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Its probably my fault if i am alone. not very many girls like to watch anime, game religiously and drink there weight in beer haha. but it isnt all bad, all beer is for myself and i never have to play a game or watch a show i dont like. its a lot of responsibility to have a girlfriend/ boyfriend and im too selfish. do the things you wanna do for a while man. worry about girls later cause its hard to get rid of them once theyre there haha
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VannilaZero wrote:

You guys ever have that feeling you will never find that romantic relationship that you have been yearning for? I know i have (havent had a girlfriend in 5 years .)

Tell me your thoughts on this this topic.


I see a lot of sadness in this thread. I have a lot I can say about this topic, but first - I need to get this important item out of the way first. Our society puts way too much emphasis on happiness meaning you are in a relationship. Seriously. Consider how people will always feel bad for a person if they're single. They'll feel bad when you end a relationship saying, "There's other fish in the sea." We all put pressure on ourselves to be in a relationship as society as a whole has deemed that as the ultimate in happiness. I'm here to tell you that - you can be happy all by yourself. Many people are and are, in fact, happier on their own than in a relationship.

Story time: I have a friend of mine who was married years ago (long story, but her abusive ex-husband is currently deceased). Now is single and has absolutely no interest in dating. She doesn't care, she doesn't want a romantic relationship. What she wants is to live her life, encourage/help her friends, learn more in church, and (if there's any time) better herself. She's not sad that she's single, that's the default state she's supposed to be in. It's better for her in life that she's single. She's embraced where she is, she's content.

Long story short - being single isn't a bad thing and if you have friends you are never truly forever alone. You have friends, those are relationships that matter.

In regard to long periods without dating and yearning for that type of companionship - it's hard. We've all went through periods of our lives where we've desired a romantic relationship and not had one. It can be depressing when you're in those situations. That said, we need to be reminded of a) what I said above about being single not being bad and b) patience matters. Patiently waiting, getting yourself out there, and not worrying about when/where you will find a mate works. In college, I was constantly searching for ladies. When I got to grad school, I did too - but then I met her. I wasn't looking for her, I just stumbled on to her. After meeting her in August, we were dating by December and engaged by the following June. We've been married 7 years now and have 4 beautiful children. That person you are seeking may be seeking you. They may be in a place you are not expecting. Don't hide yourself assuming they'll come to you, but don't put so much focus on finding a special someone that you miss the people right there before you; that you hurt yourself emotionally by forcing things; or that you become so focused on the seeking that you hurt your chances of finding someone.

Well, that was a long winded answer, but that's my 2 cents from a married dude in his early 30s.
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20, single, 5'2, looks like 14 still with a beer gut ,occupation military, no confidence around women yep i know im in that forever alone zone o well i have other things to worry about right now. still would be nice to know what its like being in a relationship. in the end i has monies i guess it makes it okay to be forever alone right?
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Been a while since I had a reasonably normal encounter with a female let alone a date or a couple and it hurts my heart to say i never had either... Guess im quite a hard specimen for the world to accept...
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I'm almost 20 years old and have never dated anyone. I'm very introverted so I can barely even maintain friends. I've come close a few times and knew a few girls that have liked me over the years (I knew they liked me through mutual friends), but I always miss the timing and lose my chance. Lately I've been becoming mistrustful of people after being toyed with a few times, and I don't think I care so much anymore. Maybe I'll be forever alone, maybe I'll find someone at a later age after having missed out on any kind of youthful romance. I used to be kind of desperate, but lately I've been thinking I'm better off alone.
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Meh. It happens whenever I want it to happen.
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Its not that worse, maybe you are alone now but that's not forever. Don't take it offensively but watching shows relating to romance will make you think that you suck at life {PROBABLY}.

I am a introverted person, I hardly have real-world conversations but that doesn't always has to be worse, you are alone awesome! {PROBABLY}

If you are searching for someone special you will eventually find one!
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Focus on yourself first the love of your life will show up one day

(As for myself I don't mean been alone forever)

-Mastergold
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Man I'm 19 and never had a gf. Don't worry too much I guess.
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fallenhat wrote:

I'm almost 20 years old and have never dated anyone. I'm very introverted so I can barely even maintain friends. I've come close a few times and knew a few girls that have liked me over the years (I knew they liked me through mutual friends), but I always miss the timing and lose my chance. Lately I've been becoming mistrustful of people after being toyed with a few times, and I don't think I care so much anymore. Maybe I'll be forever alone, maybe I'll find someone at a later age after having missed out on any kind of youthful romance. I used to be kind of desperate, but lately I've been thinking I'm better off alone.


This sounds eerily similar to me... Weird.
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Right now I'm 31 years old and the only time I have been on a date was twice in high school when a girl invited me to dances. I have found that a couple girls liked me when I was in school either from them or from other people but not much going on now that I'm older. I usually stay at home watching anime or playing games so don't get outside very much. Plus I'm pretty shy around new people and seems nobody wants to approach the 5' 10" , 300 lb man sitting by himself.
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Your at the age you can fall in out of love quickly, which makes for an emotional roll coaster.


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Personally NEVER been in a relationship but always wondered what it would be like to be in one to experience it for myself. I dunno sounds good to have someone who likes you for you and you can just be yourself around them. I don't think people will be alone forever. Maybe just be in places of opportunity. Like joining a club or something. A place filled with people with a common interest. Just make friends and see where things go.
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i've actually been feeling this lately.

teens are supposed to experience love, sex, and things like that for the first time. they're supposed to be experimenting and having fun and dating different people.

all of my friends aren't virgins. most of them lost it at 15. when the topic of sex comes up i literally have nothing to say because i'm a damn virgin lmao. of course i've kissed people and been in relationships, but i can't help but feel left out knowing that everyone else is having exciting new experiences right now.

i feel ready for a more mature and emotionally involved relationship, but i feel like nobody would really love me. i just kind of feel like people look at me and say "ew" and that nobody would touch me with a 10 foot pole.

i'm also really shy and i'm bad at socializing, so i have no idea how i'm ever going to be in a nice relationship ever.

i want to fall in love because from past relationships i KNOW that being in love feels amazing. and i really miss that feeling and having someone there for me on an intimate level.
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awune wrote:

i've actually been feeling this lately.

teens are supposed to experience love, sex, and things like that for the first time. they're supposed to be experimenting and having fun and dating different people.

all of my friends aren't virgins. most of them lost it at 15. when the topic of sex comes up i literally have nothing to say because i'm a damn virgin lmao. of course i've kissed people and been in relationships, but i can't help but feel left out knowing that everyone else is having exciting new experiences right now.

i feel ready for a more mature and emotionally involved relationship, but i feel like nobody would really love me. i just kind of feel like people look at me and say "ew" and that nobody would touch me with a 10 foot pole.

i'm also really shy and i'm bad at socializing, so i have no idea how i'm ever going to be in a nice relationship ever.

i want to fall in love because from past relationships i KNOW that being in love feels amazing. and i really miss that feeling and having someone there for me on an intimate level.


Hey all I can say is enjoy life while you're young. Don't be in a hurry to grow up to fast and experience all those adult things. You'll find time to do that when you're older and with a person who will appreciate you a lot more. Just be yourself and continue doing what you're doing. Don't be too hard on yourself and don't think too much about what others think of you. They shouldn't affect how you act. You can't waste your life trying to impress other people cause they won't live your life for you.
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