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Forever alone???
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Posted 9/19/14

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awune wrote:

i've actually been feeling this lately.

teens are supposed to experience love, sex, and things like that for the first time. they're supposed to be experimenting and having fun and dating different people.

all of my friends aren't virgins. most of them lost it at 15. when the topic of sex comes up i literally have nothing to say because i'm a damn virgin lmao. of course i've kissed people and been in relationships, but i can't help but feel left out knowing that everyone else is having exciting new experiences right now.

i feel ready for a more mature and emotionally involved relationship, but i feel like nobody would really love me. i just kind of feel like people look at me and say "ew" and that nobody would touch me with a 10 foot pole.

i'm also really shy and i'm bad at socializing, so i have no idea how i'm ever going to be in a nice relationship ever.

i want to fall in love because from past relationships i KNOW that being in love feels amazing. and i really miss that feeling and having someone there for me on an intimate level.


Hey all I can say is enjoy life while you're young. Don't be in a hurry to grow up to fast and experience all those adult things. You'll find time to do that when you're older and with a person who will appreciate you a lot more. Just be yourself and continue doing what you're doing. Don't be too hard on yourself and don't think too much about what others think of you. They shouldn't affect how you act. You can't waste your life trying to impress other people cause they won't live your life for you.


i don't really feel pressured or in a rush. i feel ready for that kinda stuff but i find it pretty bizarre and hard since i'm not exactly amazing in the dating scene lol. and i have self confidence issues. maybe i just have to work on that
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Young people are always in such an inferno hurry
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Posted 9/19/14
It's amusing that, despite the human lifespan now being much longer that it used to (and our population is booming), there's so much emphasis on marrying young. Relax. Besides, relationships don't guarantee happiness.
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I've had several "serious" relationships in my years, but none that made it to the one year mark. I simply gave up awhile back. My conclusion is that romance is like becoming a super-saiyan. Sure it's great in anime, but it just doesn't work in real life.

Side note:

GayAsianBoy wrote:

yes, I do.


honestly feel like a rotten apple


While these traits in general are subjective, I find it especially sad that you list your own race as if it were a bad trait. You should like yourself for who you are.
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Posted 9/19/14

awune wrote:

i've actually been feeling this lately.

teens are supposed to experience love, sex, and things like that for the first time. they're supposed to be experimenting and having fun and dating different people.

all of my friends aren't virgins. most of them lost it at 15. when the topic of sex comes up i literally have nothing to say because i'm a damn virgin lmao. of course i've kissed people and been in relationships, but i can't help but feel left out knowing that everyone else is having exciting new experiences right now.

i feel ready for a more mature and emotionally involved relationship, but i feel like nobody would really love me. i just kind of feel like people look at me and say "ew" and that nobody would touch me with a 10 foot pole.

i'm also really shy and i'm bad at socializing, so i have no idea how i'm ever going to be in a nice relationship ever.

i want to fall in love because from past relationships i KNOW that being in love feels amazing. and i really miss that feeling and having someone there for me on an intimate level.


I can relate to your situation.

Though I feel identically, and (if your age thing is accurate.... don't care as the message is the same) being the same age.

Literally, relationships with sex mean nothing at early ages. I would love to be in a relationship again, but frankly sex becomes a center point to many people to where its hard to actually know if its a mutual respect for each other.... maybe i'm an oddity where I live to not want just sex in relationships.

Point is, wait..... for one being young you can have time to make that one time even better..... Cliche statement from someone who is more than likely a hypocrite if the situation would arise to me.
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Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
Haven't been in a relationship yet. Would like to at some point but being really shy around people I don't know doesn't help at all.
So I'll go with what keeps me happy at the moment and see where that takes me.
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I had someone a while ago, I decided to end things.
I don't think that I'll find anyone again... it's not like women are lining up around the block to go out with me and I've most certainly given up on looking. I experience brief moments were I have feelings of hope but then as usual, I realize that I'm being unrealistic, the dread of doubt kicks back in and I just keep on keepin' on, the same way that I always do.
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I've never really cared for wanting a relationship but for those who do: wait. You're still young and if you keep forcing yourself and others to be together then it won't end well. Relationships, love, and building bonds take time. Find someone in your own time rather feel you need to because of society. Until then to get to know more about yourself.
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instead of love i want GREAT FRIENDS!!!!

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Nah, I've never really had that feeling. Sure it's been about a year since I've had a girlfriend. Then again I've never really tried dating again, so yeah.
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nope haha been in a relationship for 5 years. but even at that, im too charming to not steal girls hearts. even if saying that isnt very charming. modesty. ;D lol
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Notcrazyiswear wrote:

You are 19, I wouldn't worry about it.
so much truth on this post,but meh sometimes stuff happens to you for a reason.i'm one of those 4ever alone people because of illness and i think its better to be alone than having a mate that does not care or will cheat on you with somebody else....

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Posted 9/19/14
Forever alone?
Nooooooooo... (Well.. Kinda.. Friend wise.).
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Well 27 and no girlfriend ever. So it is rough on me mentally. I haven't really spent too much time chasing girls though. Spent all my teen years in a place where I didn't speak the local language so that obviously spiked the difficulty. Shortly after finishing high school I ended up homeless so obviously no luck there. And afterwards I ended up overeating and weighing 300+ pounds.

I've since then wanted to change things around and lost over 110 lbs so far motivated that when I'm done I might be attractive to girls. And while I have gotten plenty of compliments from ladies at work such as "I can tell your really working out" & "Looking real good!", with smiles and stuff. I still have zero luck actually getting any dates. Been rejected by well over a hundred girls straight. (Stopped keeping track after 100+).

On my own the closest I've been to a date was getting stood up. My younger desperate self waited 3 hours before it finally dawned on me that she wasn't coming.

Closest I've been to a proper date was a blind double date invited by a co-worker. Girl obviously had zero interest in me and even asked about an other guy she wanted to see in the middle of our double date. My co-worker said he felt I did everything right and that I was really good sport on the date. Just no luck with the girl. So I dunno what to do. I haven't lost all hope thinking I'll be "forever alone". I keep trying to get into better shape and look for ways to improve myself. Thinking of joining a dancing class actually.

Just got to keep on clinging to hope....dismal...distant hope. *sigh*.
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Posted 9/19/14
Forever alone? Maybe. I've been single for almost 4 years. My advice plan to live life the best you can without needing a significant other. If you don't meet someone you'll still have an interesting life and if you do meet someone the more power to you. As I always say plan for the worst, hope for the best
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