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Is It Easy Solving a Problem as a Bystander [than Solving a Problem of Your Own]?
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Posted 8/18/14
I've never thought about this before. Hm. Yes and no. Maybe there's less pressure on you to think while you're a bystander, but perhaps you do need pressure in order to solve a problem yourself.
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I think it's easier to give advice as a bystander because you are the one observing. You can see their life, how they act too. You could know them well enough by their personality and reactions. Its harder to observe yourself because when you're sad, angry or upset is when your mind is not clear. You aren't able to think right, get yourself in a correct answer to your problems. However, I think it's good to do that up to a certain point. You can try to solve other people's problems and fix your own at the same time. Both of you could have the same problem or a similar one and point out the obvious to help.
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Posted 8/18/14 , edited 8/18/14
It is different when the problem doesn't directly effect you and you are not so caught up in the problem and your emotions aren't at play (or at least, not as strongly) in a given situation - it is different when you have some sort of disconnect with a problem - rather than being the one caught up in the problem; especially when your emotions are getting in the way of resolution and effective problem solving.

So us bystanders, and we are all bystanders at times in life, just remember, when you critique others when they experience problems, just remember how there has definitely been problems you haven't dealt with well; sometimes you've even outright failed at dealing with some problems well.
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Posted 8/18/14
As a bystander, sometimes you might have information that someone doesn't that could change everything. And in the case of something like an argument, not everybody can keep a cool head so things we think might be obvious, they might not even realize since their emotions are in play.

Sometimes the bystander has less information, so it's easy to make assumptions and solve the problem when there are a few key points we don't even know.
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