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Is there something i'm doing wrong when it comes to women? I make a decent amount of money, I have my own place, I'm stable, I have a lot of good qualities, but I can't for the life of me seem to find that special someone. I'm lonely all the time, but I love my job, so I guess that's good? Why do women insist on being with guys that have nothing going for them and then wonder why they cry when it all goes down the toilet?

Society makes no sense. What am I doing wrong?
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DubiousBro wrote:

Is there something i'm doing wrong when it comes to women? I make a decent amount of money, I have my own place, I'm stable, I have a lot of good qualities, but I can't for the life of me seem to find that special someone. I'm lonely all the time, but I love my job, so I guess that's good? Why do women insist on being with guys that have nothing going for them and then wonder why they cry when it all goes down the toilet?

Society makes no sense. What am I doing wrong?


You're asking other people.
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Phersu wrote:


DubiousBro wrote:

Is there something i'm doing wrong when it comes to women? I make a decent amount of money, I have my own place, I'm stable, I have a lot of good qualities, but I can't for the life of me seem to find that special someone. I'm lonely all the time, but I love my job, so I guess that's good? Why do women insist on being with guys that have nothing going for them and then wonder why they cry when it all goes down the toilet?

Society makes no sense. What am I doing wrong?


You're asking other people.


just really frustrated. i've tried and put myself out there but end up with the same scenario everytime.
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DubiousBro wrote:

just really frustrated. i've tried and put myself out there but end up with the same scenario everytime.


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coming from a female perspective, i dont think you should rush it (: while i might not be the most qualified person to say it, i think you shouldn't stress as much. if these things you say you have are true, i can guarantee there will be girls for you in the future! i know that in my future i want a guy who has what you have (stable-ness, good qualities, good job, whatnot). girls sometimes just dont see the point and i'm sure some need to have their heart broken before they realize they just need a sweet guy who likes anime.
and dont even pay attention to society. society is just plain stupid and it contradicts itself. i dont think you're doing anything wrong at all, i know that the right girl will appear if you just give her time.. there's this quote i know and it goes "Stop waiting for Prince Charming (or in this case, Cinderella). Get up and find him (her). The poor idiot may be stuck in a tree or something."... so i think your dream girl is just stuck in a tree, but she'll find her way down to you eventually :3
again, sorry for the very unqualified-ness but i just don't want a fellow death note lover to feel so sad ^-^
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DubiousBroSociety makes no sense. What am I doing wrong?


Well first off you are expecting life to make sense, it doesn't for the most part. Sounds like you are a decent enough sort to me, so perhaps you should worry less about what you are doing wrong and maybe consider more than you are just looking for the wrong kind of person.

That said... The Crunchyroll Forums is really really not where you should be going for this kind of advice. Talk to some friends, family, or if you have to a professional about these things. Nothing super good is going to come from bringing it up here and as it is a personal/help thread I am going to lock and close it now.

Best of luck, just remember that sometimes it isn't actually you but them.
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DubiousBro wrote:

Is there something i'm doing wrong when it comes to women? I make a decent amount of money, I have my own place, I'm stable, I have a lot of good qualities, but I can't for the life of me seem to find that special someone. I'm lonely all the time, but I love my job, so I guess that's good? Why do women insist on being with guys that have nothing going for them and then wonder why they cry when it all goes down the toilet?

Society makes no sense. What am I doing wrong?


Hi,

Sorry for the fairly quick close, but this got reported, and it is a pretty personal help thread, which is against the rules. I'd suggest trying the general help/advice thread, over at /forumtopic-1099/the-general-helpadvice-thread - it's a great place to ask / answer questions like this.

Personally, my suggestion is that you can only change yourself. Society is what it is, other people are who they are, and that won't change. What parts of society, which people you look at, and how you interact with them, those things can change. I don't mean you should make yourself into a "bad boy" or whatever that will break hearts like others you've seen.

Instead, perhaps look for a friend first, rather than a love interest.

Find others who share your interests, and build a relationship on that.. and maybe something more will build from there. Or perhaps not, but if nothing else, you will have met genuine people who also like what you do, and that's huge in life. And maybe, once they're friends, they'll know someone else that you'd click with perfectly. Or not, but you might expand your circle of friends again, and be introduced to more people who share your interests and might just find your qualities just what they're looking for.
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