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Posted 9/19/14 , edited 9/19/14
This may be surprising....but I have a crush. So I was wondering, have you ever confessed before? How did it go? How did you do it?

Personally, I made a purple origami lotus flower. I'm going to write on the bottom, 'a pretty flower for a pretty girl,' and give it to her when I sit next to her in Psych class next time.

I have confessed twice. Both times I told the girl what I liked about her (looks, smarts, her sense of humor, etc.) and how much I wanted to date her. Both times over the phone (in person is better, but it was under complicated circumstances). Both times it took me almost 3 weeks of building up confidence to do it telling myself screw it if all goes wrong well it can't be helped. First time I got the girl, I flirted with her a bit a few weeks easier which helped me test the waters to see if she might like me. The second time I got somewhat rejected, the girl claimed she didn't like me, but when I told her I was done playing games and said let's stay friends and just drop this topic in the future let's just say she got pissed off at me and said I wasn't being fair. Moral of the story sometimes some girls (or guys I guess) just don't make sense about what they want, but you need to be up front, tell the other person what you want and why you want to date them and make it clear to them you will not take "maybe later" as an answer.
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Posted 9/19/14

Phersu wrote:

This may be surprising....but I have a crush. So I was wondering, have you ever confessed before? How did it go? How did you do it?

Personally, I made a purple origami lotus flower. I'm going to write on the bottom, 'a pretty flower for a pretty girl,' and give it to her when I sit next to her in Psych class next time.


Do whatever feels most natural and comfortable to you; don't force yourself to be romantic yet (at this point, just being nice will due).

If there is any advice to give you, though, it is this: Remember that it's better to have confessed than it is to never tell her your feelings at all. I held onto feelings for a girl for a long time, too afraid to confess to her, and she ended up getting a boyfriend before I knew it. After a while, I summoned up some courage and I still confessed to her after that knowing it would go nowhere. I just did it to have closure, so I could move on with my life and get my feelings out there. We ended up becoming good friends after that and I'm still talking to her, my conflicted feelings finally resolved. Knowing or not knowing the feelings of someone you like or worse yet, regretting never asking that significant person that question, can really weigh down on the heart, and you owe it to yourself to get into a relationship or at least be able to move on to other women.

Good luck out there!

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I've been confessed to before. The only one that will stick on me forever is the guy I kept friend-zoning. I didn't expect him to confess the way he did, but he did it. In front of other people too. That's when I realized I couldn't be friends with him anymore, and that I probably hurt him more than I will ever know. Some girls just want to have a guy or two in their circles to be friends with in the process. At least until they find the one they're looking for I guess.

The fact that he was still nice and considerate after I rejected him made me feel even worse. I couldn't deal with the guilt and cut him off and that was it.

Obviously things can turn out different for you, just make sure you approach it the right way. Let her know you want to get to know her, and take things from there.
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Posted 9/19/14

DollyDagger11 wrote:

I've been confessed to before. The only one that will stick on me forever is the guy I kept friend-zoning. I didn't expect him to confess the way he did, but he did it. In front of other people too. That's when I realized I couldn't be friends with him anymore, and that I probably hurt him more than I will ever know. Some girls just want to have a guy or two in their circles to be friends with in the process. At least until they find the one they're looking for I guess.

The fact that he was still nice and considerate after I rejected him made me feel even worse. I couldn't deal with the guilt and cut him off and that was it.

Obviously things can turn out different for you, just make sure you approach it the right way. Let her know you want to get to know her, and take things from there.


Well as I guy I will say I'd rather be flat out rejected any day than dragged along for years under the so called "maybe" banner. At least he knows that there was no future with you and eventually he will move on.
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Well, in like 5th grade there was this kid named Lymon most of the girls in class liked, including me. Me and a few others would annoyingly "confess" to him like every day haha. None of us got any response though (except an occasional "go away" from his buddies). I wasn't too heartbroken from that though, being like...10 or however old I was.

Then I had no interest in dating and shiz until about a year ago. I saw someone at a con and got to know them more through FB and ended up liking their personality super much. I met up with them at the same con again I think two years after, and I just fell hard haha. Ended up asking if he wanted to date me like the next day and bam, he said yes. I was relatively happy single, so I wasn't too afraid of rejection (I almost expected it ha). But I got approved, luckily. =P

If you're going to confess to somebody, I'd say be super clear about it though. At least for me, I feel like I never clearly accepted or rejected a lot of people that may have wanted to date me because they just kind of dropped hints around waiting for me to respond. Which was probably the safest, and I guess had I been interested I would have responded. Buut still. The clearer the better, if you're serious about the person and don't want to let them slip by.

Good luck!

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Posted 9/20/14
do it. confess. its better to be shot down and lose everything than to never take the leap and try.
at least IMHO. regrets are the worse thing i have to deal with.
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Posted 9/20/14 , edited 9/20/14
I had my first crush , and yeah she rejected me. I am still trying to get over. It doesn''t help that she is in the same school as me , and the school is pretty small. So walking through the school is never the same.
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Posted 9/20/14
I have never even had a crush before so I can't say of any experiences but good luck and....

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Posted 9/20/14
Been there, done that. I don't regret doing it, but I do regret HOW I did it...and certain other things, but that's beyond this topic.

GL to the op
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Posted 9/20/14
I've confessed to a person before! Now we're getting married, so that turned out well.
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XXpoisonivyXX wrote:

Have not confessed but have been confessed to. I am too shy to tell a guy :/ Aww that is a very sweet idea ^^ good luck c:


Psssssssssssshhhhttttt....I call BS on that One.
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... well lolz c:
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Posted 9/20/14

XXpoisonivyXX wrote:



... well lolz c:


Teehee.
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about that.....

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Posted 9/20/14

XXpoisonivyXX wrote:



about that.....



Holy shit.
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