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Posted 9/13/14
So tonight this chick was supposed to meet me at my ramen shop. have ramen, and then we were to spend the night together after I finished working. Ends up she never bothered texting or calling to say she wasn't going to make it, mind you we had seen each other the night before and confirmed that we would see each other tonight.

Granted this was our second date, but my feeling is if she wasn't that into it, she could have easily just told me to not bother with her. It ended up being a really upsetting end to a busy night at work, and it definitely put a damper on my mood.

Unfortunately, I find this happens all too often nowadays. Not only have I been the victim of this kind of situation many a time, but I observe it happening with others as well. Granted, I live in New York City, so it's much harder to nourish interpersonal relationships, but my point still stands I tell myself time and again that I'm not very interested in people nor should I be because of my experiences, and yet I find myself with the same level of disappointment if not moreso each time this happens.

So, any of you have similar experiences? How do you feel about flakes? How do you handle telling someone you're not that into them, or on the flip side, how do you cope with being ignored?

I usually just go ghost until that person's just a twinkle in my memories. Kinda funny when they decide to pop back around again.
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Posted 9/13/14
I'm sorry that happened to You My Friend...This type of thing used to happen to Me ALL too often back in the Day. Since I began Med School, I simply haven't had much time to devote to My Social Life, which in One way is saddening, but in another, at least it keeps Me from getting hurt. The most social Life I have these Days is right here on Crunchyroll. And You know, that doesn't bother Me one bit. <3

But Yeah, those type of People...It's like they get their rocks off by hurting or letting down Others. I don't understand them, and I don't guess I ever will. I hope that You can find a group of true Friends who have Your best interests in Heart, rather than setting You up on false pretenses, only for You to end up hurt in the end.
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Posted 9/13/14
Some do have good reasons to why and do that such as they are nervous or aren't feeling too good to be labeled "flakey." I admit, I have had many experiences, getting sad that they didn't want to be around me but wishing them well then and in the future. There are just times when you have to say oh well and move on.

If you didn't find someone who wanted to hang out with you now then you will in the future. Just have to keep trying, know people who really care about you will be there. Do the same for them too, of course.
Posted 9/13/14 , edited 9/13/14
Flaking is a sign of bad breeding.

You don't want to spend the night with someone like that, trust me.

Consider it a favour that you know what she's like.
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Posted 9/13/14
Sounds like you invest yourself too eagerly.
Posted 9/13/14
Yep life is a pain. Relationships take time so don't invest your time cheaply. Don't waste your time on her. If she is interested in you she will be back around. But I would make her prove if she wants a one night stand or something more.
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It was your second date, so I think it's a little bit much to be jumping that far ahead that quickly unless you didn't intend to have any relationship to speak of in the first place. Nonetheless, it does suck that people don't seem to have decent upbringing enough to let people know anymore when their plans change. Despite it being easier than ever to communicate with each other, people seem to do so less and less. It blows my mind; when I was younger, I lost touch with many people because we moved around so much and my only option was hand-written letters through the post. Nowadays, you can send an email in 30 seconds. I suppose I will just never understand people being so inconsiderate of others, and so impolite, as to just not show up to an agreed-on date to do something. Admittedly, something could have happened, something could have come up and made it difficult or impossible to say something, but I still think that most times, people are just lazy or rude. That's a shame.
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Posted 9/13/14 , edited 9/13/14
I don't know, usually I feel when people does that they have multiple guys/girls they date, they go with the one they think is the best and when it fuks up they might contact you again when they don't have anything else. Not happened to me, but I have gotten this feeling when I heard those cases

If she didn't even bother to tell you why, she did a favor for not showing up. She doesn't care, at all
Posted 9/13/14
Oh, the dating system. Where useless people meet other useless people to probably procreate further useless replicates.
Posted 9/13/14 , edited 9/13/14

SunkistElemental wrote:

Granted, I live in New York City, so it's much harder to nourish interpersonal relationships.



THAT'S WHAT I'VE BEEN SAYING!
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Posted 9/13/14
People lack common courtesy in 2014 it seems. If she didn't hit it off with you she could have told you. No need to just try disappear into nothingness to avoid that second date. Of course you have to be careful with your words, but you can say it with respect.
Posted 9/13/14

ulrier wrote:



I thought you wanted lots of mini ulrier's. what happened?
Posted 9/13/14

GayAsianBoy wrote:

I thought you wanted lots of mini ulrier's. what happened?


Glass reality cracked and broke.
Posted 9/13/14
Lol a thread about people like me. This is going to get interesting.
Posted 9/13/14
Confront her and tell her you're hurt by what she did.
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