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What is marriage? Is that something you eat?
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Well considering i've been through a marriage and a divorce i suppose my idea of marriage is kind of lowered to what it was 10 years ago. If people want to get married then fine but made sure you are doing it for the right reasons and not because you are caught up in the moment or the idea of being married. If it goes wrong then it's a huge pain in the backside trying to figure things out and it makes you hate the other person. There are ex girlfriends who are am friends with even though we had a break up but me and my ex wife pretty much hate each other due to all the legal crap and bickering the marriage breaking down caused.
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I don't really get what you're trying to say. I never said I wasn't able to meet girls, I just said I hadn't met anyone I'd marry, or even be serious with, yet. I'm not very shy honestly, especially when I'm one on one with someone. I'm not indecisive at all. But I really don't get what you're getting at so...
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AiYumega wrote:




I don't really get what you're trying to say. I never said I wasn't able to meet girls, I just said I hadn't met anyone I'd marry, or even be serious with, yet. I'm not very shy honestly, especially when I'm one on one with someone. I'm not indecisive at all. But I really don't get what you're getting at so...


You're overly picky about how you meet your women. Which is fine.

You also really, really want to be married. Which is also fine.

The two don't go together.

You also freak out because you see people around you getting married. At the same time you are doing the bare minimum to try and eliminate your solitude. How is that anything but neurotic?

Stop closing doors, or stop being crushed by your own preferences. Pick one.

I've known many people like you and it was always the exact same story.

I went in the opposite direction. I don't have the time or the patience to go out and meet women, and it's a choice I've accepted the consequences of (rather happily) for many years. I'd have to be moron if I isolated myself and then pined for company/made myself miserable over it.
Posted 10/12/14

Hayagriva wrote:


AiYumega wrote:




I don't really get what you're trying to say. I never said I wasn't able to meet girls, I just said I hadn't met anyone I'd marry, or even be serious with, yet. I'm not very shy honestly, especially when I'm one on one with someone. I'm not indecisive at all. But I really don't get what you're getting at so...






I'm not really doing the bare minimum. I think it's better not to force things in life, but that's just me.

And I don't really want to be married. It'd be nice, sure. But I'm going crazy over it.


But you are right I do often times close doors, but I think that's a problem a lot of people cause for themselves.
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Personally, I definitely see myself getting married.



And I don't really want to be married.





Well, good luck.
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Posted 10/12/14

Hayagriva wrote:


AiYumega wrote:




I don't really get what you're trying to say. I never said I wasn't able to meet girls, I just said I hadn't met anyone I'd marry, or even be serious with, yet. I'm not very shy honestly, especially when I'm one on one with someone. I'm not indecisive at all. But I really don't get what you're getting at so...


You're overly picky about how you meet your women. Which is fine.

You also really, really want to be married. Which is also fine.

The two don't go together.

You also freak out because you see people around you getting married. At the same time you are doing the bare minimum to try and eliminate your solitude. How is that anything but neurotic?

Stop closing doors, or stop being crushed by your own preferences. Pick one.

I've known many people like you and it was always the exact same story.

I went in the opposite direction. I don't have the time or the patience to go out and meet women, and it's a choice I've accepted the consequences of (rather happily) for many years. I'd have to be moron if I isolated myself and then pined for company/made myself miserable over it.


Are you saying that because he wants to get married, he should settle for any random girl he meets instead of waiting for someone compatible to come along? That seems like the opposite of what someone who wants a long relationship should do.
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Posted 10/12/14

PhantomGundam wrote:


Hayagriva wrote:


AiYumega wrote:




I don't really get what you're trying to say. I never said I wasn't able to meet girls, I just said I hadn't met anyone I'd marry, or even be serious with, yet. I'm not very shy honestly, especially when I'm one on one with someone. I'm not indecisive at all. But I really don't get what you're getting at so...


You're overly picky about how you meet your women. Which is fine.

You also really, really want to be married. Which is also fine.

The two don't go together.

You also freak out because you see people around you getting married. At the same time you are doing the bare minimum to try and eliminate your solitude. How is that anything but neurotic?

Stop closing doors, or stop being crushed by your own preferences. Pick one.

I've known many people like you and it was always the exact same story.

