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Talking with your parents about sex
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24 / F / Johnstown, PA, USA
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I never had "The Talk," but we're pretty open about the topic. I didn't need "The Talk." My childhood dog was never neutered, and I lived for several years where there were alot of stray and non-fixed cats, so... Yeah. Also, my older sister used to talk to me about her romances, I watched nature documentaries, and I've been reading adult-oriented books since I was in fifth grade. By the time I attended Sex Ed. in my Junior year, I was essentially yawning throughout class. My big sister's stories were enough to keep me frigid throughout school, aside from my innate disinterest. From her, I learned what not to do.
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22 / F / Brampton, ON
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My parents have NEVER mentioned sex - not even remotely. They're devout Muslims so the "sex talk" would just never happen.
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23 / M / AZ
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We never had the talk because I learned everything from Mexican soap operas. Sometimes we do talk about certain family members who have ruined their lives by making poor sexual decisions.
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No I rarely have any talk about sex with mother. She presented us with two books on the topic, one for girls that she gave to us and one for boys that bro got. We all read them both. I though the books were ridiculous. We'd got the books when I was 8. Mother isn't the kind of person I'd call maternal minded, you always felt like talking to a brick wall on most subjects. She is suited in her role of being a pillar of the community just don't ask her to be nurturing to her offspring. She did say we were better off than her because she thought she was dying when she first got her period. No one had told her anything. Adults talked in code when they were discussing sex stuff. One great aunt mentioned that she'd over heard someone say they hadn't seen uncle Henry in over a month but she knew there was no such person as uncle Henry. That was code for periods being late, maybe a pregnancy. Mother got told to go to corner shop and ask for "biscuits", she did, she got a soft packet that didn't feel like biscuits. Her mother opened the packet and told her to put on these in her undies whenever bleeding happens. When she was grown she asked her mother why she'd never been told about the facts of life. Grandmother, her mother's reply was that the facts of life were;
"Electricity bill
water rates
taxes
house keeping bills"

What the OP's mother said about the girl was awful. I'd be thinking so that means his mother admits she herself is ugly too because she is a mother which didn't happen without sex. The girl may or may not have health problems which doesn't necessarily have to be related to certain lifestyles. No wonder there was Awkwardness.
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haha no
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16 / F / Connecticut
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It has never happened, but if my parents actually want to talk about it (I don't), they have 4 years to do so. I don't think they'll ever go too into detail about it, since I probably won't get laid 'til I'm married.
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26 / F / Boston
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Sex was never discussed in our house. Sometimes it's like the elephant in the room--especially during movies growing up. If anything sexual came on tv while my mother or father was in the room I immediately made a dash for the door. So awkward.
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I am pretty sure my dad would much rather think of me as an asexual being (not to be confused with being asexually oriented) and that I'll bring him grandkids by the process of mitosis xD

Never had the sex talk with either of my parents though. Back in Mexico we tackled human reproduction in Biology around middle school so I guess she already knew I was going to learn about it and didn't bother with it??

I love my parents and we communicate great, its just that one topic (sex) gets avoided like the plague I guess xDD hahaha I was never one of the girls that were into boys (still not really one of them haha just have other things to focus at the moment ^-^) either so I bet she didn't feel the need to have the conversation due to that. Oh well -le shrug-
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HAHAHAHAHAHA.

No. My mom never gave me the talk when I was growing up. I didn't get it at school either. I only got it...From "around" I guess. Anyway, my mom and I do not talk about the taboo subject. No...Just no o_O
Posted 10/19/14

DarkFrostX wrote:

For me, I felt lucky to have such a relationship with at least one of my parents, but some people act as if their parents are the enemies on this topic, so it's strange for someone like me to understand their discomfort. lol


Same here. I love my mom a lot (I'm not ashamed to admit that I'm a mama's girl) so when people talk about their parents as if they don't care I feel weird.

Having said that, when I was younger my mom only told me not to believe everything the boys said because they only wanted sex lol we never really had a serious talk about it but she used to give my brothers condoms and tell them to use them if they ever lose their heads

I never felt the need to ask her anything though...I learned everything in high school (with friends...not in class).
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22 / M / Norway
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Posted 10/19/14
In my family that shit is worse than taboo.
I think i would rather go naked around the streets than bringing it up...
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Never, never gonna happen.

Not even when you chase me down.
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25 / M / United States
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Posted 10/19/14
I feel sad for everyone who doesn't share the kind of open relationship with their parents enough to discuss things with them. I mean it would be weird if there were conversations on a regular basis that got into in depth detail such as positions and things, but just casually making jokes and talking about things, not abnormal or weird at all.

I remember about 2 weeks after my first time I told my dad and after asking me if I was smart enough to be protected he gave me a high five lol then it went to a serious conversation about not being a player and being aware of other feelings that are at play. I remember when my mom went through my phone and found some dirty pics of my gf at the time and just laughed and said so this is how my mom felt when she found a pic of your dad wearing nothing but a cowboy hat

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15 / F / USA
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Posted 10/19/14
Noooo. My mom tries to bring up the topic sometimes, but I get the fuck out of there before she can.
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