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What are your thoughts on young kids and restaurants?
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As someone who suffers from a medical condition which causes extreme pain when exposed to high pitch noises, you can probably imagine little kids aren't my favourite thing in the world. In fact they were the bane of my life for so long during my very young years, and even now while my problem isn't as severe, it's still discomforting even when I wear ear plugs.

Therefore I wondered, how do most of you feel about little kids and babies in restaurants? Personally I get it if they're in a family-orientated establishment, but for me, a 3 year old girl with no vocal control talking at 120 decibels, or a baby that won't stop crying and screaming isn't my idea of a good night out.

I get it's hard to full on prevent a baby from crying, but what annoys me more is when the parents seem to pay no mind to them, as though they're completely unaware of the bother they seem to be causing other people (and I have seen other people get annoyed by them).

It wouldn't be so much a problem if I had some alternative to go to, or I didn't encounter a crying child on damn near every single outing, but as it stands it's almost inescapable, and one of the reasons why I see going out to a restaurant as more of a curse than something worth celebrating. If I go out I want to feel it's going to be something joyous, not like I'm being forced into a child nursery.

If you're going to have kids, that's fine, but don't make other people who didn't sign up for that shit suffer through YOUR kid/s misbehaviour. Sure the baby can't control when it cries, but you choose whether it comes along with you to ruin everyone elses night, you choose how to raise it, you choose whether you do or don't do anything to calm it down, and you choose whether to keep it in the restaurant or take it outside. Am I the only one here who gives a shit about this, or does it annoy any of you as well? Because for me, the second I see someone walk in with a pram, is the second I think 'Oh great, here we fucking go again'. Don't keep talking to your chums like an ignorant dolt, do something about it!

The reason I bring this up is not only because it's a problem that never seems to go away, but I also recalled a newspaper article written by a man named 'Michael Winner', a restaurant critic who, a few years back, in said article claimed he thought it would be a good idea for some restaurants to have an age limit, and to be honest I couldn't agree more. Hell, I'm not even saying parents can't take their kids to a restaurant, I just don't think they should be allowed in all of them, where it's a case of 'kiddy central or bust'.
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Personally as a parent I focused on making sure my daughter had manners before going out to restaurants.

IMO, if you go to a fine dinning establishment there should be an expectation of the environment being a certain way (think reservation only). If you go to a family place you have to be prepared for some noise as they intend for the whole family to be there.If you go to fast food then be prepared to be assaulted in the ears and later in the stomach.

I would also suggest as a person who doesn't really like people I enjoy picking up a nice dinner from a restaurant and finding a quiet park or something for my wife and I to eat at. That may be a real way to get a truly enjoyable night and a great meal.
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I hate it when parents don't tell their kids to behave at restaurants or public places.
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Don't get me started. I've hated kids since I was a tyke myself. I think some of them are cute; the quiet ones, that is. It's common around here for some reason, for little children to run around and scream and cry in restaurants. It really ticks me off, too, when the parents don't do anything about it. Yeah, crying is one thing, but letting your kids play tag and treat the place like a jungle gym... Just shoot me now.
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As long as the children behave it doesn't bother me.
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HuastecoOtaku wrote:

I hate it when parents don't tell their kids to behave at restaurants or public places.


Agree...
I am thankful for the ones that actually do something to keep their kids under control
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Don't really care. But if you do not like children then just go to a place or avoid them at all costs. I do wonder why they should be blamed. The child might have gone through something or the parents could have been high stressed from work. It is no excuse but kids do need patience. Its true that not many people do have patience but you should give some empathy for how would you feel if you had to raise a child.
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Sakura_Moon15 wrote:

Don't really care. But if you do not like children then just go to a place or avoid them at all costs. I do wonder why they should be blamed. The child might have gone through something or the parents could have been high stressed from work. It is no excuse but kids do need patience. Its true that not many people do have patience but you should give some empathy for how would you feel if you had to raise a child.


I can see where you're coming from, but in the heat of the moment it's kind of hard to feel empathetic when a child you don't even know is giving you physical discomfort.
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It is. I understand that but it's why I said its best to avoid the them. Find some restaurants where you could pick up the food, pick hours where you know the children will not be there. Or wear some headphones or cover up your ears so you won't hear them. Well, yes, there will be in some situations where you just can't. But they won't be shouting or screaming like that when they get older. They don't know because they are still young. Good luck in the future!
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Sakura_Moon15 wrote:


It is. I understand that but it's why I said its best to avoid the them. Find some restaurants where you could pick up the food, pick hours where you know the children will not be there. Or wear some headphones or cover up your ears so you won't hear them. Well, yes, there will be in some situations where you just can't. But they won't be shouting or screaming like that when they get older. They don't know because they are still young. Good luck in the future!


Thanks man :p Unfortunately I sometimes go out with my parents, and there are times when they just want to eat in a restaurant be either for a change of scenery or so they don't have to cook. It's not nice being the killjoy who says 'I'd rather not' so I often just roll with it. The reason it annoys me is my parents said if ever I started to cry in a restaurant they'd take me outside and nurse me until I stopped, and very few times do I ever see any parents do that. They often just pretend the kid isn't there (though when you live in one of the worst places in the country, I guess responsibility is hard to come by). All in all, all I can ever continue to do is do what I've done for the past 18 years and deal with it.
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They are, ideally, like unto water and oil.
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MattMiller wrote:

Personally as a parent I focused on making sure my daughter had manners before going out to restaurants.

IMO, if you go to a fine dinning establishment there should be an expectation of the environment being a certain way (think reservation only). If you go to a family place you have to be prepared for some noise as they intend for the whole family to be there.If you go to fast food then be prepared to be assaulted in the ears and later in the stomach.

I would also suggest as a person who doesn't really like people I enjoy picking up a nice dinner from a restaurant and finding a quiet park or something for my wife and I to eat at. That may be a real way to get a truly enjoyable night and a great meal.


how old is ur daughter?
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5th Grader now. In her entire life we only had one restaurant scene, we packed up the food tipped the waitress and left. I don't know why more people don't do exactly that. And we eat out a lot so its like 1 out of maybe 500 trips that she ever had an issue.
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I really don't mind children behave or giggling and talking in indoor voice.. If they start crying it bothers me.
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When a baby cries, I want to cry.
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