First  Prev  1  2  Next  Last
Why corporal punishment turns people into lawbreakers?
26543 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 10/16/14




My outstandingly clean criminal record states otherwise.
Not even so much as a parking ticket.

There is a huge difference between discipline and abuse.
Remember that.
Posted 10/19/14
to be on the safer side, wouldn't want to spook my kid ... especially when kids only remember what they want to in the long term.
Posted 10/19/14
Yeah, it could harden them when it comes to authority.
698 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
36 / M
Offline
Posted 10/19/14 , edited 10/19/14
It has been widely established in psychology that punishment should be the harshest punishment considered appropriate every time, including the first. The reason is that a build up of punishment actually results in reduced impact at each successive stage. If you are going to use corporal punishment it must be consistent, appropriate, and the first response for the infraction. I only use corporal punishment with my child when she does something that endangers her safety or someone else's. It is not sufficient to cause injury, but it does startle her and cause discomfort. She responds quickly and stops engaging in the unsafe behavior.

Other people frequently marvel at how well my daughter behaves. I can also usually get most children to behave very well, even when they have a behavioral disorder. Maybe I should try to sit down and systematize my methods for distribution? One key though is that you have to give children enough attention. If you do not they act out because it gets them attention, even if it is negative. A good blend of positive attention and responsible enforcement methods ensures good behavior far better than only one of the two. The amount and type of attention needed will vary based on the child, but it is easy to see when there isn't enough.

The worst criminal I ever had the misfortune to know personally never experienced corporal punishment. His father was even the prosecutor. He developed a drug habit and began robbing houses and burning them down in an attempt to hide any evidence. He got caught because authorities figured out that he had been using a pawn shop a county over to sell his ill-gotten gains and got his info there. Corporal punishment must be used carefully, consciously, and consistently or it may do more damage than good. That statement is true for any enforcement though. Do not use it in anger, do not use it frivolously, do not be inconsistent.
299 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
M / United States
Offline
Posted 10/19/14 , edited 10/19/14

LordDust wrote:

It has been widely established in psychology that punishment should be the harshest punishment considered appropriate every time, including the first. The reason is that a build up of punishment actually results in reduced impact at each successive stage. If you are going to use corporal punishment it must be consistent, appropriate, and the first response for the infraction. I only use corporal punishment with my child when she does something that endangers her safety or someone else's. It is not sufficient to cause injury, but it does startle her and cause discomfort. She responds quickly and stops engaging in the unsafe behavior.

Other people frequently marvel at how well my daughter behaves. I can also usually get most children to behave very well, even when they have a behavioral disorder. Maybe I should try to sit down and systematize my methods for distribution? One key though is that you have to give children enough attention. If you do not they act out because it gets them attention, even if it is negative. A good blend of positive attention and responsible enforcement methods ensures good behavior far better than only one of the two. The amount and type of attention needed will vary based on the child, but it is easy to see when there isn't enough.

The worst criminal I ever had the misfortune to know personally never experienced corporal punishment. His father was even the prosecutor. He developed a drug habit and began robbing houses and burning them down in an attempt to hide any evidence. He got caught because authorities figured out that he had been using a pawn shop a county over to sell his ill-gotten gains and got his info there. Corporal punishment must be used carefully, consciously, and consistently or it may do more damage than good. That statement is true for any enforcement though. Do not use it in anger, do not use it frivolously, do not be inconsistent.



Same story here, my parents always got compliments on how well I behaved in public and at family parties (I never did the crazy/stupid things my cousins did) and I've been spanked with a hand and belt, did it make a criminal out of me? Heavens no. On the other hand it taught me faster and I matured much earlier than the other kids in my mostly white neighborhood with me being the only Hispanic child in my elementary school, and one of the few in Jr. High since they are so spoiled by the smothering of nurturing of parents who don't know how to discipline their kids. Going through jr high and high school I'm always hearing other students complain of homework and yet never turn it in at all and complain at the end of the term about what can they do to bring it up to an A. They either get they're parents to complain for them until the teacher finally gives into the annoyance, or do stupid last-ditch homework assignments to salvage their grade.

Knowing where to draw the line between abuse and discipline is a skill every parent should learn but sadly gets out of hand too many times, hence the News Station reporting ANOTHER PARENT ABUSES CHILD THROUGH CORPORAL PUNISHMENT almost every other week. It either falls under or over.
One Punch Mod
85929 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
F / Boston-ish
Offline
Posted 1/1/16
New Year cleaning! Closing threads with no new posts since 2014.
First  Prev  1  2  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.