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How "compassionate" can you be? (The opposite thread)
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There are tons of things to love in the world, and even tons of people to love as well! Last thread, I told two things that could paint me as evil(don't visit it if you have a weak stomach!), but let's look at things that paint people as nice, specifically you, what acts of great kindness are you capable of? Much like the last "evil" topic, we are talking extremes, like not opening a door for someone or complimenting their hat, I mean "great" acts of compassion that they will remember you for until the end of time. So anything that required something from you, to another, preferably not a friend because being compassionate for a friend/relative is pretty obvious.

I once accidentally kidnapped a little girl, now, sure lolis are amazing but this is completely unrelated.

So I was at this park, Hurricane Harbor, you probably don't know it, and shortly after I exited the endless river, a little girl was looking around with tears running down her face. I spoke with her bit and asked if she wanted to come with me so we can find her people, she said no(Little ungrateful runt) for like 15 minutes until I just decided to wish her luck and be on my way -- but she followed me after a few seconds anyway(for reasons unknown).

She technically ruined the entire day because we barely touched the water, we only go in to make shortcuts or look in places where it's necessary. So no flirting with hotties or riding the big rides, just looking for her folks, because the park services took forever, it took 2 hours total to find her mother and I already spent like 20 bucks on the little skank, like really, water park food ain't cheap yo.

I didn't know the services had a manhunt out for her, they swarmed the endless river once we returned there, so if I would have left her, they would have found her a lot sooner. I don't know why they didn't use the giant speaker to call her name. All in all, I kinda regretted having her around since it wasn't fun and I should have assumed that the park was a safe place anyway. But the mother thanked me -- that was all, "Thank you.". Not a kiss, a slice of cake or nothing. Mario gets way better.

I also once payed for a guy's burger combo at fast food restaurant, he was an older cop that needed to eat before he takes his medicine but didn't have his card on him. It seemed really urgent because he was politely asking a few people for handouts but they all said "Sorry, dude." So I went ahead and bought him the whole combo. Honestly, I don't like police or needless begging when you have what you need. But his whole "My card is WAY back at the house." Routine was great! I mean I bought it.

Normally, people avoid doing acts of kindness that require a lot from me, like money, times, gas, etc. How many times have you said "No." To someone asking you for a ride home like 4 cities over?
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Acts of kindness, compassion, or love doesn't necessarilly involve people remembering you, or even knowing that you did something for them.

It is doing something for someone else's sake, without the expectation of a return.
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People often describe me as too kind. If a person asks for something that is within my power to help then I will help them. Whether it be lending them my vehicle or helping my family with bills and rent. It's just the way I am.
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Well I know I helped a friend with his insulin one time when he had an attack since he suffered from diabetes, though I guess that was arguably more common sense. As far as remotely big things go that's really it. Helping out with work or projects, holding open doors, I've done that plenty of times, but I've never really been in a position where something really big has crossed my path. Generally if someone asks for my help, and it's in my power to I'll help them. But were the comments on the little girl really neccessary, calling her a runt and a skank? She didn't make you buy the food, and plenty of kids are told 'don't go off with strangers' by their parents. Like nanikore said, being kind is doing something for someone without the expecatation of a gift, but it sounds like you were forcing it for a reward and personal gain. I mean, don't get me wrong, it was nice of you to do the act, but it feels like your motivations and attitude were a bit unneccessary.
Posted 10/7/14
I try to be as nice as possible to as many people as possible, but yet for some reason people keep on getting the idea that I don't like them.
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MissMagicNoodles wrote:

I try to be as nice as possible to as many people as possible, but yet for some reason people keep on getting the idea that I don't like them.


Maybe they think you being nice is just a cover for "I hate your guts".
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I have participated in fund raisers

I have run fundraisers

I organised a fundraiser for a family I know only online, their baby is in the hospital its touch and go :(

I am a mentor/adviser for young people with my condition. I get a lot of calls and emails weekly.

I volunteer with disabled children

I am no saint... believe me... I seem kind of geeky and weird for doing these things a lot ... I care about people, though Im not naive I dont expect the same in return but I do hope that people would help me if I needed it...