I went in the opposite direction. I don't have the time or the patience to go out and meet women, and it's a choice I've accepted the consequences of (rather happily) for many years. I'd have to be moron if I isolated myself and then pined for company/made myself miserable over it.


Are you saying that because he wants to get married, he should settle for any random girl he meets instead of waiting for someone compatible to come along? That seems like the opposite of what someone who wants a long relationship should do.


No offense, but you're 17, so you probably haven't had a specific experience yet. I've had friends of ten years or longer from the most random-ass meetings across all formats - work, school, games, social forums. I'm saying if you really want somebody, you don't close doors and place stringent requirements on your interactions with people. Or you have no right to complain about solitude. Period.

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i see it as a very serious commitment where you build a further friendship w/one you already admire and respect. Something that grows thru hardship and years, good and bad times. Not something that is loose like leaves falling from a tree, as per same sex marriage ehh... not for it, but won't hate on someone that does practice it ya know xD. But yea dude, as a young man myself, sometimes i can't help but romanticize things, ik reality is very different lol
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Posted 10/12/14

AiYumega wrote:

There's been a few threads like this, but not asking the same question.


What are your thoughts on marriage?


It would be helpful to get a good grasp on the nature of love before marrying.

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-840079/what-love-is

You can always learn afterwards, but it's helpful to know beforehand.
Posted 10/12/14
If I ever happen to madly fall in love with someone, then yes, I'd want to get married.
Posted 10/12/14

nanikore2 wrote:


AiYumega wrote:

There's been a few threads like this, but not asking the same question.


What are your thoughts on marriage?


It would be helpful to get a good grasp on the nature of love before marrying.

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-840079/what-love-is

You can always learn afterwards, but it's helpful to know beforehand.


I agree with what you're saying.
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nanikore2 wrote:


AiYumega wrote:

There's been a few threads like this, but not asking the same question.


What are your thoughts on marriage?


It would be helpful to get a good grasp on the nature of love before marrying.

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-840079/what-love-is

You can always learn afterwards, but it's helpful to know beforehand.


Are you like the guardian of love?

When there's a chance that love would be a topic you and your thread show up. Hahahaha

Any chance you would get a reality show and show the public how to love? Just kidding hahahahaha
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onibrotonel wrote:


Aura-chan wrote:

if people want to get married then they should be allowed to get married no matter who they are


I am married, we got married in november




we have been together 6 years

^_^

We met at university thanks to the anime society haha

we both were presidents of the society too :P

I always wanted to get married and have a family

I didnt know if it would happen as I have a hereditary disorder which means my children could have it if I had children naturally. The options are try PGD IVF if that fails then adopt. I didnt know if I would find someone who would accept that, and accept me disability and all.

My husband is amazing

Did you invite all the members in your societies?

Was there a person that you definitely did not want to attend your wedding?


HAHA no no we had 30-40 members in our society couldnt invite them all 0_O

we invited some friends from the society and university

some friends from school and friends from activities and groups we are part of now.


Most of the guests were family. I have a BIG family and my dad works for some of the family members we wouldnt have choose to invite if we had the choice .....there were family members who have been horrible to me over the years that I had to invite because of the drama they would cause if we didnt >_<

We had a friend de-friend us and not speak to us until last month because he wasnt invited because we had to draw a line somewhere and couldnt afford to invite everyone... he said some very hurtful things and did this a week before the wedding...... >_<

however....

most people were awesome and lovely.

We really enjoyed our wedding and it flew by so fast!

we got married in winter because its much much cheaper.

We loved our venue and couldnt have afforded it in the summer months.

Congratulations by the way.
I'm sorry if that sounded like you won an award. I don't meant to sound cheap. I'm just congratulating you, that's all.

Happy wife equals happy life.
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onibrotonel wrote:


nanikore2 wrote:


AiYumega wrote:

There's been a few threads like this, but not asking the same question.


What are your thoughts on marriage?


It would be helpful to get a good grasp on the nature of love before marrying.

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-840079/what-love-is

You can always learn afterwards, but it's helpful to know beforehand.


Are you like the guardian of love?

When there's a chance that love would be a topic you and your thread show up. Hahahaha

Any chance you would get a reality show and show the public how to love? Just kidding hahahahaha


Ai to Seigi no! Sera fuku bishoujo senshi! Sera muun! Tsuki ni kawatte, oshiokiyo!
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