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Right age to start dating?
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Posted 8/26/14 , edited 8/26/14
It's a maturity thing, not an age thing. I started dating girls in middle school but looking back on it I probably could have waited until high school.
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Posted 8/26/14

Psiops wrote:

The goal of dating to find a suitable mate. That is all. The only way that you can do this is after you finish your higher education. ( College ).
Then you have to have a job.

If you goal is to have fun. Get a friend, but don't cause unneeded stress and distractions for yourself and your parents, by trying to date.

Yes I know my answer is rather lacking when it comes to romanticism, but would you rather make a mistake that will last your entire life, or wait and have a much better chance of finding a lasting relationship.


I disagree, a lot of people date just for fun and just to satisfy their sexual desires. Nowadays i think less and less people are interested in finding a suitable partner.
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my girlfriend was 14, and i was 15 when we started dating. shes 20, and im 21 now, and were still together, and also now live together, and its been great 5 years. answer your question? of course its different for everyone, but it can happen, and it can work is my point.
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Posted 8/26/14

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Psiops wrote:

The goal of dating to find a suitable mate. That is all. The only way that you can do this is after you finish your higher education. ( College ).
Then you have to have a job.

If you goal is to have fun. Get a friend, but don't cause unneeded stress and distractions for yourself and your parents, by trying to date.

Yes I know my answer is rather lacking when it comes to romanticism, but would you rather make a mistake that will last your entire life, or wait and have a much better chance of finding a lasting relationship.


I disagree, a lot of people date just for fun and just to satisfy their sexual desires. Nowadays i think less and less people are interested in finding a suitable partner.


That's fine, if you disagree. I understand the Psychosexual development of adolescents very well, but don't you think that telling someone as young as the user to, have "Fun and to fulfill their sexual desires", is an extremely dangerous idea, and not to even mention the long lasting ramifications it might have to their entire lives.
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Posted 8/26/14

Psiops wrote:


oneouts123 wrote:


Psiops wrote:

The goal of dating to find a suitable mate. That is all. The only way that you can do this is after you finish your higher education. ( College ).
Then you have to have a job.

If you goal is to have fun. Get a friend, but don't cause unneeded stress and distractions for yourself and your parents, by trying to date.

Yes I know my answer is rather lacking when it comes to romanticism, but would you rather make a mistake that will last your entire life, or wait and have a much better chance of finding a lasting relationship.


I disagree, a lot of people date just for fun and just to satisfy their sexual desires. Nowadays i think less and less people are interested in finding a suitable partner.


That's fine, if you disagree. I understand the Psychosexual development of adolescents very well, but don't you think that telling someone as young as the user to, have "Fun and to fulfill their sexual desires", is an extremely dangerous idea, and not to even mention the long lasting ramifications it might have to their entire lives.


Well people can date without having sex. I just wanted to disapprove your idea of "the goal of dating" and that she should date after finishing college and getting a job. I don't think that someone as young as her should be rushing into sexual relationships but that doesn't mean that she can't date. When your in high school you will have a different mixture of feelings within you and its not a bad idea to explore them.
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Posted 8/26/14
I guess whenever you want, 14 or 15 is a good age. I have no room to judge though, everyone is different.
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Posted 8/26/14 , edited 8/26/14

oneouts123 wrote:


Psiops wrote:


oneouts123 wrote:


Psiops wrote:

The goal of dating to find a suitable mate. That is all. The only way that you can do this is after you finish your higher education. ( College ).
Then you have to have a job.

If you goal is to have fun. Get a friend, but don't cause unneeded stress and distractions for yourself and your parents, by trying to date.

Yes I know my answer is rather lacking when it comes to romanticism, but would you rather make a mistake that will last your entire life, or wait and have a much better chance of finding a lasting relationship.


I disagree, a lot of people date just for fun and just to satisfy their sexual desires]. Nowadays i think less and less people are interested in finding a suitable partner.


That's fine, if you disagree. I understand the Psychosexual development of adolescents very well, but don't you think that telling someone as young as the user to, have Fun and to fulfill their sexual desires", is an extremely dangerous idea, and not to even mention the long lasting ramifications it might have to their entire lives.


Well people can date without having sex. I just wanted to disapprove your idea of "the goal of dating" and that she should date after finishing college and getting a job. I don't think that someone as young as her should be rushing into sexual relationships but that doesn't mean that she can't date. When your in high school you will have a different mixture of feelings within you and its not a bad idea to explore them.


I understand, that people can date without it becoming a sexual relationship. The way in which you stated your reply, to me, made it to look like you wanted the user to have," fun", and to become involved in risky behavior.

That being said. New experiences are fine, but with the hormonal imbalances at that age range, and the aspect of peer influence being involved, as the user stated, I feel it is too risky to encourage dating. Not knowing the user personally to change my view on them. The advise I gave earlier is the only advice, that I can feel appropriate giving.

I also need to clarify my definition of mating does not only refer to the act of sex, but it refers to all aspects of a monogamous relation ship.

I hope that the user is smart and strong enough, both emotionally and physically, to weigh out the positive and negative sides of dating and the experiences and situations that come with it.

That being said. You should really talk to your parents/gaurdians, about this. They will give the advise that is most suited in your case, they will also be the ones there for you, if the negative sides of dating happen.

TLDR: The question you asked to random people on the internet, should be the questions you ask your parents/gaurdians.
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Posted 8/26/14 , edited 8/26/14
I started dating at 12 and ive been with the same girl ever since.
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Posted 8/26/14

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I started dating at 12 and ive been with the same girl ever since.


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Posted 8/26/14
I started dating at 16
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22 / M / Brisbane
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Posted 8/26/14
Give me another decade.
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Posted 8/26/14
When you have the right mentality to start I suppose. And keep things legal. If you're in the US, the right age of consent is between 17-18 varies state to state. In all just be safe, protective and smart about it. Also if you're being pressured to do something, that's a no-go. Learn to respect yourself before anything else. Girl or boy. You're still young, don't worry about dating right now. When you get older (around college) they'll be a whole lot of different people that'll be waaay different from High School.
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Posted 8/26/14
Had my first gf when i was 8 years old. There is no right/wrong on the age to start dating. Only thing that is wrong is if theres a significant age difference where one is well under 18 and the other well over 18 (not realy so much when one is 17 and the other 19).
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Posted 8/26/14 , edited 8/26/14
Unless you a real bada$$, I'd say 9.
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Posted 8/27/14
The age at which you are emotionally and mentally mature enough to share someone else's problems.
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