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My roommate drives drunk regularly. Would it be unreasonable to....
Posted 8/31/14 , edited 9/11/14
Speed limits are made for people below average intelligence.

If your friend is a bad driver while drunk and it annoys you, find a new roommate. My guess is that if you gave him to the police he'd get none to 6 months and once he's out he'd be after ya.
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I used to be that way. Young and bulletproof. It always seemed like I was just fine to drive at the time.

Got an extreme dui(blew a 0.19) about 11 years ago. 10 days in jail, 1 year with an interlock on my truck, 6 months of alcohol group therapy classes. Total fines after everything was said and done was about $6500.

I've driven buzzed a few times since then, but never drunk. Unfortunately, your roommate is probably going to have to learn the hard way as well. Like others have said, make an anonymous call to the police. Maybe he'll learn before he hurts someone...
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Drive his car off a cliff, bail before it goes over.
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Ohohoho no don't touch his car, that will end up backfiring you.

If it were me i'd sit back and watch life crap on his face. In the meantime i'd find a new roommate. There's people like that everywhere, you cant stop them all. Idiots will be idiots.
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A fellow I used to know was arrested for "physical control" (as bad as DUI here) and then was arrested for DUI three times. He went out and made a stamp that looked like the one they use at the AA meetings so he didn't have to go anymore.

He would drive drunk while his license was suspended but he never got caught. I think he usually didn't get as drunk as he did when he had his driving privileges restored.
Back then they were just starting to really get tough with drunk/intoxicated drivers. Most of us had driven drunk and it was the stupidest thing we did do.

With hindsight, I should have called the police every time I saw him get into a car with even the slightest hint of intoxication.
I stopped having anything to do with this person not just because of his drinking but his proclivities towards dating under aged girls.(23/12, 25/14, creepy shit.)

I always hoped if he got into a fatal accident, that it would be him hitting a wall not him hitting someone's kid.

Call the cops, give them the plate number, every time someone drives drunk. If you worry about retribution you can call it in anonymously.
Until these people figure out they have a problem they will never stop driving intoxicated until they die or kill someone and get tossed in jail. The more times you call the more times they'll get busted and the less time they'll be on the road.
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Call the cops on him. For the sake of everyone else on the road. DO IT.
Posted 8/31/14
You sound like neighborhood watch
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Rather than talking this out with random folk on a forum, wouldn't it be best to discuss this with the fellow's family and friends? Start with pouring all the alcohol in the house down the drain, then an intervention perhaps?
Posted 8/31/14
He's obviously not meant to be on the road at all if he believes driving drunk is okay, either buzzed or wasted. To be honest I would have confronted him the first time. Second time I would have just called the police, and let them deal with it. A night in jail or a stint in prison straightens out most of that kind. He's a danger to himself and others and people like him do not deserve to be told twice what is right and what's wrong. DUI/DWI laws are too lenient, and instead of slaps on the wrist there need to be tougher laws and longer sentences.
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I agree that confronting him seems like a reasonable course of action. Calling the police is reasonable too. It's certainly worth talking to someone about it, preferably someone with authority (if you know his parents, it might not hurt to talk to them too).

Feel free to tell him that you'd be willing to inform the police about his actions, at least it might make him more cautious (even if it's only out of fear of being caught).

I guess the main thing to remember is that you shouldn't feel guilty about doing the right thing. If he's putting people's lives at risk (including his own) then it's simply unacceptable and he should be informed and punished as necessary. Some people believe that you shouldn't turn people in for wrongdoing or that you should try and fix everything yourself but that is completely wrong. There are times when discretion is worthwhile but more often it's better to get other people involved to help deal with a problem.

At the end of the day, you also have to remember that you can only do so much. If he won't get the message and keeps doing it then you can only hope that no harm ever comes of it.

Alternatively, you could "accidentally" flush his keys (and any replacements). Sure, it'll stop him from driving at all but it'll be better for him and everyone else.
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Kill him.

Problem solved.
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Well, you could disable the car (pull the battery cables) and hide the battery or you could call the cops with his license plate number when you know he's drunk driving. I'm not a fan of the tough love logic, but I know that there are few emergency personnel who don't get pissed when they have to work a fatality because some plastered idiot hit a minivan carrying two kids and their parents. I'd say the DUI might be his wake up call, and if not, at least you potentially saved someone from dying by his stupidity.
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lilliputian_otaku wrote:

So my roommate is an idiot. If his lifestyle at college reflects his life at home, I can only assume both him and his family live like depraved beasts. I could go on for pages and pages about how stupid and incapable this idiot is, but that is not the focus of this thread.

What I am wondering is whether or not you believe it to be acceptable to drive home while hammered. I am not talking about being buzzed, or drunk, or probably not okay to drive. I am talking about wondering (in the morning) how you made it home while your Camry is parked across two parking spaces with one tire over the curb. Don't laugh too hard, this has actually happened on numerous occasions.

I avoid driving after drinking. I absolutely will not do it. I care way too much about my truck to risk wrecking it in a drunken accident. I wouldn't want to deal with taking the life of some poor sap and his family either. If I drove a small car, I wouldn't be AS concerned. But my truck weighs almost 8000 pounds unloaded and has about 500 pounds worth of steel bumpers on it. If I connect with a small car, I am going to win, and the results will not be pretty.

So, are you stupid enough to drive blacked out on a regular basis? Are you going to have to kill someone before you realize what you are doing is incredibly stupid?

For those of you who have dealt with this, what have you done? Don't say therapy, counseling, and AA. That crap doesn't work on stupid college students with zero responsibilities. I am a farm mechanic and have a very, very low tolerance for stupidity. I don't feel like teaching him any lessons, but I am all for making his life significantly more difficult than it should be (I already do this on a regular basis, but I could step it up a few notches). With that in mind, I may or may not have enough tools in my truck to take his car completely apart down to a stripped block... If you have some creative ideas, I wouldn't mind hearing them.

I realize that this is a rather morbid and serious topic. Please keep any responses and discussions within the guidelines posted here on CR. Hopefully I haven't already violated said guidelines in this initial post. Have at it folks.


Alright, real solution time.

Talk to a cop, explain you have a friend who drinks and drives, and ask him how you can scare him out of doing so. Or inform the cop of where he'll be when he drinks and drives, so he can be arrested. I have shadier methods, but these at least make you seem like a halfway decent person.
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Posted 8/31/14
I've given the plate number to highway patrol a few times when a friend does this. If they are not willing to understand what is wrong with their actions, I'm willing to get the police involved.
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Posted 8/31/14
Definitely notify the police or someone better equipped to taking care of those kinds of people.
Then find a new roomie/move out.
He's not only endangering himself and other people out there, but it could potentially somehow come around and land you in some serious crap.
I definitely don't recommend touching his car (aside from taking/hiding the keys) - that could lead to some sort of legal mumbojumbo too (just in case).
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