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Post Reply Marry with Kids or Marry with Debt?
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I'd rather take the kids if those were the only two choices, and it was a debt free thing.
Fortunately there are other choices, and I'd choose selectively based on our interaction, and the observable and discussed factors. I'm not a cruel man, but I can see when a bad offer is on the table.
The closest thing to a significant other I have talked about a marriage of convenience, but I was relatively uninterested since I'd be inheriting a second house with a loan and a mother-in-law con-artist, we weren't planning kids, and were going to have an even break prenup. Then you look how much divorce is and it sorta changes your thoughts on if something is a good, decent, or crap idea.

You're supposed to date the person long enough to know if you're a match, and at that point if you're O.K. with your current monetary status and degrees of health you can consider marriage. Most of those lines in the wedding vows were from much simpler times where you knew your station and rarely married outside of it.

It also looks like some people are assuming their significant other decided on a useful degree. There are people who did zero research shy of "what is an easy degree" and then whine about not being able to get a job aside from the local Micky D's.
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is collecting life insurance a option? if so id go for the one with kids, its just more life insurance to collect.
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Posted 8/30/14
Neither, but if I had to choose I would go with the kids.
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Kids for sure I like them, I teach them, so that's not an issue.

& i have my own massive debts piling up. No need to add to it.
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Sogno- wrote:

Kids for sure I like them, I teach them, so that's not an issue.

& i have my own massive debts piling up. No need to add to it.


If they're nurtured them right, they'll be living assets.
They're not going to put you to a nursing home.
They'll pay you back with their wealth, award ceremonies, and your own grandchildren.

Only if you nurture them right. No pressure.
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Posted 8/30/14
Probably debt. I like the feeling of having my own children, and plus there's the chance they won't like me..
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You marry who you LOVE. Everything else is something you TALK to the person you love. Joy shared is doubled per person. Sorrow shared is halved per person. No life will be perfect either in terms of children, debt or other situation. So if you find a person you truly love then grab and hold onto that person as tight as you can. Assuming, of course, the feelings are mutual. Otherwise that's a crime.
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Ummm... tough question.
(I have my waifu by my side, so I don't have to worry about nothing. lol. )
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onibrotonel wrote:


Sogno- wrote:

Kids for sure I like them, I teach them, so that's not an issue.

& i have my own massive debts piling up. No need to add to it.


If they're nurtured them right, they'll be living assets.
They're not going to put you to a nursing home.
They'll pay you back with their wealth, award ceremonies, and your own grandchildren.

Only if you nurture them right. No pressure.




too bad because my wallet is already quite dry XD
Posted 8/30/14
Marry with kids...

And then put them up for adoption.
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I did marry someone with school loans that needed to be paid off. My wife went to Baylor so it was pretty steep. Didn't bother me though.
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x-Cellar_Door-x wrote:

Marry a single Lady with a Child, or Children. I would absolutely cherish the act of becoming a Step-Father...Considering I can't have Children of My OWN...


You've watched too much hentai.
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17 years ago I did both, married my wife who already had a seven year old daughter, and student loans, car loans and a ridiculously over priced Packard Bell computer that was on a payment plan.

We survived there were bumpy spots but, there is no way I'd change a thing.
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Posted 8/30/14
Children over debt, though they're both intertwined, and I wouldn't overlook someone for simply having debt. My mom and stepdad both had children with their exes before meeting each other, so... I'm not interested in being hypocritical, considering that my sisters and I are from a first marriage. I've a soft spot for children, too, though my mother taught me how to be "Mother Dearest" when dealing with temperamental children. I hold no illusions about kids.
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Posted 8/30/14

PeripheralVisionary wrote:


x-Cellar_Door-x wrote:

Marry a single Lady with a Child, or Children. I would absolutely cherish the act of becoming a Step-Father...Considering I can't have Children of My OWN...


You've watched too much hentai.


Nah...You can NEVER watch TOO much Hentai.
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