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What's the first characteristic that you use to identify if someone seems nice when you first meet him/her?
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Posted 11/5/14 , edited 11/6/14
As someone who doesn't believe in first impressions as they don't always fit the person later on, and at the same time uses the first impression as a means to find out how a person handles being approached,


The eyes.

The first chapter in anyone's book is how they look at you.
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Their attitude
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The first full conversation I have with them.
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Respecting boundaries
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Their laughter. Is it a fake, insecure laugh or so,etching that says they're having a good time?
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I don't. For me at least, there's no specific strategy or method I employ to gauge how nice someone is. I'm not socially adept enough for that, nor am I interested enough in it to do any research or try to get better at it. Like many, I don't believe in first impressions, per se. Rather, it's quite easy to read a person's "social mask" from the way they act as a whole. I don't fixate on details that might "give them away" because I'm not so sure I even believe in something like an "inner personality". Everybody's multifaceted, and I think it would be presumptuous of me to try and make any conclusions about someone that they're not inviting me to make. I'm perfectly comfortable interacting with the personas they present to me, and I'm not the type to take offense easily, so I have no trouble getting over it if they're rude. I try not to make judgments about people, in favour of making judgments about the versions of those people that they choose to show to me, because that's really all I have a right to judge.
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Posted 11/6/14 , edited 11/6/14
I generally don't believe in first impressions. I'm more someone who uses body of work to judge someone rather than a specific characteristic at first glance as that is quite misleading at times. It has been going on in anime so many times by now where someone isn't exactly what they were hoping for, and crazy stuff happens from all that. Anyway, if there is one thing I generally pay attention to more, it's the attitude of the person.
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I don't start making assumptions on how "nice" a person is until I learn about the intentions of their actions. My brother bugged me about this once years ago when I was playing with my warrior on The Burning Crusade: "Why are you being nice to people on WoW if they aren't going to do anything for you in return?" Like I told him, if I go around expecting something in return for my actions, then how is that being nice? How a person looks, acts, and responds to others means very little. Why he does so is what matters.
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Posted 11/7/14 , edited 11/8/14
Their smile and tone of voice
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Shyness is always a trait I like to associate with, probably because I myself am shy.
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Posted 1/18/15 , edited 1/18/15
Appearing to have common interests, that are similar to yours. The problem is, this often backfires when you get a glimpse of how vile someone's personality can be. I'm a terrible judge of character, admittedly, and I'm far too quick to befriend people because I am most of the time desperate for some kind of socialization. And then they just end up making me feel like a pile of dung for existing.
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If I would go with the impression I always look a person directly in their eyes, they tell a lot about a person's emotional state. The whole face plays a big role too whether a person seems nice to me or not. But this is only the first impression, it could be a false one too...
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Posted 1/18/15 , edited 1/18/15
I just quote Hououin Kyouma and figure out what to think of them based on their reaction.
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