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"Just Be Yourself"
Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/16/14
The stock answer to every situation in life. It's like when a kid asks their parent why the sky is blue, or why that woman's belly is big. "...Because. That's why". Doesn't answer anything.

My issue with "Just be yourself" is we're told to be our self, but when we are, 95% of the time we're either ridiculed, cast out, bullied, harassed, or put down for it. People in our realm especially have this problem. Most of the time, we're not as popular or received as the person who's more willing to be a clone and not a unique individual, i.e. them self but not them self.



Be yourself is just code for "Be like everyone else, just with a different name and body" if you ask me. Be yourself, but not different.



I truly do believe people should be them self, just not in the sense this phrase is usually used in. Be yourself in that you couldn't give a flying tonkatsu what the next guy thinks, or the one after. Popular opinion matters not. What are you going to be seen as? Gay for liking fashion? A loser for liking anime or gaming? How about stupid for having a hard time reading? A weirdo for liking another country's culture? "Just be yourself, so then I can put you down".


We're not able to really be ourselves because society has clamped us down so much. But enough from me...


What say you?

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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/14/14
I say be whoever you want to be, because, regardless, I don't care.
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/16/14
I don't give a damn what people think about me.
The fact that I wear Crocs is proof of that
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Being yourself helps with stress problems but it shouldn't be taken too far IMO. Having to monitor your behavior to keep out undesirables when you're trying to be with others 24/7 will leave you with grey hairs/enhanced risk of disease.
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/16/14
I've always gone with the 'be yourself' routine. If someone doesn't want to know me because of what I'm into or how I am, there's no point in me getting to know them. Even if you pretend you're someone you're not you'll likely make enemies, so I say 'fuck that' and just am who I am. If someone thinks I'm a child for liking anime well more fool them, I don't want to befriend someone who's that judgemental, and the same goes for any of my other interests. When people are in nice looking clothes, I'll go around in a t-shirt and jogging bottoms. If someone comments on my nails being too long because I put off cutting them then fuck em, why do they care? I know what dicks those people are, and as such I don't judge others like they do. Obviously that's not to say I have a 'don't give a fuck' mentality, you obviously have to regulate certain behaviours and the like depending on the situation you're in, but I don't pretend to be someone I'm not. I believe you only get one life, and I don't want to spend mine being a sheep. I like being weird or different, normal is boring, and assuming someone falls for me, I'd rather they fall for 'weird me' than 'facade me'.
Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/16/14
I agree with everything you have said. Conformity has annexed quite alot of territory, and its broken up into so many brackets and subdivisions to specify them all. Society is so complicated, and it's difficult to discern how to address one aspect, such as sexuality, let alone them all

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Sometimes we as a people, especially in a conservative mind-set, cannot differentiate conformity from tradition. To attack short hair for males, for instance, is to attack their heritage somehow. It gets to be pretty silly how inflexible some get with what seems the most frivolous of ideas.

To be the person to stand up against the norm or trend for individuality is always an act of courage, and I agree with you that is what needs to happen for the betterment of all, so its less strict , and we have more choices, and our children do.. I commend you this is a good topic.

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The way I see it I'm living my life for myself. I don't need to conform my life to somebody else's standards so that I can fit in with them. If they don't like what I'm doing or who I'm hanging out with then they don't have to associate with me. If they want to make fun of me for being who I am then I will just ignore then. I don't have to have the approval of everyone to feel good about myself.
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/16/14
I only care what I think of myself, rather than what other individuals think.
It's up to you to make your own decisions, instead of being one with the crowd.
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I don't really care, because.. There was this quote, it went something like, "Twenty years from now it won’t matter what shoes you wore, how your hair looked, or what kind of jeans you bought. What will matter is what you learned and how you used it."
Posted 10/10/14

AiYumega wrote:

The stock answer to every situation in life. It's like when a kid asks their parent why the sky is blue, or why that woman's belly is big. "...Because. That's why". Doesn't answer anything.


It is the answer to being happy. It's simple and it fixes a lot of problems. If people stick with it and just keep being themselves eventually all that criticism and ridicule will fade away and you will realize it was only there because those people didn't have the courage to do it themselves.



AiYumega wrote:
We're not able to really be ourselves because society has clamped us down so much. But enough from me...


This is only true if you let society determine who you are.

With that said, however, not everyone is ready to just be themselves and so society can determine how they act for quite some time but eventually the pressure will be easy to shrug off.
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I am what I am and I am proud of who I am.
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/10/14
Yes, I agree society has too many barriers cast upon the general population.
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/10/14
While there are many social disadvantages of the passive intimidation that I seem to give off it does allow me to do my own thing without anyone daring to openly judge me on it. In the end though I probably still wouldn't care either way.

Living in fear is no way to live.
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/16/14
I learned the hard way, that regardless of who you are, or what you do there is always going to be someone out there who dislikes you.. So yeah.. Over the last 2 years I have become much more expressive about who I am... People are always going to have labels to slap onto things, it makes them feel more comfortable because it helps them categorize and objectify things. For example.. "I don't understand this person so they are 'Crazy' ".. Yeah, go ahead and say that, but really that is being so dismissive.. Just because you don't understand something/someone does not mean that you are correct... Labels make that misunderstanding become a false sense of understanding for a false sense of security.. People are more comfortable that way.. At least, that is my opinion.
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/16/14
i refuse to change for some one i've never met, i.e. 'society'.
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