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Why do guys or girl cheat? or lie over small things?
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Share your thoughts guys!
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Something happen recently? Second post that I've seen from you, involving relationships, just curious.
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Really depends... that's a tough question. However, I can give you my input as to why I'd ever lie. As a man still pretty new to the world, the only time I'd lie is when I don't fully trust someone or if I don't feel confident enough that my answer will not be sufficient for them, like if I am running late and I haven't left the house yet. Those are the only small things I would assume I'd lie if I were in an extremely tough predicament. Otherwise, truth all the way because I know it won't hurt. I believe some of us would lie if we want others to feel sympathetic towards us and/or give us attention. There could also be the moments when we don't want to share the whole truth and would only share a portion of it -- not necessarily lying but it can still be viewed as a lack of trust. Or maybe we want to fit in and create lies so that we seem to have something in common with others, allowing possible relationships/connections to be established. One of the most often times I would catch myself WRONG is when I say one thing but something else happens. I would not consider this lying, but if I happen to be mistaken I will address it as so and apologize. Some will not and feel too embarrassed to admit fault/defeat.

Now for CHEATING... When I was a young teen around 14 years old, I was dating someone who I was completely enamored with. I had loved this girl to death and would do anything for help, eventually spending over a thousand dollars for her, calling her until she fell asleep, skype-ing when she was away, and crack jokes to make her day feel better. I gave a lot and she never felt as if she deserved me (I would say the opposite, really). However, we both understood that we had friends to hang out with. She then went and played with her friends for a couple of weeks without me; very little communication was passed between us because of unplanned events and circumstances. That eventually brought me to new friends and I accidentally spent some time with the wrong crowd. A girl who was older than me by a couple of years had a thing for me and really wanted to get my attention. One thing led to another and I was suddenly feeling as if I wasn't loved by my girlfriend anymore. I then, regretfully, broke up with her. Some time passed and I went with the older girl. It broke apart really fast, as you could surmise. Anyways, the point of that was that there's either miscommunication or understanding from one or both parties. If either side loses faith, confidence or trust in themselves or each other, the rift will grow until the canyon can no longer be crossed by simple means. With communication comes understanding, with understanding should come acceptance or willingness.

I hope that helped!
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It's either because we have too much pride or unwilling to put up with the complaints and whining after.

I'd say the latter.
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No I am just in stuck in what to do... It is regarding my bf
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Maybe because there's something lacking in the relationship? Or because he or she is a thrill junkie? Or maybe they just enjoy the sudden fleeting joy of it all?

Who knows?
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Lying is human nature.
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Never cheated but have been cheated on.... I hate it... do NOT drag a person to ride an emotional roller coaster. Just be the bigger person and cut ties with the person that you no longer feel for and move along with that other person you want, it hurts less to be dumped than to be cheated on. I do thank the cheaters as if it wasn't for them, it wouldn't have led me to the wonderful person I have now in my life and I know I won't have to ride that roller coaster again.

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In a relationship the little lies sometimes help keep things alright but the big ones can destroy it. "Do I look fat in this?", "Do you think she's prettier than me?", "Do you hate my father?". Those questions always got nos from me no matter how I really felt just due to knowing the hell I was in for if I answered yes. The big questions though I've never lied about nor have I ever cheated on anyone I was involved with. I have both been cheated on and lied to more than a few times though over the years.

I'd have to say the best answer I got to why is "You're a great guy but I figured you were only there till something better came along. Now, it may have. Don't start dating anyone so if it doesn't work out we can pick up right where we left off". I was so ticked off, I instantly picked up the phone, called one of my old girlfriends and made a date for that very same night while she was still there. She actually got mad at me for it. When she came back I told her that I was already seeing someone new because I was only dating her until something better came along .
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Too many reasons for me to name them all, but the most common that I've seen are:
1. The girl or guy doesn't care much for the relationship and does as they please, somewhat keeping it hidden most of the time. The reasoning for not caring varies, it could be they don't feel the same, they just want pleasure, they like the thrill of cheating and not getting caught and never genuinely cared.
2. Missing something in the relationship with their partner and seek out someone who provides them with the comfort they desire.
3. Drunk and make the bad decisions, sometimes without regard for how they'll feel when they're sober, that's the, "I don't care what happens later!" part, as I like to call it. They are aware that they're doing it, but do to the intoxication, it messes up their decision making ability so they won't care until they're sober.
4. Series of things happen between said person and two or more others, they're unsure of what to do and try to work things out with both until it collapses on them.
5. They want something 2 or more people have to offer and believe they can get away with it or talk they're way out of problems if they are caught. Could be they like some things about 1 person and other things about whoever else they're seeing.
6. Depressed and sometimes suicidal friend that they want to make feel better, but go about it the wrong way.
For me, I have never cheated and don't give second chances for it, no matter the excuse. I wouldn't advise taking others' opinions on whether you should stay with someone who cheated or not. It's something that should be a personal choice of your own, some people can forgive better than others, all depends on you and if you can deal with it or not.
Hope this helped.
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probably because they fear to repeat previous events, more likely to evade and get the easy way out...
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AiYumega wrote:

Lying is human nature.


One of my favorite quotes is from the show House, M.D. , "Everybody lies."
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karyuikari wrote:


AiYumega wrote:

Lying is human nature.


One of my favorite quotes is from the show House, M.D. , "Everybody lies."


It's not just humans, insects and even single cellular organisms lie. I think it's safe to say that lying is everywhere.
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'cuz people are mean??

idk i never thought about why people cheat. I feel like if you wanna sleep around just do that and don't commit to one person
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It depends on a person..
Maybe they want to see a reaction towards certain stuff..
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