First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  Next  Last
Forever alone???
1087 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / M
Offline
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
alllllllllllllllllll by myselllllllllllllffffffffffffff dont wanna be alllllllllllllllllll by myseeeeeellllllllllllfffffffffffff
23142 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
25 / M
Offline
Posted 9/19/14
lol I may or may not have totally given up.
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
Defeat is a mindset, man.


15016 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / M / Los Angeles
Offline
Posted 9/19/14
i'm 22, no girlfriend. sometimes i feel lonely but for the most part being single is kind of fun.
17394 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / M / Michigan
Offline
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14

Steffiekun wrote:

Almost 22 here and still no girlfriend. By now, i already gave up and planning to be a wizard.


You can be Gandalf I'll be saruman

2213 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M / Malaysia
Online
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/21/14
25 here,did not go on a date,never got a gf before,dont know what love is,mehh...i still alive.
Posted 9/19/14
*plays My Heart Will Go On*
9277 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
26 / F / Vancouver, BC
Offline
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
I actually don't mind. I'm not anti-relationship. If I meet someone and we fall in love with each other, then I guess it'll be okay. If I had to choose though, I'd much rather be single.


GayAsianBoy wrote:






Those are actually good qualities. Haha


Posted 9/19/14
Alone, until the right one appears out of nowhere.
20890 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / M
Online
Posted 9/19/14
Nah I always wanted to be a lvl 30 wizzard.
51 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / F / Finland, Helsinki
Offline
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
Don't make it too forceful.
Just be yourself and meet lots of people.

Of course I can't speak for everyones behalf, since people probably end up in relationships in different ways, but I can speak from my own perspective at least.

I'm currently in a really fresh relationship [we have soon dated for a mere month] and I can't say it was anything planned, it just kinda happened.
Honestly, I have never really yearned for relationship, if anything, I have kinda thought "Oh well yeah, it would be nice to be in one, but it happens if it happens" I've never had a proper crush before either [minus my current beloved of course], and my love history is pure zero. [I've had a small crush on this one guy I used to be really close with in the past, and he actually had a [bigger] crush on me as well. Our relationship however, never got past the mere admiration stage, and looking back now, I'm really happy it didn't, because we wouldn't be a good match.]

I have never believed someone would care for me as deeply as someone who is in love. Before I got together with my beloved, I've only had one-sided crushes from guys [a couple, plus that one which I told about before] and also from my best friend [a girl]. However, as I couldn't return their feelings in that sense, I politely turned them down.

Then "him" happened.
My relationship with him advanced to deeper feelings in a way I've always wanted to form a relationship.
You see, I'm not someone who is head over heels for someone as soon as I see them. I need to know them first. I can't fom deeper feelings for them unless I know them like a friend first.
So, me and him met each other around January this year. We hang out a lot since we had this group of friends [and still have] and IRC channel of 20~30 active people who all like anime/manga etc. [this IRC channel was the first place we also talked to each other.]

I didn't instantly think of him as a potential love interest. [Although I'm only girl in this group of guys [in our smaller group of friends who are also part of that bigger IRC group], I never really looked at them "in that sense" I just saw them as good friends of mine.]
However, something started to change little by little around summer.
I often sat on his lap, we hugged a lot, we had this really un-friend-like physical contact going on in the surface of our communication, and many of our friends [my mom included] suspected that we must be together. We insisted on this, but catched on the joke by saying that "In a KyoAni level we would be already dating" and "Well, you never know if we end up being together in the future.." and how ironic that last sentence turned out to be.

I began to think of our recent meetings, and how close we had gotten during 2-3 months of time [at this point we had known each other as friends for almost a year.] I couldn't suddenly shrug him out of my mind, and I wondered if I actually had feelings for him. After being nervous for some days and thinking about it over and over again, I confessed to him that I had seriously thought that it would be nice to be together with him, and he answered that he had thought the same.

And now I am in a incipient relationship. I never really looked for love, but then it came to me instead, and I didn't even realize it at first.
I just want to say to you, sometimes you don't have to desperately look for it, it just happens.

And now I don't feel at all bad that I experienced my first true love when I'm "already" on my early 20's, I think that at this age [my boyfriend is only a bit younger than me, 1 year and 3 months] relationships can be more lasting than those you experience during your teen years.
So don't lose your hope, even if you haven't had relationship until you are in your early adulthood. Sometimes waiting is better.

Sorry for the long and bit all-over-the-place-story, I just wanted to share a positive experience.
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
Assuming you have a steady job, you just need to put yourself out there.

Once you have funds to take care of yourself and pay for dates - the only thing stopping you is putting yourself out there. Join some local clubs and interest groups. At 19 though you should just relax. Wanting a girlfriend is not the solution - it might be a side benefit in the journey of life! Self improvement and enriching your life is the solution and real goal.

From your post though, it seems your problem is thinking just any girl may do the trick when that is far from the right way of things (unless you want an unhealthy relationship just to say you had one more recently).
Posted 9/19/14
Well me and this girl have been 'in love' with each other since we first met and done everything besides gone all the way *hint hint*
but after we actually began dating, everything went down hill and broke up a month later. We then got back together 3 months later that lasted around 6 months then I broke up with her because It seemed like she was forced to be in this relationship with me.

Skip to 3 almost 4 years later and I have no idea where we stand, I asked her on a date and I told her to take her time and think about it or just say no but man women are so weird they are so hard to understand. I don't date much but man when I do, damn I swear I'm on like Nightmare+plus difficulty
30236 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
It doesn't matter.
Offline
Posted 9/19/14
Mabe your complaining put others off.
216 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / M / NL
Offline
Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
Every jar fits a lid.
First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.