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Post Reply What's the first characteristic that you use to identify if someone seems nice when you first meet him/her?
Posted 10/10/14
How they introduce themselves to you.
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Posted 10/10/14
handshake

if it is a whimpy, soft handshake, i don't wanna be anything other than acquaintances

if it's a good, solid handshake, we can be partners -- in business, crime, both, whatever
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I try to spend more time with them and try to get to know them...play it by ear..
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Home in on their conversations with their friends, doing so can tell things about their inner self
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Posted 10/10/14
How she move, does she move with personality, or is she more reserved, tends to hide in her self.

Her eyes, the way she looks at you, you can tell a look from a "look".

The way she thinks, how she sees the world. I don't want to be with a girl that think that everything is lame and believes Hitler was a good guy.
(People who believe that exist, trust me, i have met them)

And most importantly, the smile, if she has a nice smile, and smiles and laugh's a lot, im going to marry her.
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Watch the body language - it will say all (especially the eye contact).
Also, the way a person speaks (tone of voice, etc.) tends to key me in. I work with the public, and mang, you know right away who will be an absolute bi***.
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Posted 10/10/14
If you don't try to use religion in place of ethics, you've got a shot of making me ok with you. Beyond that, anyone who comprehends how easily I exhaust when interacting with others and knows to try to hang out with me one on one gets my vote.
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Posted 10/10/14
Probably that they speak proper English. This only really counts if their accent is Glaswegian though. I'll still have regional prejudices and do calculations on where they're from to calculate immediate prejudice. Glaswegian slang is a no, Edinburgh proper is a yes, Fife (either way) is a probably not, east coast proper is a yes, east coast slang is a no, true highlands is a yes, west coast proper is a yes, north England is a yes, wales is a yes, irish is a needs more information (but is usually a yes), south England is a probably not and trying to do all accents would take all day so I'm not going to do that.

Of course, this is all prejudice so I try to ignore it and look at their proper personality traits.
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Posted 10/11/14
Generally I think if they are taking your presence in as opposed to your surroundings( when first meeting), and making good eye contact with you also. If they are kinda shy and don't do well with immediate eye contact that is okay too, but I will be able to identify them by a sense of humor and polite manners.
Mutually putting one another at ease works well too...and deemed a nice quality in meeting someone new.
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Posted 10/11/14
Their eyes. People say what they will, but their eyes generally give them away. Also I tend to look straight at people to a point just below their throat on their chest. It tells me how tense they are based on movement. It is subtle but between that and their eyes I can generally tell if they are telling the truth or not. Whatever and however they might be talking.

But nice? That is not something any single characteristic can give away. It is not something that one can generally tell at first impression either. I have known people who seemed genuinely nice and caring people turn out to be selfish when it actually came to helping someone they did not know. And I have known people who were just angry at everyone and everything and always talked about how much they hated lazy good for nothing people, go out of their way to help strangers and those in need when they thought no one was looking.

People are people. To get to really know and understand them you need to take a lot of time to really get to know and understand them. Otherwise you are just making assumptions based on a public facade that may or may not be true. Everyone wears a certain mask in public. Getting through that and the masks they wear under that one takes time.
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Posted 11/5/14
Their eyes, well thats what makes me remember someone.

It usually takes a bit of observation during conversation for me.

ex) How their posture is, can they maintain eye contact?, do they fidget a lot?, do they seem bored
or preoccupied? stuff like that
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Posted 11/5/14
Facial expression and tone of the voice for sure. Their posture when they sit or stand is a cue whether or not they always sit/stay at home which can lead to my conclusion that they might not be too sociable.
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Posted 11/5/14

FuwaFuwaSensei wrote:

Watch the body language - it will say all (especially the eye contact).
Also, the way a person speaks (tone of voice, etc.) tends to key me in. I work with the public, and mang, you know right away who will be an absolute bi***.


^Literally this. It honestly is second nature to me to be able to pick up on things like this and it's how I generally grasp an idea of what kind of person an individual is when I meet them for the first time.
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Posted 11/5/14
If they drop their pants on first contact with me. If there isn't any trouser-dropping within sixty seconds, they are horrible people.
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Posted 11/5/14
Politeness is a huge deal for me.

I only really look for three things when it comes to meeting someone for the first time.

Do they introduce themselves?
Do they shake hands? (I typically offer a handshake with every new person I meet on reflex now, regardless of gender, though this is less of a sticking point when it comes to me gauging a person. I can still find someone 'nice' if they decline the handshake.)
Do they bid any form of goodbye afterwards?

Everything else is separate to me as far as first impressions go. They can be funny or have good looks but my opinion of someone will plummet faster than a sky-diver if they are impolite.
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