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Posted 10/14/14
I guess it depends on the reasons why would they make an arranged marriage. If they have known each other then I don't see why not but if they haven't and don't know how the person acts like then it would be very difficult. Overall, no one should get married unless they want to.
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Hey, not knocking on arranged marriages. Lots of Islamic and Hindi folks near DC have great arranged marriages. Some don't. The divorce statistics are pretty much the same or even better for those folks than the choose them yourself method most Americans use in marriage. The comment that started the thread is about forced marriages, though, not consensual arranged marriages. I was riffing on the more radical aspects of Mormonism that occur across the border in Mexico and NM, etc since the LDS have forced the forced plural marriages across the border... Thus the commentary on Utah. It was supposed to be a zinger, you know? A guy from Utah talking about forced marriages is kinda like a guy from Germany sayin', "hey, National Socialism ain't that bad..."

You know that smarmy jokes suck once you have to explain 'em, right?

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Posted 10/14/14
I think it's contradicting the point of marriage, love, and honestly, it's unnatural.
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15 / F / Murica
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I think it's wrong. You should be able to pick who you want to marry, not your parents.
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rosalinn wrote:

I dont like it. My friend who's religion has an arranged marriage and shes miserable. She likes this guy but she cannot pursue anything with him because of her religion. Its her own life and she should be the one to decide she could marry whoever she wants.


So... why doesn't she become a heretic?

ON-subject: Personally, I do not see any problems with it if both parties are mutual on the matter and have discussed it thoroughly without a forced conclusion. However, generally I do see it as a difficulty for individuals seeking freedom.
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Posted 10/14/14
Sounds like shit
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I have a couple of friends who had arranged marriages and one of them actually really loves her husband now. The other one seems miserable though, to be honest. Overall, I feel like arranged marriages can work and sometimes I guess the two people are kinda pressured into liking each other but, if they're not compatible, I just don't think it can ever work.
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If both parties agree to the marriage than it would be OK in my book. Forcing two people to marry when they against it though is just ludicrous.
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25 / F / New Jersey, USA
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Posted 10/14/14
Even in 21st century, some things will never change.



Love don't and should not work that way.
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Posted 10/14/14
it should be treated as human trafficking.
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A forced arranged marriage sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. Unless of course both people taking part in the arranged marriage consent willingly. But arranged marriages are just an archaic way of securing a lasting aliiance between two families, which isn't what marriage is used for anymore.

Basically arranged marriages are a no go and need to be stop. Because they are honestly pretty much worthless now.
Posted 10/14/14
My grandparents had an arranged marriage and they seemed happy together, so I guess it's not always a disaster. I am still against it however.
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24 / M / USA
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I think it really depends on the situation. Say if you've never really met or talked to the other person then I'd say its probably a bad idea but if you grew up with the person then its likely that you would have some feelings for them before getting married.
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well i really think its not cool and its up to the couple, BUT if my family happened to arrange me with a beautiful girl i wouldn't mind
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19 / M / Boston
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Posted 10/14/14
Arranged marriage is like trying to fit a small cube into a somewhat larger circle. Though the cube may fit because of its size compared to the circle, it would just look awkwardly placed. I'm not saying that all Arranged Marriages are basically forcing two people together with completely different interests, but for most of the time, that is what happens.
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