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Why I'm such a failure at freaking life?
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Posted 7/16/14

DesuMaiden wrote:

I'm 24 years old and YET

I've never had a paid job
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I've never had a girl friend.

Why I'm such a NEET?


Those are the things you give most importance and priority towards (for a variety of social/personal/etc reasons, the largest being one that's forced on you by society) so obviously you're going to think you're a failure because of that.

But I suggest to most people to judge their own lives by other parameters. Those aren't the only important things in life, and honestly, I would say the girlfriend one isn't really important at all in the scheme of things. In the end, in the true end, almost everything we do to the 99nth percent of things, are useless, things that never will matter. We have a sense of false self importance for completing specific activities that are deemed, in our contemporary society, part of the 'essential growing up checklist'. But they're arbitrary, meaningless, vapid things in the end.

You're still young, and right now, depending where you live, finding a job is difficult. And I wouldn't worry about the girlfriend issue really. Judge yourself by what you personally and truly think is important. Or don't even judge yourself at all by any sort of standards that are out there. Really, so little people really care about what you haven't or have done to spend too much of your time stressing yourself out over it.
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The moment you start thinking "I'm such a failure at freaking life", the battle is already lost. Why bother asking "why"? If you truly believe you are a failure, then any attempts you make to change will also result; in failure. Even if you believe yourself to be a failure, the fact that you are searching for answers means you haven't given up yet. While a person who never gives up can not always be a winner, they can never be a failure either. Change is gradual. It should never be forced. You should have no problem finding some form of work. The real question is whether you want to make that commitment. As for the girlfriend, I feel that before you can improve someone else's life, you must first improve your own life. You'll have plenty of time to be nagged by a woman when you are older. Just focus on your career for now, one day at a time.

PS: Personal threads are against forum rules.
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Posted 7/16/14

DesuMaiden wrote:

I'm 24 years old and YET

I've never had a paid job
AND
I've never had a girl friend.

Why I'm such a NEET?


Its your own fault.
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Bookmarked for future reference.
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I actually envy you. You're still young, and you are clearly capable of surviving without working. This means you are in a situation where you can readily pursue whatever career path you desire. Why not further your education in a field of your interest?
OR, if you don't want to do that, just keep being lazy. Many of us would love to have the option!
As for girlfriends... is not the goal of dating to hopefully find a lifelong companion? Then you can only have one "win" in your life, all the other girlfriends are "losses".
So you still have a perfect record of zero losses!
Keep that chin up buddy!
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Posted 7/16/14 , edited 7/16/14

estarfox wrote:

Why do people consider not having a partner a failure? Sometimes being with someone isn't that great


I don't understand it either. My guess is that some people don't wanna go through life a virgin.
Posted 7/16/14

DesuMaiden wrote:

I'm 24 years old and YET

I've never had a paid job
AND
I've never had a girl friend.

Why I'm such a NEET?


I think you're lucky or your parents are rich...as for the girlfriend/boyfriend thing...you're missing nothing.
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Posted 7/16/14

qualeshia3 wrote:


estarfox wrote:

Why do people consider not having a partner a failure? Sometimes being with someone isn't that great


I don't understand it either. My guess is that some people don't wanna go through life a virgin.


Must be the blinding effects of social control. When many people around you believe in something, you are likely to absorb it as well. It doesn't really matter why, other people believe it so you do too.
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Posted 7/16/14

RedExodus wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


estarfox wrote:

Why do people consider not having a partner a failure? Sometimes being with someone isn't that great


I don't understand it either. My guess is that some people don't wanna go through life a virgin.


Must be the blinding effects of social control. When many people around you believe in something, you are likely to absorb it as well. It doesn't really matter why, other people believe it so you do too.


Ah, I see.
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Posted 7/16/14

DesuMaiden wrote:

I'm 24 years old and YET

I've never had a paid job
AND
I've never had a girl friend.

Why I'm such a NEET?


Hi, this is a personal thread, which is not allowed per CR's site rules therefore I'm closing it.
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