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Whats with people and self inflated egos? I mean, really, what the hell? Im clearly a High School Student, 16 years old, and I hear people talking all high and mighty about themselves all the time, most of the time it isnt true, and then its also annoying. E.g. someone calling them self nice, funny, great personality, and overall generic compliments to themselves, when most of the time theyre just boring.

Recently one of my classes had to write what we thought about ourselves and what we think what others think of us, most people wrote the same bland answers; generic, self inflating, empty compliments. That doesnt bother me as much, because that is their self confidence. However, what I absolutely abhor is when someone starts complaining, lets say about being someone who cant find a relationship and so they keep complaining about how girls mistreat them. First of all, when a guy cant find a decent relationship with a girl because they're "nice" it's probably because they're boring, what type of girl wants a parent for a boyfriend? That sounds awful, I was born with two parents and I dont want another, I assume its the same way with the types of girls that those guys complain about, but they cant accept reality because they have a self inflated mega ego that makes them the best person in the world. I can understand that some girls would actually want a boyfriend who's nice, but thats only a single attribute, being nice alone isnt enough to determine the entire personality of a person or their overall compatibility with another person, but they cant see that, or they choose not to, because they too "nice".

As this is currently bias in favor of females, I am going to start complaining about girls to make it even. I dont have very many examples against girls, but I think I have a pretty good one, girls with a lack of empathy. I see this all the time, a girl who thinks she is the center of the universe, always "me, me, me" nothing about other people. Now, they could argue, "I help people out all the time, I give good advice, and I always consider other peoples feelings." Not true, they might consider themselves to be helping out, however they only see their own argument and when someone disagrees with them, that person is wrong, or they're "right" but secretly theyre wrong. One may say this isnt a bad thing, maybe not entirely, however this can be a major issue in a relationship where the girl is clearly incorrect however refuses to concede, and if she does, she concedes reluctantly, honestly I find that extremely irritating.

Clearly both males and females can be equally bad when it comes to self inflated egos, and sometimes it can be the other way around, not arguing that there are no good people. So, whats your opinion on self inflated egos? Do they not exist? Does it annoy you? Do I seem to have a self inflated ego? Do you have a self inflated ego, if so, why? How does one attain a self inflated mega ego in the first place?


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Why cant people just accept they are not perfect?
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I am perfect.
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Lowlights wrote:

I am perfect.


That is a 100% accurate statement, and I love you.
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KarasuEL wrote:


Lowlights wrote:

I am perfect.


That is a 100% accurate statement, and I love you.


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errare humanum est
if you don't have flaws then why the bothersome of living?
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IngramIV wrote:

errare humanum est
if you don't have flaws then why the bothersome of living?


My argument is that people dont feel like they have flaws, and so I wonder why they believe that.
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I'm an Eldritch being, and thus above all of humanity. Serve me, mortals.
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I would take that over any ego that is being inflated by others. It is both annoying but at least the former comes more from self confidence and a competitive drive rather than others influencing them so much.

To me though there is a fine line between confidence and ego. Myself, I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder and I am willing to bet on myself almost always because I am comfortable and it comes from experience. When I don't meet up to that expectation I know when to be humble. I am constantly walking that line... at least I can see the line.
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Eh who knows. While I've only known about 1 or 2 people who are that arrogant, I'll admit the whole nice guy thing is BS. Just being a nice guy isn't enough to win a girl over. Am I a nice guy? Eh, I'm not an asshole and as such I've never had any enemies or falling out with people who aren't members of my family, I'll help out when and where I can, I like to make people laugh, I get work done, I've never had a fight or a detention, I smile when I can, I'm not without my faults, I have plenty of them, but then that's what I think most people should be and should do. You should try to be a decent person. However, I'm not being an all right person 'because I want sex' I just try not to cause trouble because A. I hate misbehaving pricks so I avoid being one myself, and B. Causing a scene is embarrassing. Even then being nice isn't that hard. To be nice, simply being a pleasant or caring person who's kind or gentle is enough to, by definition, be classed as 'nice', but like I said, that alone isn't enough for a relationship to work. If you aren't interesting to your significant other, or have nothing in common, or can't get along it won't work. I've never had a relationship, but you don't need to be a genius to know that much.

All in all there are lots of nice guys, and I wouldn't say calling yourself a nice guy is enough to invalidate such a claim, even if it is quite egotistical, but thing is, there are lots of nice guys out there; Being one isn't special. Going above and beyond being just 'nice' to someone is special, and the best bit is you'll likely do it without thinking.
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I'm an Eldritch being, and thus above all of humanity. Serve me, mortals.



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fite me


Wut? *Giggles, destroying three dimensions and half of the cast of Glee.*
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Lowlights wrote:

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I'm literally too cool for all of you. Sometimes, I just feel bad that my coolness is cooler than you.
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Eh who knows. While I've only known about 1 or 2 people who are that arrogant, I'll admit the whole nice guy thing is BS. Just being a nice guy isn't enough to win a girl over. Am I nice guy? Eh, I'm not an asshole and as such I've never had any enemies or falling out with people who aren't members of my family, I'll help out when and where I can, I like to make people laugh, I get work done, but then that's what I think most people should be and should do. You should try to be a decent person. However, I'm not being an all right person 'because I want sex' I just try not to cause trouble because A. I hate misbehaving pricks so I avoid being one myself, and B. Causing a scene is embarrassing. Even then being nice isn't that hard. To be nice, simply being a pleasant or caring person who's kind or gentle is enough to, by definition, be classed as 'nice', but like I said, that alone isn't enough for a relationship to work. If you aren't interesting to your significant other, or have nothing in common, or can't get along it won't work. I've never had a relationship, but you don't need to be a genius to know that much.


Lucky you, I live with people like this, and I see a lot of others like this at school. I agree with both your A. and B. statements. I would rather just do what I should because I should or want to, rather than having some sort of secret ulterior motive setting me to do something.



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I would take that over any ego that is being inflated by others. It is both annoying but at least the former comes more from self confidence and a competitive drive rather than others influencing them so much.

To me though there is a fine line between confidence and ego. Myself, I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder and I am willing to bet on myself almost always because I am comfortable and it comes from experience. When I don't meet up to that expectation I know when to be humble. I am constantly walking that line... at least I can see the line.


I feel it could be bad either way, having too much self confidence can lead to arrogance, "swag" is a great example of arrogance. I do agree that thriving off the compliments of others can be just as bad, because I see this all the time with, more commonly, females who need other people who need to call them pretty to feel good about themselves. Either way, its obnoxious.
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