I genuinely want to help others if I can

sometimes thats by being tough with them and telling them things as they are...

my friend always took things for granted was always saying how her life sucked (she wasnt depressed) I had her volunteer with me for a week and she turned things around. she needed a kick up the butt...

but she made the changes and put in the work

I need a kick up the butt at the moment... I am letting myself wallow in fear and anxiety... I cant be like this for the whole 3 months we have to wait


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BLACKOUTMK2 wrote:

Well I know I helped a friend with his insulin one time when he had an attack since he suffered from diabetes, though I guess that was arguably more common sense. As far as remotely big things go that's really it. Helping out with work or projects, holding open doors, I've done that plenty of times, but I've never really been in a position where something really big has crossed my path. Generally if someone asks for my help, and it's in my power to I'll help them. But were the comments on the little girl really neccessary, calling her a runt and a skank? She didn't make you buy the food, and plenty of kids are told 'don't go off with strangers' by their parents. Like nanikore said, being kind is doing something for someone without the expecatation of a gift, but it sounds like you were forcing it for a reward and personal gain. I mean, don't get me wrong, it was nice of you to do the act, but it feels like your motivations and attitude were a bit unneccessary.


If I was like. "OMG! It feels great to help people! :DD!" It would have been a little but more... Flavorless, I didn't expect anything, I just wanted to make the read more entertaining. I didn't actually expect a kiss(that would be weird) or a slice of cake(Cake? At a water park?) lol.

And if someone doesn't remember you after an act of genuine kindness, than it must not have been that great... In reference do the other guy...
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I have donated tons of money to help people

I have donated clothes to those less fortunate than I am

I participate in soup kitchens whenever I can

I try to do what I can to help people and I never fight people and yet for some reason I still make enemies. It's real weird. I am no angel sent from the heavens. I don't expect to get something in return for all of this. I am just doing what I think is the right thing to do
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Magical-Soul wrote:


BLACKOUTMK2 wrote:

Well I know I helped a friend with his insulin one time when he had an attack since he suffered from diabetes, though I guess that was arguably more common sense. As far as remotely big things go that's really it. Helping out with work or projects, holding open doors, I've done that plenty of times, but I've never really been in a position where something really big has crossed my path. Generally if someone asks for my help, and it's in my power to I'll help them. But were the comments on the little girl really neccessary, calling her a runt and a skank? She didn't make you buy the food, and plenty of kids are told 'don't go off with strangers' by their parents. Like nanikore said, being kind is doing something for someone without the expecatation of a gift, but it sounds like you were forcing it for a reward and personal gain. I mean, don't get me wrong, it was nice of you to do the act, but it feels like your motivations and attitude were a bit unneccessary.


If I was like. "OMG! It feels great to help people! :DD!" It would have been a little but more... Flavorless, I didn't expect anything, I just wanted to make the read more entertaining. I didn't actually expect a kiss(that would be weird) or a slice of cake(Cake? At a water park?) lol.

And if someone doesn't remember you after an act of genuine kindness, than it must not have been that great... In reference do the other guy...


Oh yeah, I get the kiss and the cake bit lol, but even then you don't have to have feelings on the extreme of 'THIS FEELS AWESOME' followed by backflipping down one of the waterslides and shattering your ribcage, more like something along the lines of being humble. But hey, I don't dictate how your brain works and interprets situations so if nothing else here you go. When we gain the ability to reach into screens and take stuff you'll thank me.

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I actually try to be really nice. I lend my pencils, money, clothes. Whatever is in my power.
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How compassionate and kind can you be if you're calling a lost child a skank?

“Your greatness is measured by your kindness; your education and intellect by your modesty; your ignorance is betrayed by your suspicions and prejudices, and your real caliber is measured by the consideration and tolerance you have for others.”
—William J.H. Boetcker
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Magical-Soul wrote:


Why didn't you just bring her to a park official or representative? Many large parks have central stations for lost kids. What you're saying is that you should have just left the kid crying and all alone and then complain that you had to help her. That's not compassion. You did something good by helping her, but what kind of reward were you wanting? You did what anyone should have done.

Both situations for you sound like it was more social and moral pressure that forced you to act. You're also judging others and comparing what you have done against what they may have done or don't do. Compassion isn't a contest.

Doing nice things doesn't make you a kind and compassionate person.




animangstar wrote:

I have donated tons of money to help people

I have donated clothes to those less fortunate than I am

I participate in soup kitchens whenever I can

I try to do what I can to help people and I never fight people and yet for some reason I still make enemies. It's real weird. I am no angel sent from the heavens. I don't expect to get something in return for all of this. I am just doing what I think is the right thing to do


It really isn't weird. Everyone and anyone can make an enemy, that is human nature. People will hate just because they can.
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Lol. OP makes one thread showing bad things about them, OP makes thread about the opposite end of the spectrum, tells us how she helped a little kid, proceeds to call little kid an 'ungrateful runt' and a skank and tells us how the child was a burden and complains how helping her ruined her time at the park.

Cheeses Crust OP, you shoulda just stopped at the first thread.

Posted 10/7/14
Not very sadly. Gotta lot to work on.
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