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What do you think about corporal punishment?
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Posted 10/13/14 , edited 10/13/14
I am actually for it. Don't get me wrong I am not supporting child beating, but pain is an exelent teacher.

If a child does something really bad its not a bad idea to remind them about that, pinches small hair pull are ok, but no hitting.


Let me tell you an example about my life. It's actually pretty horrible if you think about it.

When I were small, around 8 years I think? I tried to harm my cousin I really hated, on purpose.

He was climbing a closet to reach a board game at top shelf, I pulled the lower shelf beneath his legs off so he fell hard. My mother saw that and whipped my legs with a branch.

It was the ONLY time in my entire life my mother beat me and the last one.

I still up to this day remember it and it probably prevented me from turning in to a serial killer or criminal as I have really little emotional response to things. It was the pain that reminds me about the wrongness of harming others not the feelings.
Posted 10/13/14
you must all be bullies as a result of getting beat so much... nah, must have not properly got beat.

i kid

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Posted 10/13/14

Doomdancer wrote:

I am actually for it. Don't get me wrong I am not supporting child beating, but pain is an exelent teacher.

If a child does something really bad its not a bad idea to remind them about that, pinches small hair pull are ok, but no hitting.


Let me tell you an example about my life. It's actually pretty horrible if you think about it.

When I were small, around 8 years I think? I tried to harm my cousin I really hated, on purpose.

He was climbing a closet to reach a board game at top shelf, I pulled the lower shelf beneath his legs off so he fell hard. My mother saw that and whipped my legs with a branch.

It was the ONLY time in my entire life my mother beat me and the last one.

I still up to this day remember it and it probably prevented me from turning in to a serial killer or criminal as I have really little emotional response to things. It was the pain that reminds me about the wrongness of harming others not the feelings.


Thanks for that example, it reminded me of the one time in my life when my loving grandmother felt she had to hit me to make a point. I must have been around 9 or 10 years old and for some reason I can't remember I was in a really bad mood and while my grandmother was trying to find out what was wrong I was giving her attitude because I didn't want to talk to her or answer her questions. At some point I ended up saying something along the lines of "I wish I wasn't a part of this family!" and it was at that moment my grandmother slapped me across the face and to this day that is the only time she has ever laid a hand on me. Immediately after I was speechless because I was so shocked at what had happened and that's when she began to explain to me the power that words can hold and the importance of family, two things that I will always remember.
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Posted 10/13/14 , edited 10/14/14

CCTDaily wrote:

A little slap in the hand is bad and demonic.


Please tell me you're joking. I'm not talking about a slap where the kid's hand falls off but a small tap. Nothing painful.


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You should receive it for this thread.



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I'm against corporal punishment. If you inflict pain to a child as a punishment, they won't really learn. They'll just stop their behavior out of fear. Their logic isn't "I shouldn't do this again because it's wrong." Their logic is "if I do this again, daddy will hurt me." Over time, they would learn more about when something is right or wrong, but it would be from their own growth, not from getting hit. What's worse is that a lot of people who got hit as children convince themselves that the method works and end up doing the same to their children. I can't stand people who say "I got beat when I was a child and I turned out fine" as a justification for hitting their own kids. Obviously if you have to resort to beating your kids, you DIDN'T turn out fine (no offense to anyone here who this might apply to). If you have to punish your kid, please do it in a civilized manner. Don't treat your child like some savage animal.
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I support it, for some children it is the only way they will learn right from wrong. Not all kids need a spanking, but some do. People who say it is never ok are naive. There are more bullies in schools because they are no longer afraid of corporal punishment because they know no one will hurt them for doing it. For all the anti-bully stuff, bullies are more protected then the victims.
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I personally believe it actually works on some children. A majority of children just don't take their parents seriously when their parents are taking it easy on them.
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Corporate punishment is terrible, and if anyone attempts it on Lala, Lala will slap them into eternal oblivion.
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There is a fine line between discipline and abuse. Common sense should delineate the difference between the two, but common sense isn't as common as one would think.
Posted 10/13/14
I got raised through it. Look how fine I turned out to be.
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The first thing I thought of when reading the title of this post was:

Starship Troopers
Administrative Punishment... 10 Lashes.
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Posted 10/13/14 , edited 10/14/14
As an African American,it's not that surpising that I was hit when I was a kid.I was hit with belts,slippers,and open hands.Sometimes on my back,sometimes on my behind,and sometimes on my face .It actually left a mental scar on me.Anytime anything comes near my face,I flinch.It doesn't even matter if it's my own hand.So yeah,I have a very hateful relationship towards hitting kids.I'm not against kids being disciplined.As long as the physical punishment is not excessive like my mother did to me.However,if a parent seeks respect by use of fear,humiliation, and intimidation,then they are no parent in my eyes.Children who grow up with being hit will only do the right thing out of fear of being hit,not because they think it's the right thing to do."Fake" good behavior is no better than bad behavior.
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Worked for me. I remember one time when I was 5 or 6 and my parents had guests over, one of the guests was fat and I kept calling him fatty and if he wanted some of my candy or something. After getting knocked around a few times by my dad I learned not to do that shit anymore.
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Punishment on children provides mixed results that are commonly unfavorable. A more effective, but challenging, method is a reward system. I don't mean bribing, mind you, though some confuse it with that and end up with spoiled brats. I mean positive reinforcement when earned. Set goals for your children that revolve around good behavior. Never resort to punishment, especially in a manner that takes away what was already given, as this would effectively ruin the reward system (i.e. their hard work would be for nothing, leading to bitterness and mistrust). The whole point of it is to react favorably when what is expected has been accomplished in order to create smart habits as they grow older. Set something up so that a child who maintains a clean room for a set period of time is praised, rewarded, and encouraged to keep with it. Eventually, the child will likely grow up to always maintain an organized living area for no other incentive than because it's what they've grown accustomed to doing. Because pain, suffering, et cetera were not instrumental in the learning process, there's minimal opportunity for negative emotions to turn the child into a hateful, uncaring person. Granted, outside factors may have some negative influence on a child's development, but with proper love and support at home, this, too, can be minimized. While growing up, my brother and I were subjected to punishment, usually with a belt. Out of fear, I learned to behave myself, and he... dropped out of high school, continues to struggle with an addiction, and spent his childhood claiming the rest of his family was out to get him.

~~tl;dr version~~

positive reinforcement > or = negative reinforcement.
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Posted 10/14/14
I'm generally in favor of corporal punishment, but I feel that almost no punishment (even methods of positive reinforcement) is a one-size-fits-all.


On me, it worked well. I was able to understand the "why" of my punishments from an early age, so I certainly did not simply learn fear and pain. My mother and stepdad know how to find balance, and didn't rely on it. I would even intentionally push limits to test my parents on occasion, since I long saw through my punishments and realized that my parents preferred to avoid it. In fact, I preferred the belt over most of my punishment options. I've long found that temporary and mild pain is far preferable over writing sentences hundreds of times, being lectured, facing a corner while on my knees for sometimes over an hour, being grounded in my room, cleaning, being grounded from my hobbies, witnessing their angry expressions, and especially being yelled at. I figured out that, when I got spanked, I usually wouldn't face any other punishment, and I took advantage of it whenever possible. When given the option of what punishment I'd receive, I would choose a few swats. I was a bit of a stinker. lol

By the way, on multiple occasions, I felt that my antics were worth a spank or two.



This is probably the fourth time that somebody has started this kind of thread in the past eighteen months.
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