even worse, call the cops.. If it was me id help, I couldn't stand and watch someone being hurt in any way.

Short story, I had friends, I watched them be mean to someone with muscular dystrophy, I couldn't take it anymore and me and my wife gave them an earful.
They couldn't handle it and I've lost all those friends. If standing up for someone and doing something right means i lose terrible friends, then i'm fine with that.

Do whats right no matter what the consequences are. Always think about the consequences but in my case i didn't lose much.


Sorry, to clarify, I was replying to the OP about there is zero reason to get involved as in "be reckless and get involved knowing that it could be trouble for you at then end?" because no matter how heroic your action might seem, your putting yourself in the situation so you're liable to be arrested for assult and/or be caused harm to...


I'm only saying that becuase a friend of mine tried stopping an idiot stealing money from a homeless guy, after telling this guy to return the money and leave, he took a swing at my mate, mate then quickly gave the guy a punch to the face (mostly for self defence) while copper was coming down the road lol... Even after the homeless guy and about 3 spectators telling this copper my mate did nothing wrong... my mate ended up in the back of the cop car, the idiot got told to move on (Without having to retun the homeless mans money)


From personal exp.. The two times I've called the police regarding an at-the-time situation, both times I've been told its not a police matter, both times have resulted in a serious assult.

(Sorry, I broke this quote box... Dont use CR much)
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Posted 6/28/14

Novacat wrote:


-Paul- wrote:



You say zero benefit.. but that person would benefit from you saving them? in your case you could get hurt or even worse, call the cops.. If it was me id help, I couldn't stand and watch someone being hurt in any way.

Short story, I had friends, I watched them be mean to someone with muscular dystrophy, I couldn't take it anymore and me and my wife gave them an earful.
They couldn't handle it and I've lost all those friends. If standing up for someone and doing something right means i lose terrible friends, then i'm fine with that.

Do whats right no matter what the consequences are. Always think about the consequences but in my case i didn't lose much.


Sorry, to clarify, I was replying to the OP about there is zero reason to get involved as in "be reckless and get involved knowing that it could be trouble for you at then end?" because no matter how heroic your action might seem, your putting yourself in the situation so you're liable to be arrested for assult and/or be caused harm to...


I'm only saying that becuase a friend of mine tried stopping an idiot stealing money from a homeless guy, after telling this guy to return the money and leave, he took a swing at my mate, mate then quickly gave the guy a punch to the face (mostly for self defence) while copper was coming down the road lol... Even after the homeless guy and about 3 spectators telling this copper my mate did nothing wrong... my mate ended up in the back of the cop car, the idiot got told to move on (Without having to retun the homeless mans money)


From personal exp.. The two times I've called the police regarding an at-the-time situation, both times I've been told its not a police matter, both times have resulted in a serious assult.

(Sorry, I broke this quote box... Dont use CR much)


Ya that really sucks for your friend, but i understand what your saying. And your right about the police, but even if they don't come at least you tried. Just say omg hes gonna kill him come now! :p im sure they will come haha
Posted 6/29/14 , edited 6/29/14
Whether or not someone will help or not is affected by several things. One is their level of emotional intellect (the ability to empathize with others), and another is an interesting phenomenon, known as bystander effect (the more people around and witnessing a situation, the less likely anyone will offer aid). Bystander effect can be influenced by the age, gender, appearance and assumed social status of the person in distress, as well as assumptions about how they came to be in distress.

If you lack compassion and empathy, or are severely narcissistic, then you would find very little satisfaction, if any, in offering aid to others in distress. I hate to say it, but most immature (young) people lack the necessary emotional intellect to be moved to offer assistance (and narcissism is a normative juvenile state), whether or not there are ample witnesses around, despite any assessment of possible risks to themselves from the environment/situation. This is not to say that it isn't probable that later on, most people develop enormous amounts of compassion and empathy, just usually not early on in life.

Also, the higher your social status and the less experience you yourself have with personal adversity, the less likely you will be compassionate in any grievous situation.

These are all research-backed findings. Citings are available - just PM me if you'd like any particular resources.
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Posted 6/29/14
Well depends the situation, but for me it's surprising because I've never actually watched someone get bullied physically or enough that it attracted a lot attention. Also I've never witnessed someone get robbed besides my brother and he chased them down himself and beat their ass so I haven't been in the situation to react, but I'd probably only get involved in something I could win because I haven't achieved my goal in life yet and I don't want anything hindering that.
Posted 6/29/14
Been bullied. Been beat up. I've walked away from fights directed at me but stepped in front of others being targeted. I got bruises made me an outcast a bit of a loner . I can live with that but could never stand for the bigger and stronger picking on small or week.
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