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What is love to you?
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Xylofuse wrote:

I have three inherent definitions of love:

Love is complete acceptance: When we allow someone to be exactly as they are, without any belief that they aren’t good enough, without any belief that they would be “better” if they were different, this is Love.

Love is unconditional: When we truly love someone, we can’t stop loving them, regardless of what they do or say. If our love is dependent upon the other person acting and speaking how we want, then this love is completely conditional. We often confuse this to be love, but this is just positive thoughts about someone. This is just loving what a person says or does, not loving them. Positive thoughts or the thought “I love you” isn’t necessary to love. Sometimes it even gets in the way.

Love is selfless: True love doesn’t want anything in return, because there is nothing it needs. We just love for the sake of love. When we love someone, we don’t look for them to fill our needs, love us back, and all those types of things. If that is what we are looking for, then we are just using the other person. What is the meaning of love? Love is completely selfless.

That, My fellow CR members, is how I see love...


This seems like a pretty good operative definition of the ideal type of love, as seen by society. I would call an instance of love meeting all three of these criteria 'perfect'. It's worth noting that the concept of 'romance' is more or less left out of these criteria; it seems to me that most people would feel this way about many of their family members and friends, and in fact, it comes more naturally to do so towards them than for a romantic partner. I recall hearing somewhere that we're genetically predisposed to be attracted to people who are different than ourselves. I think that that, combined with the increased expectation that comes with the romantic mentality, is what often makes finding a good romantic love difficult. It's significantly easier to accept people when your relationship with them is more casual, and when they have similarities with you.

On a different note, the most important aspect of love, in my mind, is its role as a catalyst for drama in fiction. When you look at it, the amount of stories that have love as a primary motif is notably high, and the amount that include it in some form probably approaches 100% fairly closely. The trend continues here on the forums, where love is probably the most common topic, at least in General Discussion. Whatever love is, and partially because we find it so difficult to concisely define (much like the concept of God), it's interesting, and there's no adjective more valuable than "interesting".
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Shrek is love . Shrek is life
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Love = Saturdays & KakaoTalk
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Non-romantic love is about comfort. Being comfortable being yourself around the people you love. Like family and freinds.

Romantic love is difficult. Loving someone in a romantic way is easy, but reciprocation of those feelings sometimes feels unattainable or impossible to get. But then again, maybe at that point it isn't love yet. Maybe romantic love is the reciprocation of romantic feelings between two people.

Never had any luck with romantic love though, so what do i know!!!
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Love is caring so much about the person you would do anything to please them. Falling in love.. well its like all you could do is think about them most of the time and you just cant get them off your mind. Falling for someone you shouldnt well, try to distance them from youself I guess. I'm not sure I havent really loved someone.
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Never been in love with another. But if I had to say love is probably being able to really enjoy another persons company. Really blending with someone. Through good and bad times. Always being able to work things out. Fights will happen but they don't really matter because you can't imagine life without that significant other.

Oh and then there's that thing we call sex as well
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I have experienced love. Twice it was romantic and the rest is platonic.

I guess what I consider love is to be having your best friend always with you. Someone you can trust and spend your whole life thinking about them and being around them. Corny, I know. ^^;;;
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I have experienced love before and it may be possibly the best feeling I've ever felt. To me love is a feeling - an emotion that somehow surpasses happiness itself. The safe knowlege of knowing that sombody wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them really hits you. Falling in love for the first time made it the best day of my life. While some people only consider it a stepping stone in life - love was so much more. True love where you just want to be with them every moment of your life; True love where you know that you would give so much just to be in their arms again; that's love. It's a feeling that takes over based soley on wanting to be with one person who wants the exact same for you.
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Love is ugly and yet beautiful.
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"Y'know, I've noticed that I've been picking up hobbies one after the other lately. I saw a man playing a guitar for some change so I bought a guitar and learned how to play my favourite songs. I saw some kids riding down a hill on longboards so I got one and went to an empty parking lot to fall on my ass a couple of times. I saw a friend enjoying a video game so I installed my own copy and asked him to teach me the ropes.
It's been five years since the last meaningful conversation I've had with the closest friend I've ever made. You'd think--I thought--that I would have moved on by now. Whenever I picked up my guitar I wished I could just listen to music together with him again. Whenever I walked out the door, longboard in hand, I wished I could just wander around aimlessly with him again. Whenever I'd boot up Dota 2 and play a match with some friends I wished I could have told him again about how he's gonna get himself killed with that plan, just like when we used to be best friends.

In the end, you say it better. One way to put it is that I love him in the purest sense of the word, one person--one human being--to another. It'd take a book or two to describe it. To me, what we had was perfect. I'm happy that he's happy. He's moved on. He's got himself a girlfriend and who knows, she might be the one. I'm happy I could feel true love but (...), you're right, it is a curse..."
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I love myself if that counts lol
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"Romantic love" - all of your blood has been replaced with sunshine. You can literally feel it flowing throughout your body, warm, & comforting. It's also scary; for me when I'm in love I'm terrified, so afraid that my feelings are stronger than theirs, afraid of losing them, afraid of loosing "that loving feeling." Romantic love is a spiritual awakening like your walking around on clouds, so far away from everything else: it seems there is only you and your loved one in the world. In my opinion to be in love is to be enchanted.

When I think of the person I am in love with, I think about their smile, how are they feeling right now? What can I do to brighten their day? I think of our conversations, our differences and why I value them, I think about our future, I think about being with them mostly, holding their hand, looking into their eyes...

When you find yourself falling in love with someone you know you shouldn't you have to block them. I have visually oriented brain... So whenever there is something I shouldn't do I usually set my self a mental booby trap. Think of the reason why it is not okay as soon as the person comes to your mind and start singing a song you don't like afterwards or think of a picture that grosses you out. After awhile you will associate that person or "thing" as negative. It works for me most of the time. I once fell pretty hard for a married guy I worked with, every time I thought about him romantically I would picture his family crying, I got over him pretty quick :D
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Love to me is putting all your heart and soul into seeing your significant other be happy and accepting everything that they are.
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